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'Lo FUDDLE - I'm so proud of you, thank you for not leaving us, I was pretty proud of the you that you have become before this evening but, now I'm immensely proud of you. Well done, don't let anyone or anything take from you the confidence you've grown lately, you are a star, a success and an all round good person, and you have handled this in such a mature way - good on you girl, don't ever change, we like you just the way you are Love Lyn xxx.

VJsmum

SDG - how awful. So sorry for all concerned.

Fuddle - nil illegitimi carborundum, as someone's signature says.

Thanks for good wishes regarding DD - she had a better day today. Went in on the bus and found old school friends on it. So at least the journey to and fro should be fun for her. She enjoyed her lessons, too. Phew!!

We went blackberrying yesterday - can't remember if I said - but they were few and far between. Have cooked with some apples that we got for free. I think i will freeze it for now and do something with it later. If I can find freezer space. OH is going on his holidays with his mates tomorrow so we will have a week of freezer food. I really must defrost Steve (Beko).

My aim is to have the whole house clean and tidy by Monday with the store cupboard stuff organised and logged. Wish me luck. Especially as SIL and her 2 children are coming to stay this weekend. :eek:

LavenderBees

fuddle wrote: »

I'm really sorry for over reacting. I got a shock at how hurt I felt over words on a screen. I felt more upset than I do when someone in RL has a go and that freaked me out.

I think when your integrity is questioned and words like witch hunt, uneducated, scapegoat, weaker, jealous, nasty, bully are thrown your way - well its galling. The person who wrote this says it reads the thread regularly, so surely it could have seen that I helped him so much, in emotional support and practical support. I just don't understand how everything can go wrong for me in just one post.

Anyway, the drama queen has flounced off and I'm back. So sorry for making the thread all about woe me.

Just catching up on what has been an eventful day by the look of things ...to be honest, I did wonder when the backlash would kick in. The passive agressive personality of the blog poster was never going to take your comments lying down.

And no, it's not Drama Queen, it's upset as any of us would be. I think it's interesting that you appear to be being bullied, yet I also posted a strongly worded comment around the same time and have had nothing but supportive comments. Methinks you're being played with. Methinks this blog poster thinks you're made of softer stuff than you are.

I also suspect that this blog person thought you were his friend and as a result would automatically support anything he said. Life ain't like that though where suspected wrong doing is concerned - whether legally wrong or "just" very morally suspect. Personally, I value a friend who tells me like it is..not that I'm ever wrong, mind :rotfl:

So, my ten pennorth of advice for what it's worth is - don't apologise again for having the courage of your convictions, and speaking out. You stated your opinion and should be proud that you had the strength to do so. It's irrelevant whether others agree or disagree with you, really..you're entitled to your opinion, as am I and everyone else including blog poster. (Very) loosely paraphrasing Voltaire "I may not agree with what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it" or someat like that:o

You most definitely have the strength to shrug off this bullying. We can all see it for what it is. But you need to be strong to not let him drive you away. Let's laugh this one off together.

Now, onwards and upwards eh? Back to more interesting things like how to stockpile tins of peas before the price goes up again , and I'm particularly interested in the courgette curd

Byatt

Mrs_Chip wrote: »

No probs Byatt, I had to go on to check, as I couldn't remember for sure!.

Where's Mar, not seen here about ? Sweetie foraging I'll be bound!

ETA - how's pooch tonight B?

She's okish, had blood tests which were fine, more tests on Friday...but they suggested it could be a tumour, as she already has one on her mouth, but she's too old to operate on, and anyway, I just wouldn't put her through it. She was meant to have the mouth lump removed by vet in 2010 but vet "overlooked" it, and then denied she overlooked it. I keep thinking if it had been removed things might be better, but the long and short of it is, she's 12 and that's a good age for a boxer. :cool:

I bet you wished you hadn't asked now! :rotfl:

Mrs_Chip

Aw Byatt, it's something we animal lovers have to go through, sadly. So unfair that our furry chums have such short lives - but yes 12 is good for a Boxer!

SDGs horrible news tonight just goes to show that none of us can take anything for granted, no matter how we plan. So why do some spend their precious time being horrible and unpleasant, so sad

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BYATT I'm so sorry that Bess has problems, Hope the visit on Friday brings good news for you both. 12 is a very good age for a boxer and I'm sure she couldn't have had anyone love her as much as you and your DD, thinking of you all Lyn xxx.

