Moving in together,but is it love?

KiKi

I really don't understand the point of posts where people ask questions they a) already know the answer to and b) provide no context because they want to generate a specific response, and where c) the answer the question will be exactly the same from 99% of the population.

What's the point of it? I mean that sincerely, I'm not being facetious. Is it an attention / reassurance / I want people on my side thing?

KiKi

cottonhead

Only if I were the housekeeper / nanny ! If there is an emotional connection - you like the person or feel sorry for them or feel duty bound to care for them etc etc - but not strong enough that you still have doubts, then no.No way. Its horrid to have to back off and let someone down but imagine if you went along with it how much hurt would be caused to everyone further down the line. Stop before the damage is done. In fact if this is a romantic relationship we are talking about then you can still be in a relationship just dont live together. Then in future you can if you do become sure. Until then best not to get too far in and regret it later.

NickyBat

KiKi wrote: »

I really don't understand the point of posts where people ask questions they a) already know the answer to and b) provide no context because they want to generate a specific response, and where c) the answer the question will be exactly the same from 99% of the population.

What's the point of it? I mean that sincerely, I'm not being facetious. Is it an attention / reassurance / I want people on my side thing?

KiKi

And d) don't come back with a response.

kerrypn

From a purely practical point of view, I might do this actually.

But I wouldnt mislead the person into thinking it was something it wasn't- for example if I had a good male friend, single parent and I was a single parent, and living together woul make it easier in terms of childcare etc, then it is something I would consider but only if it benefited all concerned.

Maybe that is the question, would you mislead someone into thinking you loved them?

Otherwise I am very confused!