make do and mend for tougher times

meanmarie

Fuddle...so glad that you have thought again about moving in with your mother....from your posts she seems to have a negative affect on you so that alone would not be good for any of you. You are doing a wonderful job and have a wonderful relationship with your OH so I know that you are going to come through all the carp around you....in the meantime, be happy with your lovely family and keep plugging away saving what pennies you can.

I wish you all the best

Marie

bonnie_bumpkins

Popperwell wrote: »

Mum was 5ft 2ins and I think I am only around 5ft 4ins but it doesn't bother me...

pops are you sure about your height... you could be 6'... after all you did get your age wrong... :rotfl:

sorry xx can you post the link to the age-finding software you used please? I'm intruiged... thank you

Popperwell

shegar wrote: »

When you hear one announcement on the news that one energy company are going to raise their prices, you know within a few days that they each one of them also will, it happens every year ,cos they know people need power...........

I cant really see any point in changing suppliers because they all go up at some point in the same month........

Yet they have the bloody cheek to anounce how many billions profits they make each year.....:mad: You cant win...

Hope that you manage to see the deer, sorry about the situation you have going on(don't mean that in a patronising way)

You are right about the energy companies though I have my prices frozen for approx 12 months...for what good it does...

Popperwell

bonnie_bumpkins wrote: »

pops are you sure about your height... you could be 6'... after all you did get your age wrong... :rotfl:

sorry xx can you post the link to the age-finding software you used please? I'm intruiged... thank you

If only...


http://www.onlineconversion.com/howold.htm

kidcat

Fuddle am so pleased you have decided to stay put for now, I really am not sure how good I would be at baking a cake with a file in to help you escape the murder charge you would surely face:rotfl:

Have a look at this link it has some ideas of paints to try to help - not cheap though
http://paintsdirect.co.uk/interior/warmcoat-anti-condensation.html

Am just back from DD party which went really well, am exhausted now though, DS8 was incredibly hard work and struggled but was nowhere near as bad as he could have been, DS14 also struggled so was a hard evening.I discovered the best way of keeping DS8 under control was dancing with him so we have bopped away for hours - the macarena will never be the same again.

DD6 danced the night away and really enjoyed herself until eleven thirty when she lay down and went to sleep - in the middle of the music:rotfl: wish DS8 had done the same OH also struggled, he isnt good in those sort of situations anyway, add in DS8 acting up and OH loses it, but I cannot handle DS8 solo and run the party be the hostess etc so I had to have him help.

He has come home not spoke a word to anyone and gone to bed whilst I have unloaded car and put kids to bed, waited for my dad to get back with minibus and older kids, then sorted them out. I did try to talk to him but he just walked past me - so I figured if it was one of the boys I would leave them to calm first so have left him to go to bed.

Shegar - I appreciate its a hard decision to make, you clearly adore your husband, but if you dont get more time off then you will end up killing yourself to care for him and still wont have him. I just wish there was a way you could have the help you need and still have him home. I nearly brought my grandad home near the end and then I thought about it and decided against looking at it that I wanted him to have the very best care he could, and I genuinely believed that if he came home with me the care I could provide would be much poorer than he deserved. There really ought to be a middle ground between total solo care and a nursing home.

You are such a wonderful person for having done so much - I dont think I could do it, in fact am fairly sure I wouldnt. :A

born_blonde

Kidcat thanks for the link. I live in a very cold damp bungalow with loads of black mould which I am forever bleaching.
Using the info on the link I did a further search and found this additive which you can add to any paint
http://www.energysavingpaint.co.uk/products/energysavingpaint.html
I think this makes it cheaper.
I'm now going to search for reviews to see if it works.
It seems to be made by several companies who all make the same claims.
Hope your are having a good sleep and all are much recovered.

savingqueen

paidinchickens - how is your neck today? better I hope?

Shegar - it must be so hard for you coping with everything, I can't imagine. We have never had anything similar - when DH or I have had an op to recover from or similar, we have looked after each other and that was hard enough with small children. You have/are doing an amazing job looking after both yourself and DH - never forget that. I hope that whatever you decide works out for the best. We are here for you...

Fuddle - you have made the right choice re not moving in with your mam. I always thought my parent's home was our safety net in case TSHTF (DH being made redundant is still a possiblity in the future) but since the big fallout this year, I know now we would have to be literally homeless for that to happen (and kids would have to change schools, move away from their friends and mine). In any case since my sister moved back in (long story and the start of the big fallout) there isn't physically room now anyway.

I grew up living with one set of grandparents til I was 7 - sharing a terraced house and it was hell on earth but that's another story. Living with toxic relatives really affected my emotionally and I carried that into adulthood. We also had other relatives in our family who were alcoholics and you really do not want to expose children to people who have drink problems (even if not full blown alcoholics) MIL and FIL also drink heavily (suspect MIL is an alcoholic) and most of horrible behaviour from them is linked to drinking - hence DH asked them not to come over (from Ireland) to visit us anymore.

anyway DH is wanting his PC back (new laptop battery still an estimated week away from delivery aaarrrggghhh)

had some lovely toasted crumpets (4!!) and 2 cups of coffee in my favourite red chenille blanket, kids tucked up with their fleeces watching kids TV and I feel a million times better than yesterday (PMT gone.... )

wanted to reply to some other posters so will pop back later if I get the chance to. Hope you all have a nice Saturday whatever you are doing.

sq:)

fuddle

Shegar you're always in my thoughts. I feel for you but at the same time really admire your strength. Shegar, it's just not fair. I wish for you some more respite.

Kidcat having worked with children on the autistic spectrum (as a dinner nanny I'm not allowed to know anything about children's SEN and it's driving me bonkers because I know if I did I could make lunch times more bearable and dare I say it, enjoyable) anyway, I was saying that I forget that adults still have tendencies too. Again, I feel for you because I know you need help and a rest, you've got to whether you say it or not.

I know some pretty strong women and it's a pleasure because it makes me think 'hold on a minute, get a grip, you're damn damn lucky'. I thank you for helping in my woes too... even though you both (all!) must be thinking that I don't know I'm born.

I'm trying out some carrot cookies today from We'll Eat Again. I'll type out the recipe for you all a bit later when I've had my cuppa and woke up.

Possession

Shegar you are doing an amazing job, and I know you probably don't see it that way because you HAVE to cope. But where will you both be if you become too ill to do it all? That's an impossible situation and you have to cover yourself from it. I really wish you could get some respite too though.

Fuddle - yes v glad you aren't going to live with your mum, particularly if she didn't even know, LOL! TBH I get on very well with my parents, but it would still be difficult if we lived with them, for both parties.

Taking the children to the local kids' club film this morning, for the princely sum of £2.70. Gets them out of the house for a while anyway, as DH has more psychometric tests to do. He has an interview on Tuesday and at last he has a date for a 2nd interview which is nice as we thought that one had faded away.
I have written a list for getting the house back into a pleasant state and it's rather distressingly long, but I'm going to make sure we cross something off every day.

fuddle

That's it possession a little everyday. Anything is possible with a list and I must apologise for pinching all your pinterest pins. Now I follow you I don't have to search for anything, you do it for me

I have to share, we have little birds on the HM bird fat feeders :j