make do and mend for tougher times

fuddle

I don't want to do the package holiday thing. Sitting in the sun for a couple of weeks doing nothing isn't my idea of fun but I would still love to travel and experience new things. I just hope the chance comes along for me. Have you experienced different cultures/countries when you were younger toughies (not that I'm saying you're old now though :eek: )

Byatt

fuddle wrote: »

I don't want to do the package holiday thing. Sitting in the sun for a couple of weeks doing nothing isn't my idea of fun but I would still love to travel and experience new things. I just hope the chance comes along for me. Have you experienced different cultures/countries when you were younger toughies (not that I'm saying you're old now though :eek: )

Right now, right in this moment of time, sitting in the sun for a couple of weeks and doing nothing but raise my arm to put a drink to my lips, sounds positively fanbloodytastic...:rotfl::rotfl:

and yep, I've experienced different cultures /countries, not as many as I'd like, but still...wouldn't have missed it for the world.

greenbee

Shropshirelass wrote: »

Here's another vote for home, esecially in summer, come to think of it spring autumn and winter too. The blue rinse brigade round here are always talking about their cruises (how they were upgraded), and young folks in the family about the problems of queues in airports and upset tummies in hotels and head colds from aircon in planes, sunburn, losing documents......visiting the family dahn souf and planning the odd week in Scotland is good for us now.

Right old missogs aren't we?

Nope. I get all that from work thanks. People wonder why I don't want to go abroad on holiday... As far as I'm concerned airports mean work and I don't want to spend my own time in one thanks :cool:

Mrs_Chip

Pops

I know you have said you don't want to move, but perhaps it would help if you could list down the pro's and cons of moving - this may help you see that change is not always something to be feared, but can give you new opportunities. And to move by choice is much easier to come to terms with than being forced to move by circumstance.

OH was very attached to our house in London - it had been his family home all his life, he lived there with his grandparents and parents. All his memories of home were there. He was very depressed about leaving, but realises that it was for the best and that memories are just that - it does not matter where you are.

I don't recall that you have many friends or family nearby, no particular hobbies that you need to be near too - so could you perhaps consider now that this is your chance chose to live somewhere more affordable, where you could build a life around yourself and perhaps meet some new people and find some new interests?

Often it is the way we think about change that affects how we deal with it, if you could just switch things round in your head you may find that many of your fears disappear.

nuatha

GreyQueen wrote: »

:T Good luck, Fuddle.

I'm not pestering uncloaking lurkers to make the tea any more; I'm about to move onto chocolate soliciting activities.........you wuz warned.:)

In which case I could offer you freshly made pain au choc, with callebaut batons and I'm looking for [STRIKE]mugs[/STRIKE] volunteers to test drive some lemon posset filled chocolate cups (with raspberry fondant and chocolate ganache ones to follow, when I finish working out the recipes) - chocolate I can do, its just tea that never seems to work.

Have come home from w*rk and found the shopping list which I wrote this morning and forgot to take. Which means that although I did go to the shops, I forgot the crucial stuff like milk and will have to go out again in a minute. Doh! If I had a brain I'd be dangerous. ME is such a fun illness, you end up going on an errand for 3 things and coming back without 2 of them.

The joys of ME, if you remember to put the item on the shopping list and remember to take it with you, you then have to remember to consult it and get the item that it says, not the one on the shelf above/below it. Makes recipe planning interesting.

Mrs_Chip

Hello, waves, shouts, HELLO YES PLEASE Nuatha :D:D:D:D:D

Can I just say that I don't have ME and I do that too, ALL the time. OH gets very cross

GreyQueen

nuatha wrote: »

In which case I could offer you freshly made pain au choc, with callebaut batons and I'm looking for [STRIKE]mugs[/STRIKE] volunteers to test drive some lemon posset filled chocolate cups (with raspberry fondant and chocolate ganache ones to follow, when I finish working out the recipes) - chocolate I can do, its just tea that never seems to work.



The joys of ME, if you remember to put the item on the shopping list and remember to take it with you, you then have to remember to consult it and get the item that it says, not the one on the shelf above/below it. Makes recipe planning interesting.

You know it well.

I now have milk. And a splitting headache. And I'm going to have a bath because baths are tiring and if I wait until later in the evening I'll be too tired to have one. I have lain in baths before and not been able to muster the strength to get out of them.

