Moving in together,but is it love?

Missli

If you have to ask that question, most definitely no. For me, would be no whatever, as enjoying freedom (although am in a relationship), after years of not being so. Its good to be independent whilst in a committed relationship. Works for me anyway.

I'm puzzled at your motives for asking, as is obvious, surely?

Saturnalia

What is the question you're asking? Is it "would you move in knowing that you didn't love them?" (in which case no and I hope I'd have ended the relationship before it got to the possibility-of-living-together phase if I didn't love him.)

Or are you asking "does this person wanting to live with me, have children etc with me, prove he loves me?" My answer: not necessarily, and if you're questioning his love and his motives, keep your own place!

steveproxy

Absolutely NO . .

GeeBee38

no way, not a chance

lowlitmemory

I agree with Saturnalia... I wouldn't move in with someone and take on commitments such as children unless I loved someone.

But people DO do it, and just because a partner has moved in with you etc it does not 'prove' that they love you. They may be doing it for convenience, because it suits them, because they benefit financially, or for some other reason.

System

I think the answer to this is 'are you happy to settle for second best?'

Acc72

cloverfan wrote: »

Would you move in with someone and take on their children and make commitments like getting a dog together if you didn't love them?

Is this some kind of riddle ? - Why don't you just ask the question you want to ask ?

peachyprice

cloverfan wrote: »

Would you move in with someone and take on their children and make commitments like getting a dog together if you didn't love them?

Nope, it's not fair to the innocent parties, ie. the children or the dog.

NickyBat

Living together can be hard enough when you love someone let alone when you don't.

SnowyOwl_2

One of my friends is on the brink of doing this. He has already dumped her three times (while in a bad mood about something or other) but later taken her back. He has told her he doesn't trust her and that he thinks that she is using him. He's right there - she's after financial security and somebody to look after her, love doesn't come into it. She's "proving" how much she wants to be with him by agreeing to rent a house together. When she is single she says that she is a failure, so when she has a boyfriend then she will do virtually anything to keep him. He has treated her like dirt, and vice versa. They are as needy as each other IMO. It's a car crash waiting to happen. But what can I do other than say good luck? I've given her my opinion on the matter, and she didn't argue with me, but she's going ahead anyway.