Weekly Flylady Thread 16th July 2012

vanilla

Morning all been a busy night last night. I've decluttered a KH who i found out has been cheating on me with some t r a m p. :mad::mad::mad:
This person knows he was married and was also in my car up to no good with 4 child seats in the back, sooo classy.

So i'm now at my sisters with all the kids. I left because i just couldn't stomach looking at him and he told his parents after i left, result is they have told him to get out. Not sure if he had or not but PIL want me and kids back in the house but i honestly don't think i could go back and be the talk of the community.

So please any spare strengh vibes throw them my way.

amyloofoo

vanilla wrote: »

Morning all been a busy night last night. I've decluttered a KH who i found out has been cheating on me with some t r a m p. :mad::mad::mad:
This person knows he was married and was also in my car up to no good with 4 child seats in the back, sooo classy.

So i'm now at my sisters with all the kids. I left because i just couldn't stomach looking at him and he told his parents after i left, result is they have told him to get out. Not sure if he had or not but PIL want me and kids back in the house but i honestly don't think i could go back and be the talk of the community.

So please any spare strengh vibes throw them my way.

Oh Vanilla :grouphug:

It's horrible and I'm sure things feel really bad at the moment, but from the sounds of it you've 'decluttered' the most toxic influence in your life for yourself and the kids :mad:. The sort of people who would cheat in full knowledge of hurting the spouse and children (and with child seats in the car :eek:) are not worth your concern. It's really positive that PIL are happy for you to go back to the house and are taking 'your side' (really childish way of putting it, but I'm not feeling very articulate this morning). If I were you I'd go back there, if only for continuity for the kids; anyone in the local community who feels you're a talking point has waaay too much time on their hands and clearly doesn't understand the situation - if they say anything I'd make them aware of the FULL facts then walk away. This should be uncomfortable for your ex, not you.

pigpen

Vanilla... just don't be daft enough to take him back this time.. you have done far more for him than anyone could expect of any sane person. Huge hugs for you and the children and the fleas of 1000 camels infest his personal (or apparently not-so personal!) parts..

Small evil baby had had me up half the night, I have scraped maybe 4 hours sleep so am fit to murder everyone today... Dot woke me then OH woke me then the movement alarm went off then Dot woke at 6 and is still screaming.. I want to sedate her, I just want to cry I am so tired. She is now shrieking at the cat.

OH went 'upstairs to read' yesterday dinner time while I was trying to fold 6 loads of washing get 2 loads on the line feed Dot and get our dinner on and do the WMs and DW ... I am so fed up of trying to do everything myself, it seems everything is a spectator sport!

vanilla

Thanks guys and believe me Pigpen no going back this time, just wish i hadn't bother last year. I did find out it was him that did all the chasing, i have to laugh he told her the years had been kind, she's 23..:rotfl:

Amy if he's gone i might go back to the house, i'm to ring PIL at 9 to see whats happening.

Flying wise if he is out of the house his stuff will be chucked so lots of decluttering will be going on. :rotfl:

bonnie_bumpkins

((((((((((vanilla))))))))))

That man :mad: you are a saint to have got this far :A

Well said amyloofoo. Gather your strength at your sisters then when you are ready you can go home with your head held high. Always remember you are an amazing person with wonderful children and be proud.

Sending oodles of strong coping vibes to you, and hugs of course. Take care honey xx

vanilla

Thanks Bonnie, i'm near in tears with all the support i've always got from you lovely ladies. Thank you all :beer: I did also take my bottle of champers that KH bought me for my 30 and i enjoyed every last drop of it last night. :rotfl:

Right i'm going to waken the little ones and get them fed and see how they are, they know it all..:(

sammy_kaye18

vanilla wrote: »

Morning all been a busy night last night. I've decluttered a KH who i found out has been cheating on me with some t r a m p. :mad::mad::mad:
This person knows he was married and was also in my car up to no good with 4 child seats in the back, sooo classy.

So i'm now at my sisters with all the kids. I left because i just couldn't stomach looking at him and he told his parents after i left, result is they have told him to get out. Not sure if he had or not but PIL want me and kids back in the house but i honestly don't think i could go back and be the talk of the community.

So please any spare strengh vibes throw them my way.

