Disabled Student with Child - Benefit entitlement?

Pricivius

It seems that there is some agreement that the system that allows the OP to claim these benefits is unfair or even wrong - and even the OP agrees. Yet the morality of accepting this unfairness is not questioned.

I personally could not let the taxpayer fund my partner and I to look after our child and attend university. My conscience wouldn't let me. I guess to me the welfare system is a safety net to fall back on if needed. My sister has three kids and didn't claim child benefit as she didn't need it, instead leaving her share in the pot for those in greater need.

I'm not criticising the OP as this is a personal choice and many posters have confirmed they would do the same she is doing. Each to their own.

mumblub

To mazza im 39 have an still am raising 3 children..20..16..10. Ive had depression since my first child he was born at 38 weeks to this day he has no sight in one eye ..my second son is colour blind..my daughter is dyslexic and dyspraxcia..never once have i asked for govurment money for any of us..and do you know why..because my depression is so bad i cant face going out never mind trying to apply for gov money...my son left school with 10 gcse at 16 he was laid off 5 months ago after been with the company for 4 years..so please dont come on her trying to say your disabled and or have had it hard cause it dosent wash with me :mad:

Anubis_2

mazza1985 wrote: »

Thank you :-)

My DLA claim was reassessed april 2012. I wrote on my claim pack what areas had improved, and what areas I continued needing support with. I was able to give examples of things going wrong when my boyfriend goes away, eg flooding my flat after forgetting to switch my taps off, nearly setting my flat on fire, getting lost driving a friends house for 3 hours when I've been there twice before, the signal on my satnav/phone went! Forgetting to take my bank card to work and running out of petrol, having to get my scooter towed to a garage. Not eating properly, not sleeping properly as i forgot to go to bed. Struggling to choose clothes for work, failing to find belt, forgetting to charge mobile phone up. Lacking motivation to wash up or do any housework. He leaves me for 3 nights twice a year, and I fall apart when he does! So when they got my form they renewed my old award for 5 years! I couldnt beleive it I was so sure I was going to lose it.

I cant explain it really. Somehow at work when I'm dealing with others I seem to be able to pull it together. I just wish I could take some of my own advice and tips, but it all goes out the window when it comes to me.

It just surprises me how many people assume I must be commiting some sort of fraud, and that makes me sad. I'm just trying to improve mine and my babies future, and do something useful and positive with my life. There are 168 hours a week, and I only work 40 of them. That is plenty of time for my care needs to be met. I know there are a lot of trolls on here but I'm certainly not one of them.....

Come on now - you say you are so bad that you "forget" to go to bed, yet you pull yourself together and can function normally at work?

Forgetting all the possible contradictions here, my concern would be the baby with the dangerous situations you state in this post. I would hope your partner is going to be there full time, otherwise it would seem this baby *may* be in danger (fire/flooding/forgetting feeding etc)

If you forget to go to bed, how are you going to remember to feed/change baby? Crying will not prompt your memory if you forget that you need to go to bed. What about the fire and floodings?

People who are so far gone mentally that they forget there is such a thing as a bed, cannot snap out of it when they work then snap back into it when at home, it really doesn't seem to make sense at all.

It is very difficult to understand how your mind can ge so severely affected that you forget to go to bed, yet you can function at work perfectly fine - it just doesn't make sense.

I know you said you are pretty hot on benefits - and you must be, as I am astonished DLA has been renewed without incidence, are you sure they are fully aware of the whole picture?

I think if I put down on my claim that I am so bad that x and x happens putting me in grave danger, but when I work my 40 hours I can pull it together each day, that they would, at the very least, look a bit further into the claim?

If you are claiming SDP, this would, I think, be stopped if your partner claimed carers allowance, but wondering why you receive SDP if he only leaves you three nights twice a year and the rest of the time he is with you?

Azmataz

mazza1985 wrote: »

I'm also sick of seeing addicts getting £270 a week for choosing to carry on with their addiction without ever having paid a penny in tax or NI.

Considering that you aspire to work in the mental health field, that opinion won't get you far.

I've worked in dual diagnosis for almost ten years now, counselling people with joint mental health and addiction issues. Your stance is inappropriate for any mental health professional to adopt.

I hope an 'addict' never appears on your books. Also, in the world of work, expect some problems in explaining to management exactly how addiction is a choice. That opinion is frowned upon in the sector.

debrag

mazza1985 wrote: »

Also my mental health problem is not panic attacks, I have panic attacks in unfamilar places, which my current employer has overcome by others showing me routes on buses etc. My boyfriend will quite often show me new routes in his car (unless address is confidential of course).

You'll have a lot of unfamiliar places during your degree, will your partner be there to help you all the time? what about when you work?

To others I doubt she'll work in the community rather one place.

Isn't there an option to do an extended degree? That's what my sister did when her 1st child was born, No uni/placement on weekends, evenings, bank holidays, school holidays etc. Took longer but was there for the child, family etc looked after her when needed at other times. This might only be at certain unis though and yes it was nursing.

skipsmum

Azmataz wrote: »

Considering that you aspire to work in the mental health field, that opinion won't get you far.

I've worked in dual diagnosis for almost ten years now, counselling people with joint mental health and addiction issues. Your stance is inappropriate for any mental health professional to adopt.

I hope an 'addict' never appears on your books. Also, in the world of work, expect some problems in explaining to management exactly how addiction is a choice. That opinion is frowned upon in the sector.

Well said.

Anny_2

skipsmum wrote: »

Well said.

I second that.

Very hard to accept when someone wants/expects understanding for their right to claim benefits for their disability...yet stands in judgement of others who claim for a different reason.
Even harder to accept when that individual is already working in a field in which being non-judgemental is a core value.

Spamfree_2

mazza1985 wrote: »

Do you flood your flat on a regular basis though? My point was that my life is sheer chaos without support in place. I would still be in supported housing if my boyfriend didnt help me. I was told I would never be able to live on my own, and I would never be capable of work, and that was 4.5 years ago. I've worked so hard to get where I am, every day is a battle, and it is even more so now I am pregnant and my hormones are playing havock.

But if you are flooding your flat on a regular basis, where is the 35 hours of care your boyfriend is giving you?

FunWithFlags

As someone who has needed mental health care before, this thread absolutely terrifies me for reasons I'm sure are obvious!!!

xylophone

But if you are flooding your flat on a regular basis, where is the 35 hours of care your boyfriend is giving you?

He's delivering /sorting the post?

my partner starts work at 6:00 as he is a postal worker