Right to temporary custody of son whilst Mother is absent from UK

fluffnutter

Has this been to court? If she refused to turn up, I can't see how it resulted in a mere one hour's access per month for you.

I'm trying not to be cynical here, but there sounds like an awful lot you're not telling us.

Cat501

Forget your ex for the moment. My question is, why has the court awarded you so little access?

Davey0001

Yes it went to court. She attended the court building but refused to come into the courtroom.
Really there is nothing much I'm not telling. No history of violence. No police involvement in the relationship.
I tried and tried and tried to get access. I would go to the house at an agreed time and she wouldn't be there. etc etc
Eventually she blocked all access. I had to take it to court and now all this. As soon as I get a smidgeon of access she decides she's leaving the country. All presented as a fait accompli.

Davey0001

Cafcass initially said that contact should start small to help my son get used to me. That sounded reasonable at the time. But 6 months later nothing has changed.

The supervised element was also just an initial thing - but the ex has made it mandatory (in her mind). She is doing everything to prevent me having any involvement in my childs life.

Gigglepig

If you actually seriously consider showing up on their doorstep like that while she's away despite your current court order then call me cynical but I think it doesn't give a great impression of someone having good judgment.

Moving abroad is really stressful, and it makes perfect sense for your ex to travel ahead to sort out a few things before your son joins her.

If your contact order is for 1hr supervised access a month, imagine what the shock, disruption and stress would be not just to her but to your son, if you just showed up like that - in the middle of the stressful period of moving to a new country.

Misstress

If i were you I'd get legal advice and hopefully if it is allowed then spend the best 10 days of yours and your sons life together!

Children need their dads. Hope what you've told us is genuine though.

fluffnutter

Davey0001 wrote: »

She had blocked all access and is now only allowing 1 hour per month supervised.

Davey0001 wrote: »

No... it turns out the court has not ordered supervised access at all. I have a contact order for 1 hour a month. No mention of supervised.

This doesn't make sense. First you say you have supervised access, then you say 'actually it's not supervised'. So which is it? Is there someone always present when you see your son? If so, is this court-mandated? If it's not court-mandated why does someone have to be there?

For something so important, i.e. whether the sole hour you have with your son each month needs to be supervised or not, you seem worryingly vague.

Cat501

I'm becoming more cynical about this by the minute.

Davey0001 wrote: »

I understand that some people may think that I would be doing the wrong thing - but this is my relationship with my son. It just has to happen.

And THAT is just downright frightening....

Davey0001

I appreciate that it is potentially damaging in a minor way - but I have to think that me not taking action is much much worse.
My boy needs his Dad.
I would prefer that my ex understood this, but she doesn't. She would rather see our son go without his father than allow me access. She is doing this for personal gain and pure spite. All too common whilst the law remains firmly on the wrong side of the moral and ethical line.

In order to get things righted I feel I need to take drastic steps.

Remember - she is taking him away for a year.

What steps would you take to have access to your own child whilst another person was spiriting them away?

sheldon08

I'm not sure if this will help but I expect there will be more support and pertinent advice for you than here:)