baby advice feeding question..

Nicki

mildred1978 wrote: »

Okay, okay, I get it. You love the women who tell you exactly how to care for your child. I expect it saves you the hassle of thinking for yourself.

You really have a problem with accepting when you are wrong don't you :rotfl::rotfl:

Had you actually read the thread, you will see that I fed my last baby in a BLW fashion from 6 months. so no I didnt need anyine to tell me exactly how to look after any one of my three children, thanks. However, I was happy to point the OP in the direction she had asked, not ram my own views repeatedly down her throat when she had told you numerous times previously that this was not how she wanted to go. There are numerous ways to wean a child, and bring children up, and no one poster, even you, has all the answers for all the children in the world.

Whilst on the subject of thinking for myself when bringing up children though, I'd like to point out that I, and almost every other mum on this board, know to use medications with extreme care, and would not consider for one tenth of a nano second for example dosing up a toddler for several nights consecutively with any form of OTC medication, so that he did not disturb the sleep of a relative on a visit. Or not to put a tired toddler to bed until after midnight because I was not a morning person and couldnt be assed to get out of bed early in the morning to look after them. Or any number of the dubious parening practices at least one parent who thinks for herself adopts.

mildred1978

Nicki wrote: »

You really have a problem with accepting when you are wrong don't you :rotfl::rotfl:

Had you actually read the thread, you will see that I fed my last baby in a BLW fashion from 6 months. so no I didnt need anyine to tell me exactly how to look after any one of my three children, thanks.

Yes, I spotted that when I read back. BLW flies in the face of AK and GF, which is what confused me.

Nicki wrote: »

However, I was happy to point the OP in the direction she had asked, not ram my own views repeatedly down her throat when she had told you numerous times previously that this was not how she wanted to go. There are numerous ways to wean a child, and bring children up, and no one poster, even you, has all the answers for all the children in the world.

I, and others, provided the OP with a lot of advice, which happened to be around BLW, way before she decided to say that she didn't like it.

The fact that no 2 children/parents/situations are the same is exactly why I dislike AK and GF. My husband and I have been involved in child feeding in many countries around the world and have used that experience to make our own parenting decisions.

Nicki wrote: »

Whilst on the subject of thinking for myself when bringing up children though, I'd like to point out that I, and almost every other mum on this board, know to use medications with extreme care, and would not consider for one tenth of a nano second for example dosing up a toddler for several nights consecutively with any form of OTC medication, so that he did not disturb the sleep of a relative on a visit.

Here we go. I asked for advice, because I was concerned about the effect of my son's wakefulness on a very elderly, extremely poorly relative. My son has had less than 6 tsps of calpol/nurofen in his 26 months, and I took advice on board and managed that situation without the need of drugs. Plenty of people on this forum are happy to suggest drugging children prior to flights with piriton - I hope you are as vehement on those.

Nicki wrote: »

Or not to put a tired toddler to bed until after midnight because I was not a morning person and couldnt be assed to get out of bed early in the morning to look after them. Or any number of the dubious parening practices at least one parent who thinks for herself adopts.

Oh please. If you're going to make such accusations, you should at least try to get the facts right. My son sleeps when he is tired. He is currently napping right next to me. I have never ever kept him up past midnight when he has been tired. And I was up at 6am this morning because he was (thanks to his latest developmental sleep regression). Just because he isn't a 7 till 7 sleeper doesn't make anything dubious! :rotfl:Several of the children in our group sleep 11-11 or something similar. Usually my son sleeps from 9:30-9:30, which works perfectly for all of us. At the moment he's adjusting to being in a bed instead of a cot, his speech is developing by the minute, he's just had a huge growth spurt plus his last 4 molars are coming through. So his sleep is disrupted. Luckily he has a flexible mother (and father) who adapt to suit his needs, rather than demanding he fit to a schedule with no scientific basis whatsoever.

This is way off topic now, so perhaps we should both wind our necks in and let the OP get on with mushing up whatever she chooses to feed her child. :beer:

Ellejmorgan

mildred1978 wrote: »

You should have said earlier that you don't believe in BLW and were only interested in purees. Would have saved a lot of us a lot of time.

I hadn't heard of it until this thread, you all initially chose to focus on what I eat when I was asking for recipe ideas and thoughts on why babies are selective over who feeds them...

I was shocked to see that this website that was advised has choking advice, a child will gag because they can't handle the food..
No way will my baby be allowed to gag just so she can eat..

Ellejmorgan

mildred1978 wrote: »

Yes, I spotted that when I read back. BLW flies in the face of AK and GF, which is what confused me.



I, and others, provided the OP with a lot of advice, which happened to be around BLW, way before she decided to say that she didn't like it.

The fact that no 2 children/parents/situations are the same is exactly why I dislike AK and GF. My husband and I have been involved in child feeding in many countries around the world and have used that experience to make our own parenting decisions.



