Adoption

Darlyd

Feel free to go through my past threads BUT it aint gunna stop me from wanting to adopt. Poor poor kids in the world lacking a loving family, makes me so sad.

From Going through a tough labour with my youngest (female who is 5) to now I still crave that new edition, I love kids I want another one running me riot BUT ss have said no to us as we have them involved because of my eldest (female who is 13 going through diagnoses right now, perhaps ADHD). Where do we go from here?

So many little kids craving/needing a loving family and we have a spare room as well as love etc to give.

We also work full time each (DH runs a warehouse I am studying to be a nurse) BUT I can cut my hours..

So much to give..

I even been looking at websites (who want money to register an interest) in china/korea.

We want a little thing annoying us whether an unwanted boy or girl, don't matter we have a lot to give. BUT HOW?

help..

Alikay

Find some other way to fill that void: From reading your other posts, you know it's not sensible.

Spamfree_2

Get yourself a dog.

Caroline_a

With the issues that you have had with your oldest, would you not be better concentrating on the children you have rather than splitting your time, money and energy on a child that has possibly had issues it his or her life. You may cause more problems within your own family with jealousy, and cause your children to feel as if they 'weren't enough' for you.

Concentrate on your own family, your studies and your marriage. Yes there are many children who need so much, but you would never forgive yourself if adopting a new child drove your family apart.

Darlyd

We have 2 dogs.

I have read through my past embarrassing posts argh.

This is a serious post guys, we have so much to give, so many kids without loving familes. Come on...

Darlyd

Caroline_a wrote: »

With the issues that you have had with your oldest, would you not be better concentrating on the children you have rather than splitting your time, money and energy on a child that has possibly had issues it his or her life. You may cause more problems within your own family with jealousy, and cause your children to feel as if they 'weren't enough' for you.

Concentrate on your own family, your studies and your marriage. Yes there are many children who need so much, but you would never forgive yourself if adopting a new child drove your family apart.

We want another one serious, we have done nothing wrong apart from earning money and giving them everything some kids don't have.

My eldest has calmed down a lot, and our social worker has said she is doing well during puberty but knows because of their envolement (sp) they can not put us on their list but there are other ways (is how she left it).

We could have another child but that would put my life in danger, Maybe leave my other kids without a mother and why would I wanna do that when there are kids out there without families.

Caroline_a

You've missed my point. I am saying you have children and have had issues with your oldest. What is wrong with appreciating what you have, rather than pushing them on to a back burner in favour of a new child?

Spamfree_2

darlyd wrote: »

We want another one serious, we have done nothing wrong apart from earning money and giving them everything some kids don't have.

My eldest has calmed down a lot, and our social worker has said she is doing well during puberty but knows because of their envolement (sp) they can not put us on their list but there are other ways (is how she left it).

We could have another child but that would put my life in danger, Maybe leave my other kids without a mother and why would I wanna do that when there are kids out there without families.

Wouldn't it be incredibly selfish to bring another child into the mix after reading some of the posts about your eldest?

Darlyd

Spamfree wrote: »

Wouldn't it be incredibly selfish to bring another child into the mix after reading some of the posts about your eldest?

Not selfish but thinking of other kids who without people like us will grow up in care homes, maybe abused and un happy.

My DH was adopted if that helps...

Eldest is up for a new sibling if that helps...

Spamfree_2

darlyd wrote: »

Not selfish but thinking of other kids who without people like us will grow up in care homes, maybe abused and un happy.

My DH was adopted if that helps...

Eldest is up for a new sibling if that helps...

Yes, it is selfish. Some of her behaviour seems out of control, what if you got a child who had had a chaotic homelife and needed a quiet life but had to deal with massive kick offs? To knowingly bring a child into that is selfish.

londonsurrey

Why don't you sponsor a child and/or volunteer in a mentoring scheme?