Buying someones lunch - Not the done thing....

Azari

junkmayle wrote: »

I doubt you will hear from the OP again. Did it really happen?

I wondered whether it was one of these 'one-trick' gimmick accounts but the poster registered in 2008 and has over a thousand posts.

They have not been back since posting but not everyone checks the site daily.

Pollycat

Azari wrote: »

I wondered whether it was one of these 'one-trick' gimmick accounts but the poster registered in 2008 and has over a thousand posts.

They have not been back since posting but not everyone checks the site daily.

I agree.

I can't see anything in the original post that suggests it's a wind-up.

Tygermoth

Hi all,

Sorry for the delay in coming back

1, It was a vent so i didnt expect any responses

2, Manic week where washing machines broke down, work dramas and family issues.

I am very sorry to say the establishment was in a city i dont normaly frequent and i can not remember the name. I dug franticaly through my purse for the bill but could not find it.

The place was in Oxford near the corner of the high street in a kind of cut through. It had decking on to the pavement with umbrellas and patio heaters. It was a modern/wood interior with the till on the right as you go in. (anyone able to deduce its name from this discription?)

Hope that helps, Sorry.

(The guy was shabby, not to clean but not filty/smelly either - he did not have a dog)

marywooyeah

that's so out of order of them I bet the poor guy was mortified! did his meal not get paid for then if they wouldn't take your money?

I hope this one bad experience won't put you off helping the less fortunate in future OP you're clearly a nice person.

MothballsWallet

Mindless_Clone wrote: »

You could just tweet them a link to this thread with the words "shocking discrimination" next to it (or something similar).

Yes, thank you - I've only started using Twitter fairly recently, so I forgot about that idea

goater78 wrote: »

The op was buying him a meal. I doubt he could return that for money

Well, I can think of one way he could return it, but it's debatable whether any monies would be refunded :eek:

meritaten wrote: »

yes, it is far better to buy someone a meal than give money to some of the 'big' charities. just look up their annual statements and see how much money goes on 'salaries', advertising, corporate 'events', even hospitality! very little of your money actually reaches the people/animals it is intended for.
so, go on OP - name and shame!

I know that the NSPCC is one charity that gets money from the government (from our taxes) and then uses it to lobby the government - I can't remember if Shelter does the same/a similar thing.

Hoof_Hearted

You do need to check out your charities carefully. I wouldn't give to these:

"The College of Law, a charity which provides legal education, has defended the £440,000 salary of its chief executive, Nigel Savage, and the £410,000 wage of its deputy chief executive Alan Humphreys.

If follows criticism in the Telegraph this month, of the salaries of John Belcher, chief executive of housing charity Anchor, who received £391,000 in 2009 and David Cowans, chief executive of housing charity Places for People who earned £297,000 in the same year."

missminx

goater78 wrote: »

They've always got a dog!

I think I would feel a lot safer (and less lonely) on the streets with a dog by my side...

mttylad

I too would rather buy a tramp etc a meal than give them some money.

Mossop93

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Thats what I do too, and doggy chews for the dog they usually have too. Tend to buy them hot drinks in the winter too.

Well done for trying to be a good guy OP, shame the place made you feel bad about it.

Me too!

I'm currently loved by several of the homeless men around me (and their dogs) for bringing them some lunch, some water and usually a few cigarettes and some dog food and treats too.

In fact at christmas I went down to their tent and took them some christmas dinner. They're so lovely and have stood up for me in the street several times when rude people have upset me.

For example accused of stealing someones purse because she left it in the supermarket so I bought it out to her! The homeless men kicked off and said I wasn't like that, Manager came out to deal with it and ended up checking with the woman who'd served me (told him which till I'd been at) and sure enough I wasn't a thief and she was just rude. People don't realise how sweet they truly are and how useless the job centre is!!

They barely get enough to live on (as not having a fridge etc they have to buy food daily) and can't get work due to needing an address for that. The council and job centre just ask if they have a tent and leave it at that :@:@ if I had space I'd probably rent them a room for a bit until they can get a place lol

meritaten

ThumbRemote wrote: »

If you have details of specific big charities where "very little of your money actually reaches the people/animals it is intended for" then please name them, otherwise don't try and give all charities an unwarranted bad name.

no problem - Go and look at the RSPCA annual report.