Advice on how to deal with my own resentment?

rosered1963

Couldn't your brother arrange his own taxis to the airport and back? That would be the best thing. Prices vary but he doesn't have to be weathy to afford it as a one-off on a special day. Then everyone else can chill. x

caeler

Time to grow up. Sorry that sounds harsh but I've grown up too as has my sister. I'm 30 and she's 23, I moved away from home about 10 years ago and vist maybe one every 2 months and it was actually a good thing for our relationship as when we lived together, we really didn't get on. Initially she was fed up that when I came home everybody made a big fuss, but since she moved away (but living locally) she doesn't visit that often either and everybody makes a fuss of her too! We both needed to rise above it, appreciate the relationship we could have and get on with it. Slowly does it in our case. I find myself offering to take her places now (she's a non-driver), we text occasionally, I tell her in advance when I'm due to visit incase she's free to be around and make a fuss at birthdays and it feels good. How it should be.

She knew how to press my buttons, as I did hers but since we got lives, partners, jobs, stress, upset, money problems, health problems and all the other things life throws at you, we realised that the world did not revolve around us!

Savvy_Sue

Mojisola wrote: »

I know you want to see him but, for a couple of visits, don't be available.

And if you don't want to 'be there' for a birthday or whatever, tell him!

Bear in mind you'll soon be a married woman. Is that going to change things? Does he need to know that? Do your parents?