how soon would you tell your manager you were pregnant?

sassyblue

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

I understand what you are saying we have been trying for years and have been having fertility treatment for the last 3 months ( I only get 6 months then that's it as I'm not entitled to IVF on the NHS) so I had to take it when I was given it, when I started the job I told my work straight away as I have to have hospital appointments every 3 months but tbh wasn't expecting to get pregnant as I haven't been able to since dating my partner 7 years ago as I don't ovulate ( maybe to much info for you but thought I should explain the situation )

Given your situation l would tell them ASAP, you wouldn't forgive yourself if something happened - even if there was nothing you could have done you'd always blame yourself. I've been there

Congrats btw Hope all goes well for you and your precious bundle. xx

tea_lover

If you're not happy with your current working conditions then personally I'd tell them sooner rather than later. Employers have a legal duty to make adjustments where necessary, or to suspend on full pay if adjustments really can't be made.

FWIW, I've been TTC for 3 yrs and am now facing redundancy so chances are I'll soon be with another employer. Although not ideal for the employer I won't be stopping my fertility treatment if I do get a new job.

Sometimes you really do just have to put yourself first. It's a big employer by the sounds of it so I'm sure they'll cope. Best of luck x.

carolan78

Gigglepig wrote: »

If you have only been there 7 month I wouldn't be surprised if they are not very sympathetic.

I obviously don't know anything about your circumstances, but as a pregnant woman myself I would not dream of taking a job and trying for a baby within months (unless forced t by redundancy and there were medical reasons not to delay). I just would not find that professional and would be concerned that the employer thought I was taking the pi** and exploiting their maternity leave policies. But again, it may depend on whether you see it as a career or a casual job and how difficult it would be for your employer to find and pay for a temporary replacement.

If it is who I am thinking of I wouldn't tell them just yet. The ones local to me aren't very sympathetic.

hngrymummy

I have to tell my company straight away, as my job has a lot of manual labour involved, and the chance of being sent to visit sites with contamination in the soil, eg heavy metals, asbestos, chemicals etc.

If you are having trouble standing, but don't want to tell the company officially just yet, could you have a quiet word with your manager first?

shellsuit

I told mine ASAP, because I had the urge to pee all the time, had nausea (which is no good when you're working in a butchers/bakery!) and I didn't want to be lifting the big metal trays around.

They did a risk assessment, which was fabulous!

"Don't lift anything heavy"

So it was fine for me to stand for 7 hours and to lean in out of cabinets (lower than hip height some of them so you would lean in on your tummy) day in day out.

I ended up with sciatica and SPD in the end, from being on my feet all the time so was signed off sick @16 weeks.


I would tell them now if I were you. Better to be safe than sorry, you need to look after that little one x

amus

Dont worry about telling your employer, if theres any funny business there's equality legislation in place, after all how would you getting pregnant affect your partners career prospects? (It wouldnt, hence the equality legislation ).

In fact Im applying for a promotion in work whilst pregnant, I dont see why the fact that I was born with ovaries should affect my career progression when I fully intend on returning to work. But thats one for Discussion Time!

Back to the OP, you tell them whenever you feel comfortable, but if you are starting to feel you will need adjustments, it is probably better you tell them sooner rather than later.

Gigglepig

amus wrote: »

Dont worry about telling your employer, if theres any funny business there's equality legislation in place, after all how would you getting pregnant affect your partners career prospects? (It wouldnt, hence the equality legislation ).

If your OH told his employer that mum will go back to work asap and he intended to take full 28 weeks paternity leave, I reckon the pregnancy may impact his career prospects as well.

Although the legislation is in place, sadly pregnant women do not always have good experiences. There are many interesting reports published on this, for example http://www.equalityhumanrights.com/uploaded_files/eoc_pregnancygfi_interim_report.pdf

Kitten_Pie

I was in my job for 3 years, TTC with no luck and told that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant naturally. So I started with another company knowing that sods law would help. Within 6 weeks of starting I was pregnant. I waited until my glowing 3 month appraisal before telling them.

I gave birth in October and was pregnant 6 weeks later, as I was on maternity leave and wasn't seeing any colleagues I didn't tell them until I legally had to at 24 weeks. It is a personal choice depending on the type of work you do.

I do feel guilty having been off for so long and going on maternity again after only working for them for a short time, but in reality my family comes first and sometimes fate takes a course you have no choice over.

fly_dragon_fly

hello,

Thought I'd update this.

I told my employer shortly after typing this and they have been great all the way, I'm not aloud to move heavy cages / lift the baskets etc and if i need a break i just have to ask, they are so understand i am so grateful my 2 main bosses are both males and are both so caring and considerate always asking how i am feeling and how it's all coming along, I'll be 3 months tomorrow and have my scan on Friday so hope everything is still ok

lollipopsarah

I'm so pleased to hear your update, thankyou.
My daughter is nearing her first scan (fingers crossed) but her work won't do anything without proof of pregnancy - grrr, and I'm worried about her as she is so tiny and works so bliddy hard, bless her.
Best wishes.
xx