Devious Auntie influencing elderly Grandfather

suki1001

You don't know whether she's doing anything. there appears to be a lot of assumptions being made.

She's involved with him looks after him. You say your aunt has pushed people out, but I wonder if she simply has far more time for him.

Incidentally, I learnt my my Grandmother was very good at changing her story and being economical about the truth, which meant relatives ended up with unfair views of people.

I organised my grandmother's care after it became apparent she couldn't cope and asked me to sort it. It seemed like her own sister in laws weren't bothered, she laid out a very convincing story. She was ill and it was only by chance I found out her sister in laws were very upset that she wanted to leave without telling them and she had pushed them away by making up lots of excuses. Can you imagine what they'd have said about me if i hadn't have found out - it would have looked like I'd have dragged her away. Don't assume it's your Auntie who's the manipulative one. Fortunately I also have some very understanding family - which came in handy when I had to explain to my dad he hadn't been left anything. Even though we offered to give him something, he wouldn't accept it. She was very good at the conspiracy theories and her illness at the end made her think all sorts of strange things.

She also had a penchant for wanting to discuss her will and who she'd left things too - I didn't want to know.

Having worked in care, the common thing was for elderly people to moan about how awful their family were and say they weren't bothered. It wasn't always true, but imagine there are several possibilities for why your family are getting the impression they are.

Finally consider that this is also of the Grandfathers doing, because by having your auntie running around, he has one person who is looking after him, doing the running around, a true constant - that is a really great thing for an elderly relative to have, not everyone has that. I'd imagine it's better than someone calling in once a week for a cup of tea.