work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

missdisney666

Anubis wrote: »

After putting in the form, I would, for the first Saturday, ring in and say you have to look after your child as you have not managed to find suitable arrangements.

The second thing I would do if in your position is ring around some registerd child minders and see if any are willing to do a Saturday night.

Is there no one you know with teenagers who are responsible who would be prepared to do some Saturday nights for you?

As an absolute last straw, babysitters are advertised everywhere, if you cannot get a registered childminder, consider the babysitter route but ensure you interview them and get references. My daughter used to babysit for a family on weekend shifts staying at their house all weekend.

You can get some responsible babysitters, you just have to ensure you thoroughly vet them. Usually those who are at college on childminding courses would welcome the chance as it can go down as experience - so I would look into trying to find one who has done childminding or is on a childminding course.

You can put an advert specific to your requirements out there too.

Thanks for this advice i will think about this however me and my partner wouldnt be too comfy leaving him with a stranger wether registered or not, and also cant really afford it. I will fill in the form and give it to my work hopefully theyll understand and let me swap it, either way wether they let me or not i wont be doing that shift.

Simon_gloster

Sureal thread.

Continual absense on regular occurances will have an impact on your employment status now and defonately when your looking for jobs when the kids are at school.

Idle threats of leaving the job and getting another seem unrealistic based on unemployment figures.

Stick it out I say, ok potentially use the next couple of saturdays as parental leave if you really are struggling, at least this will give you a fortnight to sort something perm out.

Applaud the fact you are a working family.....its very hard now but it'll be worth it in the long run.

missdisney666

Simon_gloster wrote: »

Sureal thread.

Continual absense on regular occurances will have an impact on your employment status now and defonately when your looking for jobs when the kids are at school.

Idle threats of leaving the job and getting another seem unrealistic based on unemployment figures.

Stick it out I say, ok potentially use the next couple of saturdays as parental leave if you really are struggling, at least this will give you a fortnight to sort something perm out.

Applaud the fact you are a working family.....its very hard now but it'll be worth it in the long run.

Thanks simon i do applaud the fact we are a working family, im proud of the fact i work and i work hard its just a shame working for a horrible company who wont help and who treat their colleagues like dirt thanks for the advice.

ZsaZsa

Instead of dropping the whole shift, are either you or your husband able to finish your shifts earlier to collect baby from your mum/MIL before they go to work, or is there someone who your mum/ MIL can drop the baby off with until you finish your shift? How much of an overlap would there be?

LadyMorticia

OP, isn't there a close friend who can look after your baby? You've mentioned having friends in a previous post so that might be something to consider. Friends aren't really strangers either, so you wouldn't have to worry about that aspect of it.

missdisney666

ZsaZsa wrote: »

Instead of dropping the whole shift, are either you or your husband able to finish your shifts earlier to collect baby from your mum/MIL before they go to work, or is there someone who your mum/ MIL can drop the baby off with until you finish your shift? How much of an overlap would there be?

Thanks zsazsa yeh that would probably help but depends wether theyll let us even do that, see they are quite awkward but i could always ask them.

missdisney666

LadyMorticia wrote: »

OP, isn't there a close friend who can look after your baby? You've mentioned having friends in a previous post so that might be something to consider. Friends aren't really strangers either, so you wouldn't have to worry about that aspect of it.

Lady morticia my friends
Live in a different town so i dont know if thatd be possible, they have their own lives with their own kids so im not sure if any
Of them could.

GlasweJen

I don't know why all your workmates are "horrible" for not wanting to work every Saturday night. They're not the ones who went and had a baby and you're baby is not their responsibility.

Could you maybe ask to work every other Saturday with someone so that they are still getting opportunity to go out and enjoy the occasional weekend and you only need half the child care?

missdisney666

GlasweJen wrote: »

I don't know why all your workmates are "horrible" for not wanting to work every Saturday night. They're not the ones who went and had a baby and you're baby is not their responsibility.

Could you maybe ask to work every other Saturday with someone so that they are still getting opportunity to go out and enjoy the occasional weekend and you only need half the child care?

I didnt say they were horrible because they wouldnt work saturdays i said they were horrible because they are nasty about people behind their backs they are quite a bit-chy bunch, they wont work a saturday not cos of me but cos they dont like to work on the weekend.

LunaLady

Did you get it in writing from your employer that you could change your shift?

I do think you need to calm down the sassy attitude. People are only trying to help.