HariboJunkie

Just popped on to see how everyone is but I'm finding some of these posts about a recent poster are making quite uncomfortable reading regardless of what has been said off the forum . It would be great if this thread could be a welcoming place for everyone who was finding it tough so I hope no one is put off by these latest posts considering the condition of the thread being restarted was that it be kept friendly.

Hope no one minds me saying all that . Had a really busy day so an early night for me and I'll catch up properly another time. xx

PS So sorry for your bad news SDG. xxx

westcoastscot

Lavendarbees don't want to keep giving it airspace but i wondered why fuddle would be the target and not those of us who questioned??? anyway brill fuddle you're staying with us - we can all put it behind us.

So wish I had brambles - loads of green ones but none black yet - its really the weather for bramble and apple crumble.

Bit miffed also I have no courgettes for lemon curd this year - have one on a plant, going to cosset it to see if it will grow marrow sized and save the day. Going to seriously have to put more time into veg growing next year.

SDG so sorry to hear your news - what are you going to knit???? cannot recall if you have little ones, or just teens, but lovely wool and sparkly buttons puts me in mind of those scarves that wrap around a couple of times and then the ends button together - great for littlies as they cannot get it caught in anything, and great for older ones and looks like a smart cowal type thingy - is that the word??? one of those small neck warmer thingies???? Cowal to me always means the place, and the games!!!!!

WCS

stiltwalker

(((((SDG))))) Not a lot else to say but hugs.

Fuddle - glad you stayed, was going to post something supportive earlier but so many others said it so well. I for one am glad you posted what you did as my fingers had been itching over the keyboard for a little while and I wouldn't have been as diplomatic about it!

Lisakay - how scary, glad your DD is ok.

I've had a really productive day while the kids have been at nursery, I cut out my wedding dress, marked up all the directions in chalk on the back, then looked over my essay and submitted it (final one for this course, just the exam to go now arggh!) had a nice quiet lunch on my own with no one trying to half inch bits off my plate. But can I confess to clock watching by 2 pm thinking "it must be time to go and get them now" when pick up is not til 3.15! When I finally pried DD away from the sandpit - "Have you had a lovely time at Nursery?" - Yes - "Do you want to go home now?" - No - "Not even to pick Daddy up from work?" - errrrrrm, no (but less convinced!) They were both that zonked when we got them home that I was able to go and make the wedding invites too!

Off to make fajitas for dinner for me and OH now, kids had fish fingers early as it was a bath night then I think I'll get back to my bag making. On with a lovely denim messenger bag at the moment with one of my pound a yard fabrics that has a lovely embroidered edge so I used that bit for the flap. Think there's enough of the yard left to make a little skirt for DD - she may as well get her knees mucky crawling round rather than making her jeans - knees wash easier!!!!

Possession

fuddle wrote: »

I'm really sorry for over reacting. I got a shock at how hurt I felt over words on a screen. I felt more upset than I do when someone in RL has a go and that freaked me out.

I think when your integrity is questioned and words like witch hunt, uneducated, scapegoat, weaker, jealous, nasty, bully are thrown your way - well its galling. The person who wrote this says it reads the thread regularly, so surely it could have seen that I helped him so much, in emotional support and practical support. I just don't understand how everything can go wrong for me in just one post.

Anyway, the drama queen has flounced off and I'm back. So sorry for making the thread all about woe me.

Been blackberry picking again tonight and from now on they are getting frozen for steamed puds in the winter. No more experiments or wine making. This feels very serious now and worried that I can't submit my online grocery order till DH paid on 15th - it's jam packed full of basic stuffs. I am tempted to press submit now for delivery on 15th. Do you think if there's no basic by then they'll substitute with the next brand up at no extra cost? I have 10 tins of basic mushy peas at 4p each. If they have non and charge me 40p per tin, that will be £4 on mushy peas instead of 40p. I'm very scared.

Fuddle a person who writes such words is not worth getting upset about. I'm glad you've reconsidered.
Now I can only speak for Mr T, but if you order value something or other they will substitute it for the next level up but not charge extra. I believe there is something on the Asda delivery note which says basically the same thing. However, I have had a case where they didn't substitute because I'd ordered 20 and it would have been just too much to price match. In any case, if there is ever a substitution you just reject it and they give you a refund.
Having a bit of a work nightmare, been waiting for approval to use something on a front cover, it's holding up the whole project, and has just been rejected, I have to re-do and submit again for approval. aaargh!!!
ETA: SDG so sorry about your friend. I'm sure your family's support will make the world of difference to them though.