work not letting me drop a shift so i can look after new baby

kingfisherblue

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

If the OP were to walk into her GP and say that her working hours were causing her stress as she was unable to make adequate provision for her newborn child, and even hint at becoming depressed, you can bet your bottom dollar that a letter would be whizzing it's way to her HR dept. Where depression is a possibility (particularly in a new mother) an employer has a duty of care.

The OP doesn't have depression though. It sounds as though you are trying to suggest some type of fraud to me.

skintandscared_2

Pollycat wrote: »

Absolutely agree with that.

But the OP then goes on to say in post #4 about changing shifts:


In fact, in that one post she switches between 'dropping a shift' to 'changing shifts' several times.

change/swap = 3
drop = 1

C'mon, OP, what exactly did you ask your employer?

and the heading says "drop" the shift too. Very confusing!

hoo

Op how may hours do you work per week?

shop-to-drop

When you go back after Maternity leave you have usually accrued a lot of annual leave. Could you not ask to take annual leave for the Saturday shift until you have arranged childcare or the opportunity to drop the shift becomes available? Also your OH could use his annual leave to take some saturdays this should keep you going for a while and hopefully you will find a solution before all leave runs out. I know you may prefer to take annual leave in a different way but needs must if you need to keep working now you have a baby sacrifices need to be made.

skintandscared_2

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

If the OP were to walk into her GP and say that her working hours were causing her stress as she was unable to make adequate provision for her newborn child, and even hint at becoming depressed, you can bet your bottom dollar that a letter would be whizzing it's way to her HR dept. Where depression is a possibility (particularly in a new mother) an employer has a duty of care.

But she isn't suffering from stress! Are you actually making this up as you go along?! Nothing in the OP's posts have talked about any stress or depression. What if she actually did do this and a doctor put her on medication, for a non-existent illness?! Are you just actually trying to suggest she commits fraud to get her hours changed?!

CornishWildFlower

kingfisherblue wrote: »

The OP doesn't have depression though. It sounds as though you are trying to suggest some type of fraud to me.

Don't be ridiculous.

hoo

kingfisherblue wrote: »

The OP doesn't have depression though. It sounds as though you are trying to suggest some type of fraud to me.

Also any good GP won't just leave it at that they'll ask them to attend for follow up appointment to check how things are going, possibly involve other health profs so using up limited appointments for an illness that may not even exist at this moment in time. Not a great web to start spinning.

OP someone mentioned joining a union, they are sometmes (not always) good for mediating if they think you have a case.

CornishWildFlower

skintandscared wrote: »

But she isn't suffering from stress! Are you actually making this up as you go along?! Nothing in the OP's posts have talked about any stress or depression. What if she actually did do this and a doctor put her on medication, for a non-existent illness?! Are you just actually trying to suggest she commits fraud to get her hours changed?!

She is clearly stressed about the situation. You attempting to browbeat me doesn't alter the fact that if she is stressed and/or anxious about her employers refusal to look at her hours, then she is within her rights to enlist the help of her GP. That is what I suggested as a last resort. Perhaps you would prefer her to quit and leave herself out of a job?

Dunroamin

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

If the OP were to walk into her GP and say that her working hours were causing her stress as she was unable to make adequate provision for her newborn child, and even hint at becoming depressed, you can bet your bottom dollar that a letter would be whizzing it's way to her HR dept. Where depression is a possibility (particularly in a new mother) an employer has a duty of care.

A GP would not write to an organisation on a subject like this.

You are implying that the OP should lie about her circumstances, which is both dishonest and irresponsible.

Dunroamin

CornishWildFlower wrote: »

She is clearly stressed about the situation. You attempting to browbeat me doesn't alter the fact that if she is stressed and/or anxious about her employers refusal to look at her hours, then she is within her rights to enlist the help of her GP. That is what I suggested as a last resort. Perhaps you would prefer her to quit and leave herself out of a job?

Stressed my @rse!

She's throwing a strop because she isn't getting her own way. She's expecting the employer to sort out all her problems rather than doing it herself as she's made no preparation for returning to work and isn't prepared to leave the baby with relatives, friends or paid carers.

You do women in the workforce a great disservice by encouraging someone to behave like this and then encouraging them to lie about it.