Help !

JustinCredibleGillespie

My mum had a wee 'late' one when she was 38, can I just say it was the best thing to ever happen to her. He is the light of her life and we all love him to bits. The age gap between my little bro and my other siblings is 14+ years, for me its a 20 yr gap. He is a little pleasure and my mum now being 44, she loves having the patience to help him with his homeworks and enjoying him grow up.

Whatever you choose, all is not lost. This little baby could be the making of you, and he/she could bring alot of happiness to your life.

Take Care

JCG

xx

Mojisola

Toooldforthis wrote: »

I just can't ever remember a time in my life when I have made my own decisions and have been "me" I've always been someone's wife or the boys mum never me

Being a mother or someone's partner doesn't stop you from being you. As that's been your pattern in the past, think about having some counselling so that you can make sure that you're you first even if you're also a wife/partner/mother/daughter/carer or whatever.

Don't lose yourself again. Enjoy the rest of your life!

Toooldforthis

Thanks everyone got lots to think about !! Am on list for counselling

harrys_nan

meritaten wrote: »

Congratulations! or Commiserations.
Hun - Leaving your boys out of the equation.......how do you really feel about a baby?
Your age is neither here nor there, many women have children at this age and you are not exactly in your dotage are you?
I am not going to say it will be easy - but, you and your partner must discuss this together and decide what you will do. many many people start a second family in their late thirties or forties - it is not unusual these days.
I think you have to look to your own happiness hun - and do what your heart tells you.

I think this say's it all.

Dont let anything in the past upset your future, Your not old at all, many women do not even start having their families until they are your age.
Wishing you the best whatever you decide

daska

39 isn't too old at all, I celebrated my 40th when DS2 was a babe in arms - and there's 21 years between him and his oldest step-sibling and he is absolutely doted on so you may find that a new sibling could pull your children together.

I would however caution you make a firm promise to yourself right now that if your new partner turns out to be another stinker you won't put up with it for any longer than it takes to pack a suitcase.

Best of luck

Toooldforthis

Gawd I'm more confused ever moment of every day !!!

meritaten

why? because you are trying to please everyone? DON'T! Listen to your heart hun, do what you feel is right for you and bu99er everyone else!

atrixblue.-MFR-.

your life is your own, your decisions are your own.

if it feels right then it is right.

have a chat with your partner involve his opinion, go through you concerns with him.

overtime people change and your boys may come round one day saying OMG dad was so wrong, and were too gullable to listen weve grown up and realised for our own what we want in our lives!not what he thinks should be in our lives. OH Boy a brother or sister WOW!.

take the time as theres plenty to make a decision.

Torry_Quine

Toooldforthis wrote: »

Gawd I'm more confused ever moment of every day !!!

It's hard but you need to concentrate on you.

thisworldisdumb

Toooldforthis wrote: »

Would I be a totally idiot to carry on with it bearing inind my age and what's happened with my sons

So you're asking people who don't know you, complete strangers, on a moneysaving site, whether to 'carry on with it'?! You're asking advice regarding the life of your unborn child on MSE? I despair of this world .... totally idiot doesn't even begin to describe it