The word S K A N K comes to mind when you mentioned the 4 car seats. Wanted to send you lots of hugs hun , My mum did the same to my father when I was young and at 15 I was old enough to understand it all, the best thing my dad ever did was walk away (it was my mum who cheated) he is now happily remarried and possibly the happiest Ive ever seen him. All the strength in the world hun and Im not entirely sure whats gone on in the past but stand tall and strong because it was his wrong doing not yours. xxxxxx

pigpen wrote: »

Vanilla

Small evil baby had had me up half the night, I have scraped maybe 4 hours sleep so am fit to murder everyone today... Dot woke me then OH woke me then the movement alarm went off then Dot woke at 6 and is still screaming.. I want to sedate her, I just want to cry I am so tired. She is now shrieking at the cat.

OH went 'upstairs to read' yesterday dinner time while I was trying to fold 6 loads of washing get 2 loads on the line feed Dot and get our dinner on and do the WMs and DW ... I am so fed up of trying to do everything myself, it seems everything is a spectator sport!

Pigpen are you sure we don't share a household? Owen sits on the computer either looking at ebay, muscle building powders or watching men work out on youtube or playing Angry Birds....although if he doesn't start helping he will have an angry bird of all his own!
I managed to yesterday get shower myself, bath and wash the kids, dress them, do the school run in the rain, get mine and the babys hair cut, do the washing, hang the clothes out, clean the bathroom, get to the shop and back, cook 3 different lunches, and shine the sink in the time it took him to get off the computer and get dressed

my friends actually are at the stage that they refer to me as a single parent household and Owen is just a lodger as he never does anything with us as a family - its always me and the kids together.

I also feel your pain on the lack of sleep. For the last two months Ive had insomnia and my panic attacks have returned (ive been suffering with them on and off since I was 15) but the doctor is reluctant to put me on anything with two small children so for the last two months Ive been up every morning between 4 - 4.30am. :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: hence also the reason there is only one mirror in the entire house and its in the bathroom!

pigpen

We could well be Sammy.. I've been up since 6 with miss screech and he is still in bed.. I want to slap him senseless.. why should he be in bed while I listen to this evil noise?.. and now the girls are squabbling... I did leave my phone up there with the alarm set for 7:30... and it goes off every other minute.. hahaha! Mine has discovered some different stupid game on his phone he is constantly on.. if it wasn't so expensive to replace and I know he would have a new one within a couple of days I drown the damn thing, he is like having an extra teenager in the house.. tantrums and flounces included!

j.e.j.

Morning :wave:

JoJo you could maybe try another Bosch iron? They seem to be a pretty good reliable make, though I've not tried their irons. Think mine's just a Morphy Richards or sth from Argos :rotfl:

So, Bedroom day today. I've just managed to rip the mattress cover so need to get a new one. I've put the torn one in to wash, not sure if that was a good idea or not :undecided Think that one was a bit too cheap. I got it for under a fiver in Primark a few months ago and the bit round the side is made of this paper-thin fabric that tears easily. Anyway so will need to look out for another one which'll fit a deep mattress.. Anyone know of somewhere I could get a reasonable quality one for not too much money?

sorry to hear the bad news vanilla. stay strong.

amyloofoo

Monday - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level One
[STRIKE]Clear and wipe the work tops[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wipe hob[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Hoover and mop the floor[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe cupboard fronts/ drawers/kickboards, etc[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Clean filters on TD/WM/DW[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Clear a hotspot[/STRIKE]
Extras
[STRIKE]Wipe and water plants[/STRIKE]
HHI

Tuesday - Living Room, Hall & Stairs
Level One
[STRIKE]Clear and hoover floors[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Hoover under any furniture you can safely move[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Dust any electrical bits[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clear a hotspot[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Clean a window or 2[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Clear coffee table[/STRIKE]
Extras
HH Paperwork
[STRIKE]Empty all bins[/STRIKE]

Wednesday - Bathroom & Study/Conservatory
Level One
[STRIKE]Clear and hoover floors[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Give toilets a good scrub[/STRIKE]
Clean sinks, bath, shower, etc
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wash bath mats, shower curtains, etc[/STRIKE]
Clear desk and dust
Delete unwanted emails
Extras
[STRIKE]HH me time[/STRIKE] Zumba!
HHI

Thursday - Master Bedroom & Landing
Level One
HHC floor clearance!
Level Two
Hoover bits of floor you can see
Strip, wash & replace bedding
Level Three
Hoover mattress and wipe bed frame
Collect all washing from around the house
Sort out a box from underneath the bed or drawer, etc
Extras
Catch up on any phone calls
Catch up on any mending/sewing jobs

Time to crack on with today's tasks :eek: