work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

mildred1978

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

Oh please! Look, as far as I'm aware, if you really have no one to look after the baby on this particular night you're within your rights to call and say you can't make it due to having to take care of a dependent. Everyone is allowed 'reasonable' time off for such an occurrence and (unless you do it regularly/repeatedly) there's not a lot your employer can do within the law, you'll just have to live with losing a nights pay.

But the OP Will do it regularly, won't she. And failing to turn up for repeated shifts could see her sacked pretty quickly.

caeler

missdisney666 wrote: »

Cant believe people are saying thanks to the rude user who said my lifes tragic and that i made up a fake account, and you have a go at ME for being rude??

I'm sorry but my first impression of your post and subsequent replies were that you are rude, ungrateful for good advice and probably a troll.

In the hope that you are genuine or other people find this useful as it is very hard juggling work and family..... as others have said your employer does not have to accomodate you per se.

You do have several options:
1) Submit a flexible working request - which will permanently change your shift patterns. No employer will let you drop random shifts at your will. You need a proper childcare arrangement, fixed routine and you also need to consider how your employer will cope with your request, etc. As others have stated the business comes first and they just have to consider your request.
2) Shift Swap with a colleague, but if you are as rude in real life as you are here then I totally understand why that isn't an option.
3) Parental Leave - this is unpaid leave but typically taken in blocks of a week, used to spend time with a child but can be delayed by the employer if it isn't convenient so possibly not ideal.
4) Emergency Leave - where you make a holiday request, without the usual notice, your employer would have to agree and they may not on this occasion.
5) Compassionate Leave - some companies have extra leave available for emergency situations, family bereavement, etc. You may not qualify but if you are a good employee your employer may consider it.
6) Call in sick. Appreciate they'll know your not really sick, but assuming you have significant service, you may well get away with this once.

Good luck, hope you manage to get your child care sorted.

missdisney666

mildred1978 wrote: »

But the OP Will do it regularly, won't she. And failing to turn up for repeated shifts could see her sacked pretty quickly.

Ill get it sorted out.

missdisney666

caeler wrote: »

I'm sorry but my first impression of your post and subsequent replies were that you are rude, ungrateful for good advice and probably a troll.

In the hope that you are genuine or other people find this useful but it is very hard juggling work and family..... as others have said your employer does not have to accomodate you per se.

You do have several options:
1) Submit a flexible working request - which will permanently change your shift patterns. No employer will let you drop random shifts at your will. You need a proper childcare arrangement, fixed routine and you also need to consider how your employer will cope with your request, etc. As others have stated the business comes first and they just have to consider your request.
2) Shift Swap with a colleague, but if you are as rude in real life as you are here then I totally understand why that isn't an option.
3) Parental Leave - this is unpaid leave but typically taken in blocks of a week, used to spend time with a child but can be delayed by the employer if it isn't convenient so possibly not ideal.
4) Emergency Leave - where you make a holiday request, without the usual notice, your employer would have to agree.
5) Compassionate Leave - some companies have extra leave available for emergency situations, family bereavement, etc. You may not qualify but if you are a good employee your employer may consider it.
6) Call in sick. Appreciate they'll know your not really sick, but assuming you have significant service, you may well get away with this once.

Good luck, hope you manage to get your child care sorted.

Thanks for the good luck wish, i am not however ungrateful at all im very thankful for the advice and defo not a troll at all ive been attacked by trolls in the past and i certainately dont attack or bully people ive just came on to get advice i apologise if that one comment seemed rude it wasnt ment to, and thanks for all the options i am sure ill sort it out.

CornishWildFlower

mildred1978 wrote: »

But the OP Will do it regularly, won't she. And failing to turn up for repeated shifts could see her sacked pretty quickly.

Well, that's her decision and unless she makes adequate childcare arrangements it'll soon become an untenable situation regardless of whether she phones in regularly or not.

Dunroamin

I have to say that, if none of your family members are prepared to have your baby overnight in this emergency, I would be annoyed with them rather than your fellow workmates who have no reason to do you any favours as you obviously hate them.

missdisney666

caeler wrote: »

I'm sorry but my first impression of your post and subsequent replies were that you are rude, ungrateful for good advice and probably a troll.

In the hope that you are genuine or other people find this useful as it is very hard juggling work and family..... as others have said your employer does not have to accomodate you per se.

You do have several options:
1) Submit a flexible working request - which will permanently change your shift patterns. No employer will let you drop random shifts at your will. You need a proper childcare arrangement, fixed routine and you also need to consider how your employer will cope with your request, etc. As others have stated the business comes first and they just have to consider your request.
2) Shift Swap with a colleague, but if you are as rude in real life as you are here then I totally understand why that isn't an option.
3) Parental Leave - this is unpaid leave but typically taken in blocks of a week, used to spend time with a child but can be delayed by the employer if it isn't convenient so possibly not ideal.
4) Emergency Leave - where you make a holiday request, without the usual notice, your employer would have to agree and they may not on this occasion.
5) Compassionate Leave - some companies have extra leave available for emergency situations, family bereavement, etc. You may not qualify but if you are a good employee your employer may consider it.
6) Call in sick. Appreciate they'll know your not really sick, but assuming you have significant service, you may well get away with this once.

Good luck, hope you manage to get your child care sorted.

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

Well, that's her decision and unless she makes adequate childcare arrangements it'll soon become an untenable situation regardless of whether she phones in regularly or not.

They can sack me if they wish im probably better off out of this job anyway its a horrible company to work for so many colleagues complain about the place not just me, ill be so much happier getting a different job where childcare fits in.

missdisney666

Dunroamin wrote: »

I have to say that, if none of your family members are prepared to have your baby overnight in this emergency, I would be annoyed with them rather than your fellow workmates who have no reason to do you any favours as you obviously hate them.

I cant be annoyed with family my mam dad and bfs mam and dad are the closest the rest live a bit too far away to watch him and both our mums work sunday mornings so they cant and my bfs dad works away and my dad is ill he wouldnt be up to it so its not their fault. And i only dislike a few people at work because they are pretty !!!!!y women who slag off people behind their backs so is it any wonder i dont like them?

missdisney666

With all respect yous dont know me i have apologised id i seemed rude i didnt intend to be, the people at my job are horrible i dislike some of them for a reason but i get on so well with most of them mainly older women and the men it seems to be the girls my age who arent too nice to be honest, and its nothing to do with me why they wont shift swap with me, they just simply dont like working a saturday.

Anubis_2

After putting in the form, I would, for the first Saturday, ring in and say you have to look after your child as you have not managed to find suitable arrangements.

The second thing I would do if in your position is ring around some registerd child minders and see if any are willing to do a Saturday night.

Is there no one you know with teenagers who are responsible who would be prepared to do some Saturday nights for you?

As an absolute last straw, babysitters are advertised everywhere, if you cannot get a registered childminder, consider the babysitter route but ensure you interview them and get references. My daughter used to babysit for a family on weekend shifts staying at their house all weekend.

You can get some responsible babysitters, you just have to ensure you thoroughly vet them. Usually those who are at college on childminding courses would welcome the chance as it can go down as experience - so I would look into trying to find one who has done childminding or is on a childminding course.

You can put an advert specific to your requirements out there too.