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Landlord frequently turning up unannounced.....
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I agree he is obviously lonely and bored, why else would he drive 36 miles to tell me the roses might need dead heading soon and ask me if I have swept the path today, and have I been recycling properly, and to ask where I bought my wild bird food and how often did I feed them and have I been polishing the letterbox frequently and ............................... all the time walking round the outside of the house, peering into the windows and commenting on my housekeeping skills.
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My suggestions
1. Tell them, firmly but politely, that their behaviour is not acceptable. I agree with the other comments about phrases as "not convenient" - clearly the subtle approach isn't working, so be direct.
2. If they are acting on behalf of the LL, send the LL a letter and tell them about their agent/family/friend/company pervert's unacceptable behaviour. And then tell them you expect it to stop.
3. If this person keeps on asking unwelcome questions, tell them. And if you want to wind them up and maybe get your own back, get a little notebook and write their questions down, and explain to them it's a list of things that are none of their business. They'll not like that.If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything0 -
I have been following this thread. Is there an update OP?Striving to clear the mortgage before it finishes in Dec 2028 - amount currently owed - £24,616.090
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Abbafan1972 wrote: »I have been following this thread. Is there an update OP?
well we haven't seen him in nearly 2 weeks now, but that is because he is away visiting a friend so isn't close enough to pop round, it has been nice though to feel more relaxed but my daughter still shuts all the curtains and bolts the doors if she is left alone here as she is still terrified he'll just turn up.
We are hoping that as we have been here for 6 weeks now, and he's not managed to find out anything negative about us during his intensive snooping he will leave us alone. The whole thing has been really upsetting tho, he treats us like unwanted squatters, or rowdy students, expecting us to trash the house and be anti-social, when we are just regular middle-aged parents who own a business and spend our evenings watching The Big Bang Theory and alphabetising our dvd collection!
There is no shame in not knowing; the shame lies in not finding out.0 -
spend our evenings watching The Big Bang Theory and alphabetising our dvd collection!
This isn't good enough! The dvd collection MUST be kept in alphabetical order at all times.
BTW, how old is your daughter? Sorry she's got this problem, as well as all the issues that go with moving home.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
This isn't good enough! The dvd collection MUST be kept in alphabetical order at all times.
BTW, how old is your daughter? Sorry she's got this problem, as well as all the issues that go with moving home.
the problem is we have about 1000 dvds/games etc and they got unalphabetised during the move, and it took us a while to realphabetise them and our 3yr old son finds it hilarious to dealphabetise them when our back is turned (he prefers to sort by colour and genre) ...............
Our daughter is 16, a neighbour where we used to live turned out to be a !!!!!phile (he was convicted and is now in prison) and he tried grooming her and other worse stuff (police were involved and it was a very difficult time for all of us), she now is very nervous around strange men, especially ones who turn up and stare at her through windows etc (like !!!!! did). We partly moved here to get far away from all the bad memories of our last house, and so although I do not believe this man is also inclined towards young girls, the general unwanted snooping and poking about is very upsetting. We just wanted to put all that bad stuff behind us and this has brought her feelings back of being watched and feeling vulnerable. She isn't often alone as I mainly work from home and she works in my shop but sometimes I need to go out and she stays in to look after the dogs and has a day off.There is no shame in not knowing; the shame lies in not finding out.0 -
Have you written to your landlord about their "agent's" most unwelcome attention yet? Just because he's away at the moment doesn't mean he won't leave you alone once he's back0
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We partly moved here to get far away from all the bad memories of our last house, and so although I do not believe this man is also inclined towards young girls, the general unwanted snooping and poking about is very upsetting. We just wanted to put all that bad stuff behind us and this has brought her feelings back of being watched and feeling vulnerable.
Given that history, I'm surprised you've been so tolerant of this man's behaviour!0 -
Our daughter is 16, a neighbour where we used to live turned out to be a !!!!!phile (he was convicted and is now in prison) and he tried grooming her and other worse stuff (police were involved and it was a very difficult time for all of us), she now is very nervous around strange men, especially ones who turn up and stare at her through windows etc (like !!!!! did). We partly moved here to get far away from all the bad memories of our last house, and so although I do not believe this man is also inclined towards young girls, the general unwanted snooping and poking about is very upsetting. We just wanted to put all that bad stuff behind us and this has brought her feelings back of being watched and feeling vulnerable. She isn't often alone as I mainly work from home and she works in my shop but sometimes I need to go out and she stays in to look after the dogs and has a day off.
That's really terrible, and I'm so sorry to hear that.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
It's been quite a while now and how are things going?
(I had to search for "nosey landlord" in order to get this thread up!)Striving to clear the mortgage before it finishes in Dec 2028 - amount currently owed - £24,616.090
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