make do and mend for tougher times

fuddle

My damp probs pale in comparison. Flipping heck!

Mentioned the paint to DH Mar, he's going to investigate.

Really sorry for hogging the thread today. I've gone from extreme moods and I get embarrassed people seeing my manic side.

I'm back to appreciating my lot I'm really lucky compared to many x

Byatt

It's all a matter of perspective. I wouldn't go back to the 50's or 60's. I enjoyed the 70's at least up to the middle part (I got married :rotfl:).

And of course it's cheaper to run a smaller house. My DD manages very well in her one bedroomed place and has the heating on without scrimping. It's like a hot house in there when I stay. She's on benefits and manages to save a bit too (with support).

My biggest outlay is my rent as it's private. If it was halved it would be a lot easier.

I suffer from depression but that's because of personal life events starting when I was 3 ish, aggravated by an abusive marriage and being abandoned with no financial help.

Sometimes though, there are easy answers, it's just beeing able to acknowledge them, and if choices are made, to stop moaning about personal choices, because at the end of the day, having a choice is about personal responsibility.

As for coal fires, well what I remember about them is coal dust everywhere, the dirt, disposing of ashes...and I had one in the 80's, bl00dy nightmare. :rotfl:

Byatt

Oh Shegar, I'm having tomato soup (tinned) with mini hot dogs added in as a homage to my childhood when parents used to fill a flask with tomato soup, add some cooked chipolatas (the only sausuage I would eat, as they were skinless), and take it when we went out for a day trip. We all loved it and was fab on a cold day.

Byatt

Shegar, when you say OH will go into nursing care, what will that mean for you both?

I envy you seeing the deer! I got overly excited when I spotted a deer at a place I was house sitting. It was lying down, but not on it's side, and must have been munching on the apples from the tree because when I went to look next day, all the apples had gone! I was worried the owners would think I'd snaffled the lot!

shegar

Byatt wrote: »

Shegar, when you say OH will go into nursing care, what will that mean for you both?

I envy you seeing the deer! I got overly excited when I spotted a deer at a place I was house sitting. It was lying down, but not on it's side, and must have been munching on the apples from the tree because when I went to look next day, all the apples had gone! I was worried the owners would think I'd snaffled the lot!

I really dont know too much about him going into a nursing home just yet, our home is in both our names so they cant make me sell it.........
I want to look into it , but I dont if you see what I mean, its all a bit scary really cos I want him here but I dont want the extra workload/nursing that ive got .. Its never ending 24/7 every day of the week, its what it is doing to me thats the problem, I reckon ive aged 10 yr this last year...........

Yes deer love stripping apple and pear trees, ask my son :eek:......he get loads of muntjac in his garden , but I love em all........

I know a place down a few fields where I can get behind a huge oak tree with my camera and binoculars, ive got to go and get some fresh air tomorrow and not hear a car or anything, just be so peaceful for hour or 2 , so relaxing, its my "me time".......
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I saw Bill Oddie the other weekend, he often come to Walberswick where he as a friend live and he go birding, then he goes into the local shop where my DIL works and buys is cappachino coffee, I dont think I spelt that right.:eek:..........

shegar

Popperwell wrote: »

The raising of energy anywhere is not good as soon there will be nowhere for anyone to switch to and none of these schemes where prices are frozen for a set time...I'm with NPower for both gas/electric good job I signed up until October 2013 before this happened. Damned home insurance is due soon:mad::(

If your food is sealed and in cans/packets I don't see a problem and if you are keeping it on the opposite side of the room or middle of room I think it will be fine.

When you hear one announcement on the news that one energy company are going to raise their prices, you know within a few days that they each one of them also will, it happens every year ,cos they know people need power...........

I cant really see any point in changing suppliers because they all go up at some point in the same month........

Yet they have the bloody cheek to anounce how many billions profits they make each year.....:mad: You cant win...

SpikyHedgehog

danetastic wrote: »

I was worried that I sounded smug in my previous post . I didn't mean to . If i hadn't bought my first place when I did I would not be able to now as I don't earn enough. I was lucky in buying in the right area at the right time. I'm still a staff nurse thru choice and love my job most of the time .
Now I'm concentrating on getting rid of the debt tho sometimes I do get a bit overwhelmed by it all . I have to remind myself it's all worth it

It didn't sound smug! We're all in different positions. I was telling DS1 the other day, I wish my parents had encouraged me to save when I started fulltime work, with a view to getting things (instead of saying 'Why did you waste money on your provisional driving license? We haven't got a car!') Then, I might have had a car and started to save for a house.

But, as I told DS2 the other day 'If wishes were horses then beggars would ride, and if ifs and ands were pots and pans, then tinkers would have no need of hands.' (I then regretted saying it as we had a 30 minute plus conversation about what it meant and what tinkers do and why they wouldn't need hands, but yes, that would mean they could be in the paralympics, but no, I didn't know what sport they'd do, it would depend on what they were good at really...)

fuddle wrote: »

DH and I are now in the preliminary stages of discussing moving in with my mam (3 bedroomed bought house) to save money for a deposit. DH doesn't think he can live with my mam and I'm not even sure I could. She's erm... not very clean and likes alcohol a bit too much. It could be a real goer re: money and saving but I don't know whether our lives would be as calm as they are now... not sure if it's worth it.

I've been on the council site as the new houses are up. They've ben there since midnight, they already have 89/104/37 etc people putting in for them. We are just never ever going to stand a chance.

I feel so trapped.

I've got to go to work now. I hope I can plaster a smile on my face in 20 mins time/

If you move in with your mam, you're going to have to do a new application for housing, as you won't be where you are now. But you might have more points so more priority for a house?

DS1 & I moved in with my parents, baby sis and my brother when we left TheExBoyfriend. It had it's ups and downs... High points included being with family at a time I had little self esteem, sharing my family traditions eg for Christmas with DS1, being cheaper than living on our own would have been. Low points included dealing with my dad drinking too much, different standards of house cleaning (mum is an emergency 'Oh no we've got guests coming quick hide some clutter so there's enough room to clean! person, while I prefer to try to clean as I go)

Editing to say: I'm so glad you're not thinking about moving in with her now! The worst bit about living with my parents again was my dad saying I must have wanted him dead or I wouldn't have moved in :eek: I can assure you that I did not then and do not know wish my dad dead, our being there had no detrimental effect on him, and that he is still alive now. Oh yeah, and that was one time he was drunk... He has no recollection of saying it, but it still hurts me that he did say it.

mardatha wrote: »

Life hasn't changed much for the better has it? If you look at the Victorian years, then WW1, then the hungry thirties, then WW2 - the best time was when I grew up (so its all thanks to moi, I hope yer all grateful. send sweeties if you are) - the 50s and 60s were the best times out of the lot I think. In the 70s things were very depressed and it went downhill fast from there. I think, anyway.
I was born in 1950

Sending sweeties for you Mar http://www.thesweetshopsaffronwalden.co.uk/prods/jelly-sweetie-tree.html
cos they grow on trees, you know

bonnie_bumpkins

Byatt where did your "toxic people" quote come from? Does the 'Light' at the end mean you need light to see them properly? This will really help a friend who is struggling hugely with a verbally abusive partner Sorry if you've explained before but I've not caught up for a while. TIA. xx

Tough-tackling vibes to all

Byatt

Bonnie I'll PM you.

bonnie_bumpkins

Thank you very much