PS, I love the recipes detailed above, love love love them.

jackel

Hi All,

Popperwell - Just waned to say how I agree with
Mrs. Chip with regard to your housing problems. Try to think of it as an adventure. You haven't got to have just any old place if you move now. You'll have time to choose and then just think how exciting it could be choosing new furniture and making it into your own little home whist you have the other advantage of having your inheritance. It could be the start of a really wonderful phase in your life if you think about it in the right way. Good Luck with whatever you decide .

Fuddle - Good Luck with the 'job chat' fingers crossed .

jac xx.

GreyQueen

:o I'm having a really ME afternoon. Not only have I taken 2 trips to get one bottle of milk but I have just tried to put the washing into the fridge (they are side-by-side).:o:p

Oh dearie me, brain fog and then some. Good job I stopped before I put the washing powder in the butter compartment!

Pops, on a serious note, I agree with the others about starting to look around for a new place. It's always better to do something when you have room to manoever than when you are pushed. Your health probs, as described, indicate you may always have to be on benefits and once the bedroom tax has come in it'll eat away at your income until you end up making the downsizing decision but from a much poorer financial position.

Also, on a purely selfish note, a lot of people have no idea about the bedroom tax and once they do, the demand for 1 bedroom homes will predicatably skyrocket and it may well be so much harder to move on.

Anyway, that's just my two'pennorth, for what it's worth.

Gonna go throw something in the steamer and concentrate really hard as not sure combination of heat and current hazy mazy brain fog is going to be a winner.

SpikyHedgehog

smileyt wrote: »

Fuddle, he was staying the weekend because he was working in a bar for the Manchester Gay Pride weekend and he lives too far away to get home and back. Staying at my house meant he would have the chance to get some sleep. I dread the thought of him ever becoming homeless again because I just wouldn't be able to cope if he turned up at my door, so I'm not that lovely I'm afraid! I put two pillowcases on his pillow and I'm still going to have to throw that pillow away because it smells of unwashed boy. I don't know how to mention it to him so I avoid the subject but moan on here instead! He did have a couple of baths whilst he was here but obviously did not wash his hair! I'm not very tidy but my bathroom is spotless and my kitchen is usually very clean and the dishes etc are also always spotlessly clean, clothes and bedding washed regularly etc. I have a real problem with smelly people and it's a physical reaction that I struggle to control - they make me physically nauseous.

I have no idea why your greaseproof paper isn't greaseproof, I'm afraid! :rotfl:

Right, I am off to do some cleaning (waves mop and cleaning cloth in an insane manner ....).

Smiley, you could try washing the pillow too before throwing it? Unless you have lots of pillows, in which case, get rid of it! I threw away 1 of DS1's the other day that had come out of the machine horribly misshapen...

fuddle wrote: »

pops as you're with the same HA that are around here I can tell you that here there is a bidding system for houses. You apply to the HA/council, they give you a grading and you choose the properties you want to go for. If someone with a greater need (higher grading) bids for the property then they get it.

I would also say that your health and mobility issues would mean you would qualify for a greater need than I would. Give it a try, you might find fine something
You choose

https://www.durhamkeyoptions.co.uk/Data/ASPPages/1/35.aspx

thats all the properties up at the moment https://www.durhamkeyoptions.co.uk/Data/ASPPages/1/43.aspx as you're with a HA already you may be able to go in for a swap

There are sites you can sign up to for local authority housing transfers, will find a link later from the pc& post it.

fuddle wrote: »

I don't want to do the package holiday thing. Sitting in the sun for a couple of weeks doing nothing isn't my idea of fun but I would still love to travel and experience new things. I just hope the chance comes along for me. Have you experienced different cultures/countries when you were younger toughies (not that I'm saying you're old now though :eek: )

I spent 2 weeks in the Maldives on honeymoon, which was lovely, but we didn't do much exploring as you can't really there; as a family we went to the same place in Corfu, which was better for the exploration & meeting different people. We were self catering though, so I got to do cooking & washing & putting DS2 to bed while then-DH & DS1 were in the bar or at a club...

I've been to Cornwall & Devon on holiday with my family where again we've been self catering so we've cooked & washed clothes & gone to the supermarket... But we've also done exploring the area & visiting different castles & gardens & beaches, & had enough people so when my dad & brother went fishing, mum, sis & I had each other to talk to & share putting children to bed.