Ex making our lives miserable

bournemouthboo

pearl123 wrote: »

"Ex works shifts so would be hard to have fixed arrangements although I'm starting to think I should just fix a day if he is working he is working."

Although I can get the general gist of what you are saying your first message was much clearer to understand. It is easier for people who don't know you nor your circumstances if you write as clearly as possible that way we will be able to help you better.

Also when the language gets sloppy or difficult to understand (like the person does not care what they are writting) we tend to jump to the conclusion that sometimes it is a troll.
We all make errors, I'm dyslexic, but you do need to be write clearly so we can understand your issues properly.

What is a troll?

bournemouthboo

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Good. Then withdraw access. He'll have to fight to see him.

My partner has full custody of his girls. His ex was paying her daughters to lie and all sorts. She put up a big fight. All lies. Courts usually sway towards the mum but in this case the dad got them. And rightly so. She is only allowed supervised contact. And even then she rarely shows as she's usually away getting drunk

Thank you. Is that reviewable or is that until they are adults?

meer53

Pearl123 - i don't really know what you mean ? Whats hard to understand ?

The OP says her ex works shifts so it would be difficult to have a fixed arrangement. She then goes on to say that maybe she should just agree to fixed days for contact, and if he happens to be working then thats his problem ?

I understood everything the OP wrote, what didn't you understand ?

meer53

bournemouthboo wrote: »

What is a troll?

Don't worry about Pearl123's post about trolls, just keep posting.:)

If i were you (and i have an ex and 2 children) just tell your ex that your son doesn't want to see him and until he does, thats how it's going to be.

pearl123

bournemouthboo wrote: »

I am sorry that it was not written well enough first post was on a computer the rest have been on a phone so its hard to check what I am writing. I will be more careful in future.

My ex works shifts so it is hard to book a set day as some weeks he would be working that day.

No worries. And no need to apologise.

shellsuit

pearl123 wrote: »

"Ex works shifts so would be hard to have fixed arrangements although I'm starting to think I should just fix a day if he is working he is working."

Although I can get the general gist of what you are saying your first message was much clearer to understand. It is easier for people who don't know you nor your circumstances if you write as clearly as possible that way we will be able to help you better.

Also when the language gets sloppy or difficult to understand (like the person does not care what they are writting) we tend to jump to the conclusion that sometimes it is a troll.
We all make errors, I'm dyslexic, but you do need to be write clearly so we can understand your issues properly.

Can you help the OP, rather than critisise her typing skills?

And who is 'we'? I fully understood exactly what she meant.


ETA :

Maybe it's you getting confused actually.

You have quoted somebody further up the thread, yet your response to it, is for the OP, which is confusing.

meer53

shellsuit wrote: »

Can you help the OP, rather than critisise her typing skills?

And who is 'we'? I fully understood exactly what she meant.


ETA :

Maybe it's you getting confused actually.

You have quoted somebody further up the thread, yet your response to it, is for the OP, which is confusing.

I just noticed that too, hope the OP does or it will get REALLY confusing !

pearl123

The seemed to me to be a marked contrast between the first message and the one I highlighted. OP has stated why there should be a difference between the two written comments.
I also stated that I had gained the gist of what she was saying.
I stated in message 26 to bournmouthboo "no worries", to OP and also stated that "she had no need to apologise to me."
So I think everything was cleared up.

bournemouthboo

meer53 wrote: »

Don't worry about Pearl123's post about trolls, just keep posting.:)

If i were you (and i have an ex and 2 children) just tell your ex that your son doesn't want to see him and until he does, thats how it's going to be.

Would you call or text or e-mail? How do I say it. I know it sound silly.

I was thinking about a letter. Just saying that it has gone too far and our son is not wanting to see him because he will say negative things which upset him and give him some examples. Advise he see's a solicitor and we can go forward in the best interests of our son?

If he doesn't see him does he still pay maintanence or does that stop as he told me a few months back he would stop paying me if I ever took HIS son away from him. Its through the CSA.

newcook

he still has to pay maintenance - money and access are 2 seperate issues!