make do and mend for tougher times

kidcat

Personally I would be pleased but then I always attract wierdos!!!

Molly41

Re the Amish. I was very lucky to visit an Old Order Armish midwife in her home when I was in America for a Midwifery course. It was absolutely fascinating and I would be happy to share my reflective account with you if interested - well the Amish bit.

Byatt

Smiley, it's stalkerish or could be seen as such. If he didn't work with her, maybe, but only maybe, it would be okish.

She might be utterly mortified to have the whole office see this happen. I knwo I would hate to be cause for the office gossip to have a field day, however well intentioned.

He needs to man up and as LB suggests ask her to join him for a sandwich at lunchtime or a coffee...something less dramatic. Things that work in films don't necessarily translate well to real life.

Once he's done the flower thing, there's no turning the clock back. eta, just because her reaction could be positive to the flowers, doesn't mean it would be positive if she knew who sent them. She also might have secret longings for a totally different person.

Byatt

Molly41 wrote: »

Re the Amish. I was very lucky to visit an Old Order Armish midwife in her home when I was in America for a Midwifery course. It was absolutely fascinating and I would be happy to share my reflective account with you if interested - well the Amish bit.

I don't know if you were talking to me or Vj, but I would be very interested.

LavenderBees

Byatt wrote: »

She also might have secret longings for a totally different person.

Yes, that's one of the permutations I thought of too.

Last one from me on this subject...when I got together with my ex (he also worked t the same place), we kept it quiet at work for months and months as we didn't want to be the subject of gossip. Maybe it's just me, but I really really wouldn't want my private life to be the talk of the work place.

These days I sometimes wish there was something for people to gossip about

And finally, I'd be surprised if your friend doesn't have some inkling whether this lady likes him or not, as she'd likely have a special twinkle around him if she did. If he doesn't know, then I suggest that it's very possible that she doesn't think of him in that way at all...in which case he's onto a loser....

But good luck to him if he does or says anything. I hope it goes well. Unrequited love is painful...:(

Pooky

I think I'd get a bit freaked out with annonomous flowers, maybe a single flower left on her desk with a little gift tag on saying something alone the lines of "just to make you smile, "insert name" ". Harmless and a conversation opener, when she thanks him he could suggest going for a drink sometime etc.

VJ - very brave of you to drive around America like that, hope you had fun, what great memories for your kids. Pain in the posterior about DHs passport though.

Just been CS shopping with DD2, trying to get her out of the mindset of primarni/throw away fashions. Found one shop with tops on BOGOF she picked two really decent quality ones, £1 for the two. The next shop she fell in love with a gorgeous floaty tea dress, it was marked at £4 (it's a Jane Norman dress so wouldn't have cheap) the lady at the till let her have it for £2 as she was so impressed to see a teenager embracing CS shopping! Next shop along had skirts and shorts reduced to £1 an item and I got some jeans shorts and a very soft grey needlecord flarey skirt that sits just on the knee, will look great with thick tights and boots. Got it home and found the shorts had a £5 note in the pocket! :T so free shopping!

SpikyHedgehog

Possession wrote: »

I think an underblanket Pops, but do be strict with yourself about switching them off or use a timer, I know two people who had serious house fires because of electric blankets, so serious that I won't have them in the house.

I had an electric blanket when at home in my parents' unheated single glazed house & it was lovely. But since having children I won't have 1 in case someone wets the bed...

smileyt wrote: »

Absolutely off topic, but a quick straw poll .... if you received an anonymous bouquet of flowers, would you be secretly pleased or would it freak you out thinking you had a mad stalker on your case?

A friend is asking me for advice and I don't know what to say!! He is too shy to approach the lady in question although how he expects an anonymous bunch of flowers to work (they're anonymous!!) I don't know. I think he is going for the softly, softly approach. This is a lady he works with so he will be able to see her reaction if he sends them.

Help!

I'd be freaked. I'm currently very wary of posting stuff on freecycle after getting rid of something on there & having the collector send a few emails which set of my 'stalkometer'.

If he knows she loves a certain flower, plant, drink etc, giving her that discreetly but in person could give him an idea about how she feels if he doesn't have 1. Going with a fairly casual 'i know you love lavendar & were saying about wanting some so saw this & got it for you'.

LavenderBees

SpikyHedgehog wrote: »

I had an electric blanket when at home in my parents' unheated single glazed house & it was lovely. But since having children I won't have 1 in case someone wets the bed...



I'd be freaked. I'm currently very wary of posting stuff on freecycle after getting rid of something on there & having the collector send a few emails which set of my 'stalkometer'.

If he knows she loves a certain flower, plant, drink etc, giving her that discreetly but in person could give him an idea about how she feels if he doesn't have 1. Going with a fairly casual 'i know you love lavendar & were saying about wanting some so saw this & got it for you'.

I like the idea of this more, but even that, at work, could make her feel obligated and embarassed. And they still have to work together if she refuses. Oh, it's a difficult one, definitely as faint heart never won fair woman...or whatever the saying is.

Anyway, a straw poll on the girls at work here today, had every one of them turn down their faces, and look/say they'd feel a bit creeped out by anonymous flowers ...so it's unanimous here. Also, they all agree that he will have an inkling if she likes him...and if he doesn't then not to waste his money..

Perhaps, we're very unromantic this far north :rotfl:.

Kittikins

Another NO vote from me as well, and I'm someone who has in the post had a relationship with a colleague....he needs to stop being shy and talk to her!

meme30

kidcat wrote: »

Fuddle I strongly recommend Ikea bag gardening, it takes little space and really works - I have grown potatoes,courgettes, pumpkins, tomatoes, onions and garlic this way. If you cant get hold of Ikea bags then any large strong bag will do. I think last year someone used Mr T wine bottle bags which are even smaller.

VJsmum - hope all goes well tomorrow for your OH.

I have two wine bags hanging on our south-facing wall with Tumbling Tomatoes in them. Worked great and the snails did not find them!:rotfl:

Unfortunately the snails did get in to my I*ea bag, but Fennel, Tomatoes and Salad Leaves did really well