Moving in together,but is it love?

CH27

No way!
It would be very cruel to all concerned.

Pollycat

I'm really confised about the OP's post.

The title is

Moving in together,but is it love?

which seems to indicate (at least to me) that the OP is not sure if he/she is in love or not.

But the post itself seems to be say they don't love the person but are still planning on moving in.

cloverfan wrote: »

Would you move in with someone and take on their children and make commitments like getting a dog together if you didn't love them?

Here's my questions:
Why are you moving in if you don't love them?
For securitty?
For financial reasons?
Are you waiting for something better to come along so you can then up sticks and leave your partner (and the children) in a mess?
Does your partner love you?
What on earth does a dog have to do with it?

I_wanna_live_for_free

cloverfan wrote: »

Would you move in with someone and take on their children and make commitments like getting a dog together if you didn't love them?

is your partner doubting that you love them? or are you having doubts about your relationship?

And no. Better to be single than in a pretend/one sided relationship.
Life is too short.

londonsurrey

cloverfan wrote: »

Would you move in with someone and take on their children and make commitments like getting a dog together if you didn't love them?

I wouldn't.

However, there are all kinds of people in this world, and just because someone does that, doesn't mean that they love the other person.

There are people who would do that because it's "easy" - it used to be known as "getting your feet under the kitchen table", typically a single mother(back when it was significantly harder for women to earn a comparable amount of money to men) with a little clutch of children - she would have a household that she ran reasonably well, and it's nice for a man to be able to have this ready made lodgings, sex, gratitude.

Love as we're sold in romantic stories does exist, but don't let that blind you to seeing a person for what they really are. They may not even know or acknowledge to themselves that they're taking the easy route.

So the proof of how committed a person is to you is not how much commitment they "allow" to happen, e.g. a dog or even a new baby, but how they act day to day, how they have acted in the past in previous relationships, and how they act when the going gets tougher.

raven83

Do you really need to know the answer to that question?

moneypuddle

No

(answer too short)

ellay864

No I wouldn't. But I know of some people who would and have done.

OP question reminds me very much of a friend of mine who's fella did just that and she was convinced he must love her as he'd done that. But the reality was that moving in with her gave him some security and financial benefits. He got what he wanted out the relationship while being less than 100% committed to the emotional investment. Eventually the truth dawned on her and they split but it cost her a lot in more ways than one

Alikay

If the question is "would you....etc?" No.
If the question is "it possible that someone would....etc?" Yes. Illogical, but these things do happen.

Li0nhead

Depends how rich the person i was moving in with was.

sweetme

Another no.