*sigh* Cheating partner rant warning!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Have you actually spoken to the Tax Credit people, when I split with my husband you didn't have to reapply as a single claim they just took him off my claim as it was essentially in my name as I was the mother of the children.

I did have to reapply for a joint claim though when I met my oh which did take a few weeks to come through. I did manage to get a crisis loan though so bare that in mind if things get too tight.

Sorry to hear this has happened to you & your children.

My 2 son's dad walked out on us on 4th July 1996 when our 1st son was 18 months old & I was 36 weeks pregnant with our 2nd. We have never seen or heard from him since nor had a single penny in maintenance. Some men are not fit to be father's unfortunately.

Ames

I'm gobsmacked, what a !!!!.

I agree with a few others, you need to look into the legalities regarding his stuff. If you can just send a couple of emails giving him x days to collect it or you'll sell it then it's worth doing for the cash which you'll need.

Remember though you've got (at least) two things going for you. Firstly, you're obviously a strong woman. Secondly, you're a member of this forum, where you'll be able to get all the information you could possibly need in one place. I think you should work out a list of everything you need to know and start visiting the various boards. Top of my list would be the tax credit situation - how long it'll take, and the renting board for advice on your tenancy agreement.

Then maybe the DIY board for where to get a rusty saw and some heavy duty duct tape...

spirit

I was going down the route of buying a house which had been previously tenanted and who had been given her official notice to quit to the landlord (the seller)

However, during the conveyancing process, her partner left her (with their 3 kids). She must have been advised to stop paying her rent at that point so that the landlord/seller would have to evict her.

Sounds a bit scary but apparently if she was evicted and therefore made homeless, she would have to be housed by the council/HA.

Needless to say, I didn't hang about for the court case/eviction and went and bought something else.

If that helps you in any way?

VestanPance

The guy is a nasty piece of work, but I would ignore all the sell his gear type comments.

The best thing you can do is walk away from this with your head held high, something he'll be unable to do. Don't lower yourself to petty revenge. It may feel great in the short term, but long term you'll look back and regret your actions.

Take the time now to focus on yourself and I wish you all the best in dealing with what is a horrible situation.

Elle7

spirit wrote: »

I was going down the route of buying a house which had been previously tenanted and who had been given her official notice to quit to the landlord (the seller)

However, during the conveyancing process, her partner left her (with their 3 kids). She must have been advised to stop paying her rent at that point so that the landlord/seller would have to evict her.

Sounds a bit scary but apparently if she was evicted and therefore made homeless, she would have to be housed by the council/HA.

Needless to say, I didn't hang about for the court case/eviction and went and bought something else.

If that helps you in any way?

Make sure you get legal advice before considering anything like this. The council could declare that you've made yourself intentionally homeless, and I'm not sure where that would leave you. For most people they would refuse help, but as you have children, I can't imagine they could do that.

It's worth making sure you know exactly where you stand before you consider your future housing.

I'm really sorry for your situation, by the way. What a spineless man.

Mrs_Arcanum

At least if you contact your LL and they decide to evict because the tenancy has changed it will not be marked as a deliberately homeless situation. Meanwhile it will help with HB.

Good luck & stay strong.

DS4215

As much as it is going to hurt emotionally you are going to have to be tough and sort the money out. Speak to the benefits people and get claims in for anything you can - get help from CAB if you need to or on here.

Put his stuff in bin bags in the garage and send him a letter via his parents (recorded delivery preferably) telling him to remove his possessions within 14 days or you will be disposing of them.