Why don't people say thankyou?

merlin68

It's really starting to pee me of. My oh is really kind hearted and often does things for other people, or gives them lifts in the car.
I've told him not to bother any more.

sassyblue

Aah well your OH has obviously been too nice and now his help is 'expected' rather than 'appreciated'.

A thankyou costs nothing, they should be ashamed of themselves. A workmate gave me a lift for a week when my car broke down, even though he goes past my house everyday l bought him some of the chocolate bars and snacks he eats at work every day as a thankyou and made sure l said it everyday too.

Just manners!

Hermia

merlin68 wrote: »

It's really starting to pee me of. My oh is really kind hearted and often does things for other people, or gives them lifts in the car.
I've told him not to bother any more.

I think a lot of people are just takers. I also think that some people don't realise the effort involved if it's something they know nothing about. For example, I have found the people who tend to be least grateful about getting a lift are the people who have never driven. I think they just don't realise how much driving costs or how tiring it can be.

I am happy to help people, but I am selective about who I offer my help to. I never just jump in and offer help. I always have a quick think about it and decide what I am happy doing before I say anything.

gingin_2

Do you mean it literally, or do you mean he feels disappointed that people don't offer something back in return? I can't imagine someone would get out of the car and not say at least "cheers mate"?

thebaileys

Its something that really annoys me, I also go out of my way to keep the door open for people, help them on the bus with buggies etc...

I always make sure I say thank you,but other people don't seem to bother anymore...

Spidergirl76

I think some people are seriously lacking in manners tbh.

One of my friends is a bit of a taker and has had bags full of clothes from me for her DDs, maternity clothes for herself, and endless drinks and lunches from me when she's forgotten her purse, and I think these days she has come to expect it as she barely grunts a 'thank you'. I have seen her thanking others profusely for doing something far less than the things I've done for her. I never want anything back in return if I do favours/give something but it is nice to be appreciated once in a while and for people to acknowledge that you do help them out.

All I can suggest is if your DH feels very un-thanked, that he stops doing favours for that particular person.

skintchick

I do that passive aggressive thing of saying "you're welcome" when people don't thank me. They don't even notice but it makes me feel better.

Although it is even better when my DD who is two says "that yady didn't say fankoo mummy" because she is loud and they can always hear her!

marleyboy

merlin68 wrote: »

It's really starting to pee me of. My oh is really kind hearted and often does things for other people, or gives them lifts in the car.
I've told him not to bother any more.

I teach my chldren to NEVER accept lifts and not to talk to strangers.

jackieb

I say thank you all the time (where warranted). A few times i've even said thank you to the ATM when i've taken money out. Thats embarrassing though, as it's out before I realise it, especially if there's someone behind you.

thebaileys

skintchick-I do that, I was out for tea and kept a door open, and a girl just walked through without saying anything! So I said 'Thank you' in my most sarcastic voice! I hope the adults with no manners are ashamed when your daughter notices there bad manners!

Lotus-eater

skintchick wrote: »

I do that passive aggressive thing of saying "you're welcome" when people don't thank me. They don't even notice but it makes me feel better.

I do that , a couple of times a lady has shaken herself out of whatever dreamworld she was in and said sorry and thankyou. Most of the time they waltz through without noticing.

However, I still carry on opening doors and being polite. I'm going to continue to do what I consider the right thing, no matter what the world around me is doing or thinks.