work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

CornishWildFlower

Dunroamin wrote: »

A GP would not write to an organisation on a subject like this.

You are implying that the OP should lie about her circumstances, which is both dishonest and irresponsible.

I am suggesting nothing of the kind. I said that if she felt that her employers were not listening to, or taking on board, her needs and the needs of her dependant she has every right to feel stressed about it. Most people would. If she feels this to be the case, her employers have a duty of care.

Her GP would most certainly write to any organisation on that basis.

You don't have to like it, but, it is a fact.

System

shop-to-drop wrote: »

When you go back after Maternity leave you have usually accrued a lot of annual leave. Could you not ask to take annual leave for the Saturday shift until you have arranged childcare or the opportunity to drop the shift becomes available? .

I do not see any employer agreeing to somebody taking leave on a Saturday night as a regular occurence with no defined end date .

Her employer may have said, before she started maternity 9+months ago, that changing shifts would be possible. However circumstances may well now be different and that route may not be possible.

What is the father doing about getting time off?

lovinituk

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

I am suggesting nothing of the kind. I said that if she felt that her employers were not listening to, or taking on board, her needs and the needs of her dependant she has every right to feel stressed about it.

Stressed about something or suffering from stress that would be recognised as needing treatment? BIG difference there!!

skintandscared_2

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

She is clearly stressed about the situation. You attempting to browbeat me doesn't alter the fact that if she is stressed and/or anxious about her employers refusal to look at her hours, then she is within her rights to enlist the help of her GP. That is what I suggested as a last resort. Perhaps you would prefer her to quit and leave herself out of a job?

Of course she is stressed about the situation, as is every working mother where childcare is concerned. That's why most make formal arrangements with their employers well before their return to work. What she is not, however, is clinically depressed, or in a state which warrants intervention by her GP!

I don't have a preference as to what she does as, funnily enough, it doesn't actually affect me. I just take exception at her being given "advice" to do something potentially fraudulent. Sorry if you don't like it that I don't agree with you.

CornishWildFlower

Dunroamin wrote: »

Stressed my @rse!

She's throwing a strop because she isn't getting her own way. She's expecting the employer to sort out all her problems rather than doing it herself as she's made no preparation for returning to work and isn't prepared to leave the baby with relatives, friends or paid carers.

You do women in the workforce a great disservice by encouraging someone to behave like this and then encouraging them to lie about it.

Absolute rot, you know nothing of the OPs circumstances other than what she has told you i.e. she has no one to care for the child.

I do no one a disservice, I have worked hard all my life and taken care of my own children at the same time. The OP does have a right to know what avenues are open to her, no more, no less.

CornishWildFlower

skintandscared wrote: »

Of course she is stressed about the situation, as is every working mother where childcare is concerned. That's why most make formal arrangements with their employers well before their return to work. What she is not, however, is clinically depressed, or in a state which warrants intervention by her GP!

I don't have a preference as to what she does as, funnily enough, it doesn't actually affect me. I just take exception at her being given "advice" to do something potentially fraudulent. Sorry if you don't like it that I don't agree with you.

I don't care that you don't agree with me. You were wrong when you asserted that she would get no help from her GP.

lovinituk

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

I don't care that you don't agree with me. You were wrong when you asserted that she would get no help from her GP.

Well she won't unless she is claiming that she is suffering from stress / depression!

I'm stressed right now because I have to pack loads of orders before 4pm, but I'm not suffering from long term stress / depression. The line seems pretty fuzzy in your mind.

Eton_Rifle

So this is a new form of depression that only strikes on Saturday night?

Someone should have told Bob Geldof. He could have had Mondays off.

CornishWildFlower

lovinituk wrote: »

Well she won't unless she is claiming that she is suffering from stress / depression!

I'm stressed right now because I have to pack loads of orders before 4pm, but I'm not suffering from long term stress / depression. The line seems pretty fuzzy in your mind.

If I was faced with packing in a job and having my child go without because I couldn't make adequate provision for childcare, that would cause me a great deal of stress. Nothing fuzzy about that.

You may make better headway with the deadline if you weren't posting on forums

Dunroamin

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

Absolute rot, you know nothing of the OPs circumstances other than what she has told you i.e. she has no one to care for the child.

Because she hasn't made any arrangements!

She has family and friends who she hasn't even bothered to ask!