Here we go. I asked for advice, because I was concerned about the effect of my son's wakefulness on a very elderly, extremely poorly relative. My son has had less than 6 tsps of calpol/nurofen in his 26 months, and I took advice on board and managed that situation without the need of drugs. Plenty of people on this forum are happy to suggest drugging children prior to flights with piriton - I hope you are as vehement on those.



Oh please. If you're going to make such accusations, you should at least try to get the facts right. My son sleeps when he is tired. He is currently napping right next to me. I have never ever kept him up past midnight when he has been tired. And I was up at 6am this morning because he was (thanks to his latest developmental sleep regression). Just because he isn't a 7 till 7 sleeper doesn't make anything dubious! :rotfl:Several of the children in our group sleep 11-11 or something similar. Usually my son sleeps from 9:30-9:30, which works perfectly for all of us. At the moment he's adjusting to being in a bed instead of a cot, his speech is developing by the minute, he's just had a huge growth spurt plus his last 4 molars are coming through. So his sleep is disrupted. Luckily he has a flexible mother (and father) who adapt to suit his needs, rather than demanding he fit to a schedule with no scientific basis whatsoever.

This is way off topic now, so perhaps we should both wind our necks in and let the OP get on with mushing up whatever she chooses to feed her child. :beer:

Nicki doesn't need to wind her neck in her help has been very well received...

mildred1978

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I hadn't heard of it until this thread, you all initially chose to focus on what I eat when I was asking for recipe ideas and thoughts on why babies are selective over who feeds them...

I was shocked to see that this website that was advised has choking advice, a child will gag because they can't handle the food..
No way will my baby be allowed to gag just so she can eat..

I gave you a whole post of food ideas before even mentioning your faddy fish finger thing.

I don't want to argue with you, but not allowing a child to gag occasionally is a bit like saying "I won't let my child learn to walk so that she can't ever fall over".

If you read up on it you might change your mind. You might not. You obviously have decided on the route you want to take, and that's fine. But dismissing something because of not understanding it is a very limited way to live.

I hope you work it out and that your daughter becomes happier eating whatever you choose to feed her.

mildred1978

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Nicki doesn't need to wind her neck in her help has been very well received...

I didn't mean with regards to what she advised you.

Ellejmorgan

mildred1978 wrote: »

I gave you a whole post of food ideas before even mentioning your faddy fish finger thing.

I don't want to argue with you, but not allowing a child to gag occasionally is a bit like saying "I won't let my child learn to walk so that she can't ever fall over".

If you read up on it you might change your mind. You might not. You obviously have decided on the route you want to take, and that's fine. But dismissing something because of not understanding it is a very limited way to live.

I hope you work it out and that your daughter becomes happier eating whatever you choose to feed her.

As I said before it's every mouthful, I haven't dismissed it because I don't understand it, I don't think it's safe..

Thank you for your feeding ideas and if you feel you could add some further, they would be gratefully received..

Air_Cooled_75

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I was shocked to see that this website that was advised has choking advice, a child will gag because they can't handle the food..
No way will my baby be allowed to gag just so she can eat..

I thought gagging was a natural reaction?? It's nothing like choking, they gag and spit out the food if it was too much, which is also different from sticking food up. I'm sure I might have read that babies fed pur!es are more likely to choke than BLW babies? Don't quote me on it, I could be wrong.

My LO also had severe reflux and I was never advised to wean early, I do feel like the only one though!

cutestkids

Ellejmorgan

Do what is best for you and your baby, another thing I found with one of mine was that they wanted to try and do it themselves at a young age.

I used to put the food and a spoon on the high chair tray and let them feed themselves, most of it went on them rather than in them but they seemed happier with feeding time when they had a little bit of control.

Another thing that you may like to try is something that a friend of mine had for her baby a few years ago it is called a MUNCHKIN Weaning Net it is a little net bag on a handle for baby to hold and you pop the food in to it and close it the baby can then munch on it and chomp the food down through the holes in the net but cant choke, this may be a good compromise between a baby that cant cope well with lumps and baby led weaning.

I saw them on Ebay in packs of two sorry don't know how to put up a link but if you type in weaning net they should come up.

I am sure that certain people on this thread will not approve and will be very vocal in that disapproval but do what is best for you and your baby.

GobbledyGook

Air_Cooled_75 wrote: »

I thought gagging was a natural reaction?? It's nothing like choking, they gag and spit out the food if it was too much, which is also different from sticking food up. I'm sure I might have read that babies fed pur!es are more likely to choke than BLW babies? Don't quote me on it, I could be wrong.

My LO also had severe reflux and I was never advised to wean early, I do feel like the only one though!

They are. Any weaning website should have advice about how to handle choking. It's much easier to cough up a chunk of food than a liquid. That said though there would be no point in doing BLW if it just made Mum anxious. Happy Mum is much better for baby than any specific method of weaning.


Advise on weaning is always going to depend entirely on the experience and opinion of the person giving it - be they another parent, a health visitor, paediatrician or whoever. Not even the experts can say 100% that one way or the other is "the" best because there are so many variables.