Can anyone help please?

mazza111

I think that's where a lot of people misunderstand those of us on ESA. Especially those who are single, under 25 with no children. Yes DLA makes it more comfortable for those who are entitled to it, but not everyone who's on ESA gets DLA.

mikey_bach

Have things changed for the better or worse,
once upon a time the man was the main breadwinner, things are more equal now thank goodness

his partner is sick and unable to work but he has the chance to get out and work to support them all.....

but no lets weigh it all up first then choose, unbelievable...
why work if it means I will be slightly worse off
where is the pride?

Spamfree_2

mikey_bach wrote: »

Have things changed for the better or worse,
once upon a time the man was the main breadwinner, things are more equal now thank goodness

his partner is sick and unable to work but he has the chance to get out and work to support them all.....

but no lets weigh it all up first then choose, unbelievable...
why work if it means I will be slightly worse off
where is the pride?

There is no pride anymore, benefits are chosen first and foremost. But it won't continue like that.

If someone is struggling on £56 a week running a home, they should look at something shared or see if they can go back to parents.

Scarz9000

Sorry in the delay in posting back.

My partner is in the support group.

As for the replys about why I said if I take the job, i should just take it even if I am worse of. I can't do that. I have my partner and twins to care for, so will have nursery costs, need to find a carer for my partner etc. My partner has a complete mental breakdown after giving birth and was sectioned for several weeks where I received nothing other than the child benefit and tax credits. I don't want to be in this position claiming benefits. I'd rather no money at all and a healthy partner I had before her breakdown back.

I do feel ashamed I'm on benefits, had to ask advice. I would never choose to sit on benefits.

Anyway I managed to speak to some friends and they are happy to help with the babies and my partner and I took the job. I would have found a way to do something but maybe if I didn't have the support it would have needed to have been less hours.

Anyway thank you for the advice

perthperson

Don't feel ashamed you're on benefits.

There's people here who, for some reason, haven't managed to pick up yet that this section of the board is for advice, not moralising and making ill informed judgements. Easy to pick on people here who don't feel able to argue back.

Points like those made in reply belong on the discussions board.

mazza111

Scarz she wouldn't have lost the ESA for that matter. Glad you took the job, there's always more pride in earning a quid.

Spamfree talk sense. You are totally clueless. Do you realise that parents have had to downsize when their offspring leave home? I know, it happened to us. Not that I could have my daughter back, she couldn't manage my stairs. How dare I live in a house and not have been able to foresee that my daughter would end up in the state that she's in!!! At the moment, she's in a ground floor council flat, that she got allocated because no one else wanted it. Spent a small fortune getting it in good decor (when she was working I may add). Then was struck down by a disability. Now she can manage her breakfast(cereal) and lunch (sandwich), I take her dinner down to her every day because she can't stand and cook. So don't tell me she'd be better off in a shared flat, actually, do tell me, why she should need to give up everything she's worked so hard to get because she's unable to work any more.


A shared private house would be no cheaper than a council flat.

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mazza111 wrote: »

Scarz she wouldn't have lost the ESA for that matter. Glad you took the job, there's always more pride in earning a quid.

Spamfree talk sense. You are totally clueless. Do you realise that parents have had to downsize when their offspring leave home? I know, it happened to us. Not that I could have my daughter back, she couldn't manage my stairs. How dare I live in a house and not have been able to foresee that my daughter would end up in the state that she's in!!! At the moment, she's in a ground floor council flat, that she got allocated because no one else wanted it. Spent a small fortune getting it in good decor (when she was working I may add). Then was struck down by a disability. Now she can manage her breakfast(cereal) and lunch (sandwich), I take her dinner down to her every day because she can't stand and cook. So don't tell me she'd be better off in a shared flat, actually, do tell me, why she should need to give up everything she's worked so hard to get because she's unable to work any more.


A shared private house would be no cheaper than a council flat.

Gosh, someone is a little defensive.


It's called cutting one's cloth accordingly, people who work have to do it, why shouldn't people who have the state keeping them have to do it as well?

mazza111

No go ahead and explain to me how shared housing would be cheaper for my dd. I'm sure she'd be willing to try it.

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mazza111 wrote: »

No go ahead and explain to me how shared housing would be cheaper for my dd. I'm sure she'd be willing to try it.

It is your job, not mine to guide your daughter in life.

But for starters, the bills would be shared would they not?

mazza111

Bills are minimal in her flat.... Carry on. You're the one who thinks it could be done cheaper. If she moved into a private rented flat it would be more expensive for rent. So that would negate that saving. Any other worldly advice there?

And no doubt she should have to give up her low cost council accommodation to take a higher priced shared place... Not to mention what she's already spent on it. What would she do with her furniture she has purchased to go into a shared property? What would she do with her cat? PTS? Remember none of us know what's round the corner. It could happen to you tomorrow.