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Mojisola

thisworldisdumb wrote: »

So you're asking people who don't know you, complete strangers, on a moneysaving site, whether to 'carry on with it'?! You're asking advice regarding the life of your unborn child on MSE? I despair of this world .... totally idiot doesn't even begin to describe it

Don't forget about being polite to all moneysavers!

I doubt she's going to do what any of us individually suggests but hearing the opinions of others - even complete strangers - can crystallise your own feelings and help you make your own decision.

azzabazza

thisworldisdumb wrote: »

So you're asking people who don't know you, complete strangers, on a moneysaving site, whether to 'carry on with it'?! You're asking advice regarding the life of your unborn child on MSE? I despair of this world .... totally idiot doesn't even begin to describe it

A little harsh I feel. The OP is clearly distressed and in need of some support. It is sometimes easier to turn to strangers rather than the people close to you in these circumstances.

I am sure if she can receive counselling asap it will help her make the right choice for her, her partner and her two sons.

thisworldisdumb

'Totally idiot' ... those were her words, not mine. And I was expressing my opinion, just as the OP had requested. A matter as serious as pregnancy/termination doesn't belong on MSE but that's just my opinion.

Yorkie1

thisworldisdumb wrote: »

'Totally idiot' ... those were her words, not mine. And I was expressing my opinion, just as the OP had requested. A matter as serious as pregnancy/termination doesn't belong on MSE but that's just my opinion.

Says the person who has only made 2 posts in total, both on this thread, and presumably joined just to post.

determined_new_ms

Had to post to say one of my best friend's ex was v abusive nd when she split up her son stayed with the father. He turned her son against her and he didn't speak to her for several years. Until he became an adult, children want their parents, it's a fact of life. Lots of children forgive their parents even ones who have made a lot of mistakes as long as when they are adults they are loving and kind parents. Take heart, this will come to pass.

Nd another of my friends has just had her 3rd child at 37. Her first was at 18, her 2nd at 33. She says it is the most magical time of her life - although exhausting! - she enjoys parenthood so much more now. If ur new partner is a good man and will be a good father then consider whether this is what u want x

Eta I have just become involved in a charity which offers counselling to women who have found themselves in an unplanned pregnancy. If u pm me I will forward you the phone number and you can talk this through with someone trained to help you with the confusion and what you want to do x

thisworldisdumb

I am so sorry if my post came accross as harsh. I also apologise to the OP if I caused any offence. I am glad that MSE is able to help you with your decision regarding your unborn child, what a help this site must be. And I did not register just to post on this thread, I am unfamiliar with this site and was having a browse. Apologies to those I upset.

January20

thisworldisdumb wrote: »

I am so sorry if my post came accross as harsh. I also apologise to the OP if I caused any offence. I am glad that MSE is able to help you with your decision regarding your unborn child, what a help this site must be. And I did not register just to post on this thread, I am unfamiliar with this site and was having a browse. Apologies to those I upset.

Although, to a certain extent I understand your point, I think with a tricky situation like this, it's not always easily, or even sensible to ask friends and family. They may not tell you their true thoughts for fear of offending you, they may have an agenda or they may then feel that they have a right to comment on your later choices. Asking strangers on a forum like this removes these problems and you get a lot of different opinions and anecdotes from people who don't know you and have nothing to gain or to lose from giving you their advice/ opinion.

Toooldforthis

Thanks again for all
The replies .... I came here for some impartial advice ... My close friends are too close ( if that makes sense and my family even closer ) added to the fact that not many people have met my oh out of respect for my boys
I am feeling that I want to continue just bloody confused & petrified !

Toooldforthis

thisworldisdumb wrote: »

I am so sorry if my post came accross as harsh. I also apologise to the OP if I caused any offence. I am glad that MSE is able to help you with your decision regarding your unborn child, what a help this site must be. And I did not register just to post on this thread, I am unfamiliar with this site and was having a browse. Apologies to those I upset.

Mmmm nice dig ! Now dont you worry I wouldn't make a life changing decision based on a website but I am very grateful for the support and guidance that I have received . Maybe you should unjoin if it offends you so much

Torry_Quine

Toooldforthis wrote: »

Thanks again for all
The replies .... I came here for some impartial advice ... My close friends are too close ( if that makes sense and my family even closer ) added to the fact that not many people have met my oh out of respect for my boys
I am feeling that I want to continue just bloody confused & petrified !

Have you been able to get the counselling you mentioned?