work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

mynameistallulah

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

No one should feel (or be made to feel) that they should allow their employer to just sack them.

Well if she cannot fulfil her contract ...

powerful_Rogue

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

Some women do use it as a stick but, there are some who genuinely need help. Maybe she thought she would be able to sort something out, and wasn't able to.

She clearly states in her opening post below that she cannot afford to lose her job but feels stuck. No one should feel (or be made to feel) that they should allow their employer to just sack them.

She said she cant afford to leave as she needs every penny, but is quite happy to stop working the Saturday night and lose the money rather then work it and pay for a babysitter.

The mind boggles.

CornishWildFlower

Well, as far as I can see the maid is trying to work to support her own family and, as someone said way back when, that should be supported and applauded. If she's made some mistakes then she'll be in good company because who hasn't? She'll certainly be more aware if and when there's a next time round.

Maybe the company are just being sh*ts, it's not entirely unheard of, who knows!

CornishWildFlower

powerful_Rogue wrote: »

She said she cant afford to leave as she needs every penny, but is quite happy to stop working the Saturday night and lose the money rather then work it and pay for a babysitter.

The mind boggles.

If she works 4 nights a week, then 75% of a wage is better than 0%.

mynameistallulah

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

Maybe the company are just being sh*ts, it's not entirely unheard of, who knows!

Or maybe they are sick of women having babies and then thinking they can call the shots? I have seen all too many situations where women return to work and expect the employer to work around them - that expectation throws any chance of goodwill out the window.

CornishWildFlower

mynameistallulah wrote: »

Or maybe they are sick of women having babies and then thinking they can call the shots? I have seen all too many situations where women return to work and expect the employer to work around them - that expectation throws any chance of goodwill out the window.

Yes, there's a whole lot of maybes. In the meantime, I wish her luck in getting it sorted, better than joining the back of the queue at the dole office.

princessdon

End of the day the employer doesn't have to accomodate. If this was a barrier to return to work it should have been agreed BEFORE the return. Now OP has agreed to return then all she can do is request and they can say no.

What I don't understand is WHY the working next day stops family members looking after the child. Why can't the family member stay at their house, why can't OP pick up the child at the end of a shift or early next morning (whichever is best).

Kiboko

Let's look at the fact that due to the 'in-fighting' the OP has not been back...........
this is her first child, I get the impression she's quite young and she did alledgedly ask her employer who verbally said shift change/drop was 'possible' before she went on maternity leave. It's not in writing but when she posted this her BF had lead the discussion with her employer not her, and she had not put in a flexible working form. Leaving aside her 'attitude' and the red herring of the GP being able to interfere. To me it appears that this is the age old chesnut of being 'someone elses problem' . the fact is without written agreement with her workplace she cannot just drop a shift, it's a saturday night so noone wants to cover. Regular childcare does not work for night shifts and it appears she can't get family or friends to help. So, as i said earlier, get a babysitter short term and wear the cost and look for a more child friendly job, pay might be worse but be made up by TC's and it's not forever children do go to school, hours might be more = higher earnings and potential for progression.

lovinituk

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

I won't assume, simply because I can manage, that she can.

Yet you assume she is suffering from stress, enough to involve a GP!

CornishWildFlower

lovinituk wrote: »

Yet you assume she is suffering from stress, enough to involve a GP!

She might, do you know otherwise?