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*sigh* Cheating partner rant warning!
LoopyLu
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My partner walked out on me and our 5 kids (3 eldest from my previous relationship) last week for another woman... I thought we were so happy. No rows, nothing. Said he was going drs and never came home. Emailed me 2 days later to say he wasn't coming back and that no one else was involved. I soon discovered that was a lie. 
He is refusing to even talk to me. Won't answer emails, even about the kids.
I don't know how he's managing this as he has no money (all monies got paid into my account) and no transport and his new woman still lives with her husband - they aren't together but she can't afford to move out and he refuses to sell. So my ex is staying at her mums house.
I can't see their hospitality lasting long...
I'm just so bloody frustrated! He's moved over 3 hours away!
I am reaching the acceptance stage. I have started sorting the finances. Tax credits have been stopped as I am now starting a single claim. So for the next few weeks I am raising 5 kids on child benefit alone. Does he care? Nope, said he doesn't have any money (true) so can't help.
I don't want him to "help". I want him to return home and take some responsibility!! :mad:
I have to tell our letting agents this week that he's gone. We're on a joint tenancy which ends next month. I was hoping to let it roll into a periodic tenancy but now I'm not sure what's gonna happen. Scared we'll lose the house. Does he care? Nope.
Too busy flaunting his new girlfriend around our mutual friends.
I have a good mind to sell all his stuff (he walked out with nothing). He'd spent over £100 on new clothes the week before, they're all sat in the drawer. If he had left the labels on I could have taken them back and swapped them for clothes for the kids! :rotfl:
If you made it this far, thank you!
He is refusing to even talk to me. Won't answer emails, even about the kids.
I don't know how he's managing this as he has no money (all monies got paid into my account) and no transport and his new woman still lives with her husband - they aren't together but she can't afford to move out and he refuses to sell. So my ex is staying at her mums house.
I can't see their hospitality lasting long...
I'm just so bloody frustrated! He's moved over 3 hours away!
I am reaching the acceptance stage. I have started sorting the finances. Tax credits have been stopped as I am now starting a single claim. So for the next few weeks I am raising 5 kids on child benefit alone. Does he care? Nope, said he doesn't have any money (true) so can't help.
I don't want him to "help". I want him to return home and take some responsibility!! :mad:
I have to tell our letting agents this week that he's gone. We're on a joint tenancy which ends next month. I was hoping to let it roll into a periodic tenancy but now I'm not sure what's gonna happen. Scared we'll lose the house. Does he care? Nope.
Too busy flaunting his new girlfriend around our mutual friends.
I have a good mind to sell all his stuff (he walked out with nothing). He'd spent over £100 on new clothes the week before, they're all sat in the drawer. If he had left the labels on I could have taken them back and swapped them for clothes for the kids! :rotfl:
If you made it this far, thank you!
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no advice but how awful for you he sounds like a right ******Wins so far this year: Mum to be bath set, follow me Domino Dog, Vital baby feeding set, Spiderman goody bag, free pack of Kiplings cakes, £15 love to shop voucher, HTC Desire, Olive oil cooking spray, Original Source Strawberry Shower Gel, Garnier skin care hamper, Marc Jacobs fragrance.0
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Oh you are really being put through the mill
What a douche, I would have no qualms whatsoever in selling his stuff to provide for the children, if he can walk away and leave it its fair game as far as I'm concerned.
Hope your landlord is understanding, as if its not enough being left in the lurch you have to worry about your home too!
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LoopyLu,
What an awful situation. However, you are clearly better off without the likes of him in your life. For him to do this and not even get in touch with regards to the children is unforgivable.
Focus on the priorities for now - yourself and the children. I'm sure some others will be along with good advice about your finances and housing situation.
Your ex will no doubt slither back at some point with regards to maintaining contact with the children. Be prepared for that and how you are going to deal with it for the sake of the children."Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?" (Douglas Adams)0 -
Free listings on Ebay this weekend I think.
Get busy with the digital camera tomorrow and raise some cash !
I'm so sorryI Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
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You mustn't take him back he won't change, I know it hurts but this is the real him...
Apparently it takes 6 weeks to get over a relationship ending...
My ex was a leaver, didn't have anyone else he just couldn't cope with anything and was abusive & controlling..
Just after our first was born he left me 5 times in 4 months...
Unsurprisingly I divorced him, now single & happy & raising my kids to feel valued..
You can do this, focus on you and the kids and it will get easier I promise...I always take the moral high ground, it's lovely up here...0 -
What a fiend. How cowardly and thoughtless he is to email his partner two days after the fact to make his intentions known! I can only imagine what you thought had happened to him during that time.
Not having any children I wouldn't know the first thing about how difficult that situation must be for you right now.
I can only wish you all the best and sincerely hope that you can resolve all your difficulties in a way that brings the least upheaval to your family. As for him, I can only hope that he grows some sort of backbone and faces up to his responsibilities as a father.
Perhaps you could suggest that the next time he visits a doctor he could ask for a prescription for a backbone and a pair of testicles?0 -
Sorry to hear what you are going through.
It must hurt terribly that he is so unreasonable and irresponsible, but I hope it will also may make it easier for you to let go, move on and don't look back.0 -
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Thanks you all!!
He is a twonk! I'm thinking about sending all his mail to her marital home. Housing benefit want a forwarding address too. I'm sure that will go down well and burst a couple of bubbles lol
I know the street and postcode but not the number. Anyone know how to find it? I looked on 192.com but didn't show house number.0
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