make do and mend for tougher times

Byatt

VJ'mum, what an exciting time you had. And I do admire how you drove around America, I am such a wimp, I break out in a sweat just thinking about it! I visited Intercourse too, back in the 80's, wasn't shown around by the Amish, as I'm not sure they were doing that back then. I felt uncomfortable taking random pictures of the Amish, so didn't but others in my group did.

Saw lots of horse and carriages.

Isn't it odd that they are making money from tobacco, considering their beliefs.

Sorry about your OH's passport though, was it traced? And hope the job news is bearable.

smileyt_2

Absolutely off topic, but a quick straw poll .... if you received an anonymous bouquet of flowers, would you be secretly pleased or would it freak you out thinking you had a mad stalker on your case?

A friend is asking me for advice and I don't know what to say!! He is too shy to approach the lady in question although how he expects an anonymous bunch of flowers to work (they're anonymous!!) I don't know. I think he is going for the softly, softly approach. This is a lady he works with so he will be able to see her reaction if he sends them.

Help!

fuddle

It would make my day

katieowl_2

Popperwell wrote: »

If I buy some electric blankets as well as the mattresses soon which is best?

Over or under blanket? And one that you switch off or keep on all the time?

The last electric blanket I saw was over 30 years ago and belonged to my grandma and was just like a little pink fleeece type thing, she put it on maybe half an hour before going to bed and then switched it off. Think it was an under blanket.

We've got an electric underblanket, it's got a timer thingy on it, so you can have it on low and then it switches off. It heats up in ten mins, and then if you bung it on low, you can sleep with it on on the lower settings. I wouldn't be without it. It means we don't need any heat in the bedroom. Very frugal IMHO

Kate

LavenderBees

smileyt wrote: »

Absolutely off topic, but a quick straw poll .... if you received an anonymous bouquet of flowers, would you be secretly pleased or would it freak you out thinking you had a mad stalker on your case?

A friend is asking me for advice and I don't know what to say!! He is too shy to approach the lady in question although how he expects an anonymous bunch of flowers to work (they're anonymous!!) I don't know. I think he is going for the softly, softly approach. This is a lady he works with so he will be able to see her reaction if he sends them.

Help!

I'd be a bit spooked, I think...

Does he have any reason to believe this lady likes him as more than a friend or what her particular circumstances are at home etc etc...

Had another thought - what's his plan if she seems happy to receive them or indeed, unhappy...and what if she thinks they're from someone else....my goodness the permutations on this being misunderstood are endless...:eek: even if romantic...Ahhhh!

Personally, the oblique approach wouldn't work with me...I'd rather someone just said they enjoyed my company and suggested a lunch or something...

bossymoo

I'd love flowers! Even a bunch of daffs for a quid cheers me up!

Ooh, and a secret admirer? Wouldn't mind one of those too lol

smileyt_2

fuddle wrote: »

It would make my day

LavenderBees wrote: »

I'd be a bit spooked, I think...

Does he have any reason to believe this lady likes him as more than a friend or what her particular circumstances are at home etc etc...

Hmmm a difference of opinion! LavenderBees, as far as I know the lady in question is quite a private and reserved and very 'professional' person and my friend is painfully shy. I don't think she has a partner, although of course that doesn't necessarily mean she is looking for one! I guess he has to think about what the effect on her will be ie she might be horrified and constantly looking out for signs from her colleagues to see if they were the one who sent the flowers. Or she might be pleased, if embarrassed. Or she might just shrug it off as a distraction from her work!

I think he is reaching bursting point and feels he has to DO something!

ETA I don't think he's thought beyond the flowers. I have told him if he goes ahead with it not to send a dozen red roses as that's a bit cliched!

ETA even more: what if he put on the message something along the lines of 'I'm not a crazed lunatic stalker madman'?!!

katieowl_2

smileyt wrote: »

Hmmm a difference of opinion! LavenderBees, as far as I know the lady in question is quite a private and reserved and very 'professional' person and my friend is painfully shy. I don't think she has a partner, although of course that doesn't necessarily mean she is looking for one! I guess he has to think about what the effect on her will be ie she might be horrified and constantly looking out for signs from her colleagues to see if they were the one who sent the flowers. Or she might be pleased, if embarrassed. Or she might just shrug it off as a distraction from her work!

I think he is reaching bursting point and feels he has to DO something!

ETA I don't think he's thought beyond the flowers. I have told him if he goes ahead with it not to send a dozen red roses as that's a bit cliched!

ETA even more: what if he put on the message something along the lines of 'I'm not a crazed lunatic stalker madman'?!!

My grandmother who was a barking mad old bat for the most part, had one sound quote which she used regularly....If in doubt don't! Of course this would leave all of those who suggest that in life one should be impulsive and reach for ones dreams, shuddering with horror, but it does quite effectively shield you from things going too pear shaped, until you've thought it all through properly.

I think it unwise to spring flowers on her at work... for my ha'ppenorth. If she's a very private person, she won't want to be the talk of the office. I think he needs to think of a better way of finding out if he will be rebuffed!

Kate

LavenderBees

katieowl wrote: »

My grandmother who was a barking mad old bat for the most part, had one sound quote which she used regularly....If in doubt don't! Of course this would leave all of those who suggest that in life one should be impulsive and reach for ones dreams, shuddering with horror, but it does quite effectively shield you from things going too pear shaped, until you've thought it all through properly.

I think it unwise to spring flowers on her at work... for my ha'ppenorth. If she's a very private person, she won't want to be the talk of the office. I think he needs to think of a better way of finding out if he will be rebuffed!

Kate

Yes, Kate, I agree...work is such a public place...I once was sent a card (Val's Day) by someone at work, and, as I was in a relationship it caused a bit of a problem...but also I then spent months on my guard to make sure I didn't encourage ANYONE to think I wanted anything other than a professional friendly relationship with them. It was a bit wearing, tbh, and on the day itself, I felt very embarassed. Of course, it was a 9 day wonder...

I'd counsel against it, though it's a lovely romantic thought.

LavenderBees

smileyt wrote: »

I think he is reaching bursting point and feels he has to DO something!

ETA even more: what if he put on the message something along the lines of 'I'm not a crazed lunatic stalker madman'?!!

I'd simply think he was protesting too much and WAS a "crazed lunatic stalker madman"...:rotfl:He can't win on this one unfortunately....mind some might like stalker madmen...

He needs to know the lady better, methinks...I'd suggest he starts by talking to her about anything...something easy, innocuous, something they have an interest in common (maybe he already does this, if they work closely togther) and then, if she seems interested and approachable, asks her out for a sandwich at lunchtime to continue the discussion...easy :rotfl:

Sez the girl, who has been single so long she'd freeze if anyone told her they liked her...:o