Weekly Flylady Thread 16th July 2012

Rowan_tree_2

Pigpen and Sammy - like Good Intentions - kick up the a@@e coming your way (for your OHs!).

What is it with OHs? I truly think that they just don't see what has to be done, don't see all the work, all the mess. I've got a nice fella now, but still am 'in charge' of organising household stuff as he just doesn't see it. And, Pigpen and Sammy, sorry to tell you, but even at 60 they are still playing games on phones, iPads etc while stuff lies all around them!

I used to shout, sulk, throw things, but over the years I've found that using a strict voice (!) and say loudly, 'you hover this and take the rubbish out', or what I want, 'while I'll clean that' and pass the vac over straight away, works! I still do most, as I'm certain most on here do, but at least he b@@@@y does a share!!

Good vibes to you and I hope you get some rest - and help - soon.

Off now to do my jobs and get the vac out for OH! See you after work. X

mrs-moneypenny

morning all, not caught up yet

Vanilla sending you strength and massive gentle hugs. ive not been on here long enough to know 'your history' but reading the recent posts you have tried more than hard enough, for a marriage to work you need trust and loyalty - it sounds as if you have been betrayed on both counts with these. there are some men who dont learn from their mistakes and think forgivness is a green light to carry on letting you and the children down. you deserve better than that. hold your head up high you have done nothing wrong i would see a solicitor and seriously look at you and the children going back to YOUR HOME
if people want to talk let them they will probally only be saying they dont know how you stood it for so long and that you always were too good for him. HUGS

Dusty you have my sympathies as well, carry on avoiding those phone calls, when mine were younger because i work in a school "and get all summer to laze about with nothing to do" a working 'friend' thought that meant i was her free childminder so i regularly had her two to amuse for days on end. it is not fun or fair and the reason i work in a school is so i get the same hols as MY kids and can spend some time with them. pretty sure your reasons are the same.

right off to look at the lists and read back a bit further but i wanted to say special morning to you two as i read your posts on this page

hollyh

Morning all,

Welcome Sammy.

Massive hugs Vanilla, just take things one step at a time and you will get there. :mad::mad::mad: at KH!

It's the summer holidays already for Ds2 and i still have to work so am trying to think of a way of fitting it all in. I think i'm going to do dailies and 1 room in the morning, work for a bit, go out with Ds2, do an extra from my list, work for a bit more, sort tea & all evening dailies and then work work work. I very much doubt it will work out like that but i'll give it a go.

So today i want to

Tuesday - Living Room, Hall & Stairs
Level One
Clear and hoover floors
Level Two
Hoover under any furniture you can safely move
Dust any electrical bits
Level Three
Clear a hotspot
Clean a window or 2
Extras
Empty all bins

My Extras
Find ML & redo
Rabbits x 1
Cat feed x 1
Collect laundry
Make beds
S&S Bathroom
[STRIKE]
Sweep kitchen & dining room
[/STRIKE]Washing
Drying
Put away
Wash up x 1
Tidy living room
Cook tea
Sort recycling
Sort money
Clean rabbits
HHG
Clean car
Dinner money

pigpen

Rowan_tree wrote: »

I used to shout, sulk, throw things, but over the years I've found that using a strict voice (!) and say loudly, 'you hover this and take the rubbish out', or what I want, 'while I'll clean that' and pass the vac over straight away, works! I still do most, as I'm certain most on here do, but at least he b@@@@y does a share!!

I tried that yesterday.. he was upstairs 'reading' and I had our dinner, dots dinner, 6 loads dry washing, 2 wet to hang out, dw to load table to find and DS3 to get bloods/insulin done... I used my 'mummy voice' and told him and asked if he was coming down soon.. he turned up 45 minutes later after I had done it all ate his dinner and went on WoW until 2am..

I've had 4 hours broken sleep he is in for a bumpy day! .. Swimming with Squeak for him later.. and I want the hedge mincing and the kitchen needs gutting!

pigpen

I have heaps to get through this week..

WM
TD
DW
Ring DSN
Ring solicitor
Charity shop the outgrown uniform... unless anyone is wanting age 6 school trousers for a small girl???

Monday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level One
wipe the work tops
Level Two
Wipe hob
Sweep and mop the floor
Level Three
Clear a hotspot

Tuesday - Living Room, Hall & Stairs ~ DONE

Wednesday - Bathroom & Study/Conservatory
Level One
Clear and hoover floors
Level Two
Give toilets a good scrub
Clean sinks, bath, shower, etc

Thursday - Master Bedroom & Landing
Level One
HHC floor clearance!
Level Two
Hoover bits of floor you can see
Strip, wash & replace bedding
Extras
Catch up on any phone calls

mrs-moneypenny

me again
for those of you disparing at the lack of help from children at least mine are honest this is the birthday card the three (still at home) got me black and white photo of 50's style woman with "Oh look" said mum with a hint of scarcasam "the house seems to have tided itself again"

first load on the line and another in the wm going to grab a coffeee and make a start on the lists

Kitchen and Dining Room
Wipe hob - will do after tea
HHI -only got a couple of items to do will wait till i have enough


Living Room, Hall & Stairs
[STRIKE]hoover stairs[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]sweep floor[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Dust any electrical bits[/STRIKE]
Clear table AGAIN


Bathroom & desk area
[STRIKE]mop bathroom floor[/STRIKE]
S&S toilet [STRIKE]sink & bath[/STRIKE]
Clear desk and dust desk


Thursday - Master Bedroom & Landing
Level One
HHC floor clearance!
Level Two
Hoover bits of floor you can see
Strip, wash & replace bedding
Level Three
Hoover mattress
Collect all washing from around the house
Sort out a box from underneath the bed or drawer, etc
Extras
Catch up on any phone calls
Catch up on any mending/sewing jobs -need to buy a zip at weekend

my own list for the week
pair or cull sock bag
start knitting a bunny for other twin - started
empty and mend upstairs bookcase - back has come loose
trim conifers
check scout camp kit list
fill in election register and post
sort jujistu paperwork - new agreement form for next term
file governors paperwork folder
tidy finished sewing stuff away
find homes for birthday pressies

ionafan

Take just one step at a time, Pigpen.

Don't run yourself into the ground. Give OH the toilet brush!

And keep loving your children as you so clearly do...
x

sammiell

Monday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level One
Clear and wipe the work tops
Level Two
Wipe hob
Hoover and mop the floor
Level Three
Wipe cupboard fronts/ drawers/kickboards, etc
Clean filters on TD/WM/DW
Clear a hotspot
Extras
Wipe and water plants
HHI

Tuesday - Living Room, Hall & Stairs
Level One
Clear and hoover floors
Level Two
Hoover under any furniture you can safely move
Dust any electrical bits
Level Three
Clear a hotspot
Clean a window or 2
Clear coffee table
Extras
HH Paperwork
Empty all bins

Wednesday - Bathroom & Study/Conservatory
Level One
Level Two
Level Three
Extras
HH me time


Thursday - Master Bedroom & Landing
Level One
Level Two
Strip, wash & replace bedding
Level Three
Extras
Catch up on any mending/sewing jobs

I need to sort,
new uniform got some in next sale
and tax credits
Ds birthday
visit fom Dn
B's birthday
P's bday
R's bday

hollyh

Washing up done and floors swept. I want to get in the shower but Ds2 is in the garden and i'm worried the crazy kitten will escape when he comes back in. I might clean the living room and then have a shower, just don't want to scare the postman anymore.:eek:

sammiell

Right upstairs is a bit better
why does my Dh have to leave the water in the bath everytime he's had one!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm going to sort out the kitchen, then make lasagne for tea next,will start at 11