Separation, Divorce and a new relationship

BitterAndTwisted

Might also be worth googling the term "gold-digger" while you're at it.

OK, let's start a poll among the female posters on here:

How many of us would have been chatting online to some stranger for a short while, maybe then met him once or twice and thought you got along OK. How long would it be before you mentioned the "M" word?

In my case it would probably be "never" for fear of seeing him head towards the far horizon.

System

Ask her if she has a British passport. If she doesnt, she wants one.

Before you know it, you marry her, get her a British passport and her kids will start piling into the country.

BitterAndTwisted

She's from Poland so she doesn't need a British passport to be able to live and work here.


Doesn't mean that she's not a fast-worker.

warwicktiger

She is an EU national and does not need a British passport. We ave met on dates 10(ish) times. The possibility of a gold digger and my defences against that possibility were what made me post originally.

System

apologies

KateLiana27

warwicktiger wrote: »

She is an EU national and does not need a British passport. We ave met on dates 10(ish) times. The possibility of a gold digger and my defences against that possibility were what made me post originally.

You have good instincts.

It used to be that not going through a marriage ceremony was defence enough. Increasingly that's not the case - see BitterandTwisted's post for how an unscrupulous ex-cohabitee can "get you".

In your position, I'd insist on at least a year before considering moving in together. What's the rush?

Ah, I'm cynical.

To answer your original questions - no, you wouldn't have to tell the bank if the mortgage is in your name, and yes, you can assume she would be entitled to half of everything if you marry and then divorce.

BitterAndTwisted

warwicktiger wrote: »

She is an EU national and does not need a British passport. We have met on dates 10(ish) times. The possibility of a gold digger and my defences against that possibility were what made me post originally.

In which case I direct you to the first post I made on this thread and suggest that you pay very close attention to my advice.

She's obviously trying to rush things but you don't need to be dragged along in her wake if that's not where you want to go.

If you haven't actually see this Polish passport of hers I reckon that she's more likely to be Ukranian and in dire need of residency

Person_one

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

OK, let's start a poll among the female posters on here:

How many of us would have been chatting online to some stranger for a short while, maybe then met him once or twice and thought you got along OK. How long would it be before you mentioned the "M" word?

About a year, maybe 18 months.

Some women do get massively carried away without having ulterior financial motives though. I have a friend who's been 'engaged' to every man she's ever had a relationship with, wedding industry brainwashing is strong!

Errata

warwicktiger wrote: »

She is an EU national and does not need a British passport. We ave met on dates 10(ish) times. The possibility of a gold digger and my defences against that possibility were what made me post originally.

You've met ten times and she's making marriage noises :eek: Get your running shoes on matey and remember, the odds of meeting up with someone on the net are good, but the goods are often odd.

System

Ok, this might be genuine but i have my doubts. Whats the rush into marriage?

Marry in haste, repent in leisure.