make do and mend for tougher times

Byatt

Fuddle, maybe you can have a "safe" word for your children so if anyone they knew said they had come along to give them a lift or pick them up, they would know if the person was genuine or not because of the safe word.

I'd just like to add, that you never stop worrying or caring for your child and if anything happened to my DD now, albeit she's 26 (and I know with special needs, but it wouldn't make any difference to how I felt), I would feel I had not kept her safe.

I also didn't let anyone babysit except for women that were friends or family.

VJsmum

Yeah, you're right regarding DD - it's just that she's never had to do it before. It is a main road. I used to love walking in the dark - chatting away to myself (not out loud, obvs!!) Don't get much chance now.

We lost DS in a museum in wales when he was about 5. We'd all been looking at an exhibit and moved on - but he didn't. I assumed he was with OH and OH assumed he was with me. We were frantic for 10 minutes until we found him - he was wandering around museum looking for us, crying and we'd gone to car park. I just had visions that anyone could have put him in a car and gone off anywhere - which would also have been so easy to do from Machynlleth. There's no feeling like it.

Not long ago we went swimming at that leisure centre that is the "centre of operations". Makes me go cold when I see it on the news being used for that purpose.

Popperwell

fuddle wrote: »

I don't think it is just your Tesco pops. We've been in an extra tonight and found shelves of brands at knock down prices. I didn't buy anything as I never stray from my list but what it did was get me annoyed. If they can sell it at that price, why does it have to be double, even triple the price normally!

Letting the apron strings go is a very, very gradual process for me. Eldest DD said she knew about April as they had learned about it in assembly. She was told to never get in a car with a stranger. DH said never get in a car with anybody unless it's mam or dad.... no-one, not uncle this or so-and-so's dad. I was telling DH about my mam's uncle. Everyone loved him, he was the joker of the family. I am well endowed and had a large chest from being 12 years old. He used to brush up against my chest and I hated it. I never told a soul because he was a legend. He never ever did anything else but I hated that man with a passion for daring to accidently on purpose rub him arm over me... hated him! That's the only thing I had to deal with as a youngster and that was bad enough. So sorry to read that some of us have had worse experiences.

We had someone like that in our relatives, that's as far as it went but I remember mum and even my gran saying at some point don't leave me alone if he's around. It seems every family has one Fuddle.:mad: And I'm a bloke but I can appreciate what you are saying.

If it's a new idea for Tesco's this should've been done years ago when we could take advantage of such offers, I mentioned to a neighbour I bumped into and he said something similar to you.

I mean I'll take advantage of the offers wherever they are but though it may mean I can still have nice meals and good food I am still becuase of income not always able to buy what I'd like to even though they have reduced the prices. But just maybe they have finally realised the population are struggling!

And with their buying power they could keep prices down, buy in bulk, still make a profit but help the customer(though we know that their profits have dipped as mentioned on the news in the last day or two)

Byatt

My DD disappeared in Toys R us...again, probably 10 minutes, but I was like a headless chicken. Grabbed the first girl I found and yelled my DD's gone. Asked what she was wearing, and couldn't remember. Dashed outside as they put out a tannoy announcement, looking at all the cars leaving and thinking, OMG I'm too late. In my head I was at the appeal stage on tv...then she appeared. Gut wrenching.

Many years ago a girl was abducted, never found. I won't give the details, but it was a small village. What wasn't mentioned at the time was how close the village was to an A road and then onto the motorway, maybe 15 mins drive to get to the motorway.

It is a dreadful feeling and Vj, like you say no feeling like it.

craigywv

on a note of tescos reducing everything mine is the same and its not summer stuff they have a large bay shelf filled with tins of deicer down to 37p i got 6 for friends and family and ice scrapers 18p so its def not a seasonal thing,also got lovely marvel comic book hardbind notebooks various sizes for 45p had a good rummage around and got quite a few stocking fillers helped me out as oh is being made redundant at end of month.......never been as glad im a prepper got most christmas pressies in etc , anyway back to tescos my niece works in it and she was saying sometimes their just clearing out their back stores and come across boxes of stuff and because its time of year for seasonal christmas stuff to fill shelves they will get rid of anything surplus, i said but deicer is not even needed yet and she said well last year they threw it out!!!!!!!!!!!1 they had so much of it...disgraceful!

7_week_wonder

Popperwell wrote: »

I will finally have to make a decision about Mum's remains. I feel bad if I don't have some kind of memorial for Mum but if I do the place is difficult to get to and in one way whilst I know Mum is no longer in the world I feel sad that she is there all alone(That's Human response)because Mum isn't whether she is in a better place or there isn't another place we go.

I know it is an intensely personal decision - but we (my mum and I) decided to scatter my dad's ashes in the sea nearby where we spent family holidays. We loved the idea of setting him off to explore the oceans and the world. When we go back it's lovely to think of the happy times we spent there. If I win the lottery I might get a park bench put there, but meanwhile we are happy with our memories.

Byatt

Craigy, I haven't noticed any reductions in our local T's.

Pooky

I've had to do the apron strings thing bit by bit, we're now at the stage where DD1 goes off to London with friends, sometimes stays over but there's always a group of them and I can cope with that. But tonight DD1 is doing her first evening shift at work, she was due to leave at 8pm and the buses were running every 20 mins, the bus stop is visible from the store and stops at the end of our road so I was quite happy with that. But she's been asked to stay until 10pm and the next bus isn't until 10.35. I've advised her to stay at the store until last possible moment or walk with others to the bus stop and to call as soon as the bus gets to the village so I can go open the door (I'll be able to see her walk from the main road). She's not nervous and I've tried to be calm and bright and breezy about it, us parents never stop worrying. I've no idea why it worries me more at 10.30 than at 8pm.

craigywv

Byatt wrote: »

Craigy, I haven't noticed any reductions in our local T's.

ours is in the actual christmas aisle down the bottom and all the biscuits, selection boxes are up at the top of aisle, plunder about and you might find it good reductions to be had BYATT:T

Popperwell

Byatt wrote: »

Craigy, I haven't noticed any reductions in our local T's.

Do you think they think your area is doing well or that they just haven't got around to changing things. I did hear that an excuse given for the drop in profits is that they are altering the layout and some of the interiors of their stores(but I suspect the drop is mainly due to customers spending less and staying away)