work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

Loanranger

Most working parents whose family can't, or won't, help with childcare pay someone to mind their child.

LadyMorticia

missdisney666 wrote: »

Lady morticia my friends
Live in a different town so i dont know if thatd be possible, they have their own lives with their own kids so im not sure if any
Of them could.

You won't know unless you ask.

Anubis_2

missdisney666 wrote: »

Thanks for this advice i will think about this however me and my partner wouldnt be too comfy leaving him with a stranger wether registered or not, and also cant really afford it. I will fill in the form and give it to my work hopefully theyll understand and let me swap it, either way wether they let me or not i wont be doing that shift.

A lot of parents have little choice but to leave their children with strangers - those who go to nursery for the first time are being left with "strangers" - providing you do your groundwork on registered childminders there shouldn't be an issue.

duchy

You *do* realize that if you pay someone registered to care for your child that tax credits will cover a large part of your childcare costs ? Affordability shouldn't be an issue-availability of someone suitable especially on a week end evening is another matter of course. Decent, affordable childcare is very hard to find at weekends.

You've come across on this thread as a bit rude and with an attitude of entitlement. Whilst I'm sure you're not like that -it MIGHT be how you are coming across to your employer too so perhaps try again with them with a different attitude ? If tax credits will make up the shortfall (especially taking childcare costs into account) would it be worth asking to go part-time/reduce your hours instead- even as a stopgap until you find another job with more family friendly hours ?

missdisney666

LunaLady wrote: »

Did you get it in writing from your employer that you could change your shift?

I do think you need to calm down the sassy attitude. People are only trying to help.

No havnt had it in writing from them and i dont understand ehy people think i have an attitude when
I dont at all what about the person who said i made up a fake account and said i had a tragic life arent they being rude? I only came on asking for advice and i am really appreciating it there was no need for that person to say that and ive already apologised if ive sounded like i had an attitude.

missdisney666

duchy wrote: »

You *do* realize that if you pay someone registered to care for your child that tax credits will cover a large part of your childcare costs ? Affordability shouldn't be an issue-availability of someone suitable especially on a week end evening is another matter of course. Decent, affordable childcare is very hard to find at weekends.

You've come across on this thread as a bit rude and with an attitude of entitlement. Whilst I'm sure you're not like that -it MIGHT be how you are coming across to your employer too so perhaps try again with them with a different attitude ? If tax credits will make up the shortfall (especially taking childcare costs into account) would it be worth asking to go part-time/reduce your hours instead- even as a stopgap until you find another job with more family friendly hours ?

I havnt came across to my employer with an
Attitude they know me as quite shy actually and i also havnt been dealing with this since ive been away on maternity my bf has been sorting it since he works there too, i will ask them about everything people have mentioned here see what they can do if they will even do anything at all.

Kiboko

You said you are due back to work in a couple of weeks? Get the form into them, but rather than just sitting back and waiting for the decision, have a phone round to registered child minders (non-reg babysitters means no help from CTC) and friends who might do it for a limited period. If neither of those options work and your employers can't let you drop your shift then you may have to bite the bullet and find a babysitter for a period and start applying for jobs that fit around more regular childcare arrangements. Much as I feel employers should try to be accommodating with regard to mums returning to work it isn't always possible.

GlasweJen

And it isn't fair to ask single people to give up their Saturday nights, it's not like you've had 9 months pregnancy plus up to 9 months maternity to sort it out.

mildred1978

Simon_gloster wrote: »

Sureal thread.

Continual absense on regular occurances will have an impact on your employment status now and defonately when your looking for jobs when the kids are at school.

Idle threats of leaving the job and getting another seem unrealistic based on unemployment figures.

Stick it out I say, ok potentially use the next couple of saturdays as parental leave if you really are struggling, at least this will give you a fortnight to sort something perm out.

Applaud the fact you are a working family.....its very hard now but it'll be worth it in the long run.

A) Parental leave usually has to be taken in 1 week blocks, not odd days here and there and you only get 13 weeks parental leave to use (of you need to) in total for a child between birth and 5 (I believe). C) the employer would need to approve the leave (and they don't have to) and D) it's unpaid.

skintandscared_2

mildred1978 wrote: »

A) Parental leave usually has to be taken in 1 week blocks, not odd days here and there and you only get 13 weeks parental leave to use (of you need to) in total for a child between birth and 5 (I believe). C) the employer would need to approve the leave (and they don't have to) and D) it's unpaid.

This is absolutely correct. At our place, any instance of parental leave is counted as a block - even if it's just one isolated shift/day. There are a maximum of 4 blocks allowed in any one year.