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work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

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  • Just one of the many many assumptions in this thread. Do we actually know how old this child is? A 9 month old is not newborn.

    Newborn enough for me. Not quite capable of whipping up ones own bottle or self medicating where necessary.
  • mildred1978
    mildred1978 Posts: 3,367 Forumite
    Newborn enough for me. Not quite capable of whipping up ones own bottle or self medicating where necessary.

    Well, of course not. My son was walking at 9 months though, so hard to think of babies that age being newborn babies!
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  • shop-to-drop
    shop-to-drop Posts: 4,340 Forumite
    Age of the baby is very relevant if the child is old enough to sleep through the night grandparents may be happy to have him even if they need to work the next day if they know you will suffer financial hardship. They could even drop him off at a child minder in the morning to allow you to sleep.

    Have you looked for another job with hours to suit?
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  • sulkisu
    sulkisu Posts: 1,285 Forumite
    edited 26 June 2012 at 7:28PM
    Dunroamin wrote: »
    Surely paying a large percentage of childcare costs through CTC is the government's contribution to combining parenting and work?

    It is for those who qualify for CTC. Many of us don't. I pay £55 per day in London for one child. I'm expecting twins, which means the bill will skyrocket. Full-time childcare for all three would be approx £3000 pcm, so despite earning £70kp.a, I won't be returning to work until my youngest have started school.
    OH works, so we can/will have to manage on one wage, but not everyone can.
  • LunaLady
    LunaLady Posts: 1,625 Forumite
    Not remotely ashamed of myself, I'm not the person who is aggressive, dismissive, and downright insulting to others. How do you know what she feels? If she is in fear of losing her job then she'll be feeling worried about all kinds of things, and has every right to be so.

    Childcare issues are clearly recognised as being a problem area, if you don't agree, then I can only suggest that you take it up with the Heath & Safety Executive amongst other organisations and inform them that it can't be so because Dunroamin of moneysavingexpert.com says so and tell them where they should stick their suggested holistic approach.

    What has the OP done to try and resolve the issue?

    I have three children and I am a single parent. My middle child is severely disabled and therefore attends a different school to his brother. I have to run around in the morning dropping off three different children to three different places, then get myself to work on time (on the days I work). I then have to pick up three different children from three different places, get everyone home and then most night we have different clubs to go to for one of the children, in October I will be at university too. Its not stress, its just life!
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  • I will shortly have another child to add to the two I've already got as well. I also work and don't use a childminder so I can appreciate all the running about as I do it too.

    The OP is not a personal friend of mine, so I don't know the ins and outs of her entire life, some people can cope better than others. I won't assume, simply because I can manage, that she can.

    Having a baby and getting back into the workplace can be very difficult for some, that's all I'm saying. Dismissing her fears or worries as trivia isn't helpful (not saying that you are)
  • poet123
    poet123 Posts: 24,099 Forumite
    I will shortly have another child to add to the two I've already got as well. I also work and don't use a childminder so I can appreciate all the running about as I do it too.

    The OP is not a personal friend of mine, so I don't know the ins and outs of her entire life, some people can cope better than others. I won't assume, simply because I can manage, that she can.

    Having a baby and getting back into the workplace can be very difficult for some, that's all I'm saying. Dismissing her fears or worries as trivia isn't helpful (not saying that you are)

    Is that not something that should be addressed before the event rather than after? Women who use childcare issues as a stick to beat their employers with do all working mothers a disservice.
  • Some women do use it as a stick but, there are some who genuinely need help. Maybe she thought she would be able to sort something out, and wasn't able to.

    She clearly states in her opening post below that she cannot afford to lose her job but feels stuck. No one should feel (or be made to feel) that they should allow their employer to just sack them.
    hello i was hoping for some advice people.

    im due back at work in a couple of weeks after being on maternity, ive informed my employers that i need to drop a shift because i need to watch my son that night because cant get babysitters as family members are working next morning etc,

    they have refused to let me saying they cant, but what do they want me to do? leave him home alone? cos theres no way i will do that!

    im appauled at how uncaring and useless and unaccomodating they are being,

    so, i was wondering if i just left my job or let them sack me, would the inland revenue make up the money id be losing? because unless they can i cant afford to leave because we need every penny but i feel stuck because they wont let me drop the night i need to drop so i can look after my baby, really need some advice,

    thanks very much x
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