Frump to Fab - Sizzling Summer Solstice to Awesome Autumn Equinox

WelshWoofer

In keeping with my summer resolutions I've just booked a couple of Meetup/Spice things.
One is a 6 mile walk in Cheshire and the other is a social meet up in a pub with a new group. Not so sure about the pub one as I've not met anyone before and activities (walking, cinema etc) always seem easier to go to alone as there is always something to talk about as a distraction.
In for a penny, in for a pound and all that - if I hate it I don't have to go again.

fedupandskint

Exercise plan for this week

Mon - Shred day 8 L 1
Tues - bike ride plus Shred before work if I feel like it
Wed - Shred day 9 L1 and BFBM
Thurs - day off or final day of Shred L1 day 10 depending upon how I feel
Fri - bike ride
Sat - Shred L2 day 1
Sun - Shred L2 day 2 BFBM

lizzie157

Had a bit of an up and down day today. Started ok, did a bit of yoga, a bit of boxing on wii as I feel I need to up the ante a bit now my back seems to be improved. I will be careful though- I don't want to be back to square 1. Then I thought I'd look at the couch to 5k thing and decided to give it a try, obviously I don't have the proper shoes yet but if I manage the first week I'll think about investing in some. I did the first day whilst walking the dogs. It is a bit up hill where I go so I felt like I needed oxygen when I'd done:rotfl::rotfl:.To say I walk a lot I soon get breathless, but hey I did it. :j
In one of the fields where I walk there's a plastic sheet over a mound of something very smelly that I think the farmer intends ploughing into the soil. Needless to say my dog disappeared in this field - wasn't too bothered as I thought the stuff was well covered. Wasn't till I got home I realised the smell I thought was muckspreading was the dog.:eek::eek:Then had to spend a good 45 mins giving her a bath and despite 3 applications of shampoo she still doesn't smell too sweet:eek::rotfl:

It was also DS3's first day at a temporary job a relative managed to get him until he starts his training course. He isn't very happy, he's finding it boring in an office environment and I'm a bit torn because he has in one respect been very lucky to get the job but I do understand it isn't what he wants to do and he did think he had the summer holiday to enjoy before he started his course. I think it is a big shock after school when you realise what it's like in the big wide world. That this it and sometimes it aint enjoyable. I have tried to jolly him up and tell him it might be better when he's used to it but I suppose he sees his mates with all the holidays in front of them and he's working. Most of them are going to college or into training. I've told him to think of the money he'll have at the end of the week. Also I think it has hit me a bit today that he's growing up and I can no longer make everything ok any more. I know I've been through all this before but it doesn't make it any easier.

Anyway one way or another it will work out. Fingers crossed he feels better about it tomorrow.

Hewie29

Morning all - big hugs to all that need them.

Didn't sleep well last night so 5.30 admitted defeat and got up. Thought I'd catch up on here and post my summer inspirations list - inspired by WW, so here goes, hope you don't mind WW have pinched a couple of your ideas.

Fitness

1. To finish the Shred and to start my new Jillian Dvd Banish Fat Boost Metabolism.
2. Swim once a week - if I'm brave enough to get into my swim costume.
3. Walk at least twice a week for 40 mins or more

Personal Fabbing

1. To believe in me
2. To lose at leaast 10lbs
3. To paint my toe nails - just seen the weather looks like summer might make an appearance next week.
4. Start using handcream again, was very good at this but seemed to have stopped and have very dry hands
5. To use facemask as least once a week
6. Get my haircut

Wardrobe Fabbing

1. To go through clothes and throw all the tatty stuff
2. To wear different things that I don't normally wear or save for best
3. sort out my jewellery and wear more of it.

Lifestyle

1. TO HAVE SOME FUN
2. Look into kayaking - wanted to do it for ages
3. Look into different things to do with the kids over summer hols - any ideas gratefully received DS 15 (not that he will want to do much with me but if its different he just my be curious enough) DD 11.
4. Spend some quality time with my OH, shift work makes us like ships passing in the night.
5. Take some time out for me and not feel guilty

There we go, all down on the forum so now I'm committed to it and will try my hardest to keep to as much as possible.

WW I see on your book list is The Help, I finished ready that this morning, a very good book, hope you enjoy it.

Right best be off and get ready for the day have a good one all

lizzie157

Well decidedly unfab and unpositive this morning. DD3 won't go to the job saying it's mind numbingly boring. So can expect SHTF later when H finds out. I am angry with him myself - he could at least have stuck at it for a while. I hope this isn't a sign of things to come because one day he won't have the choice and finding it boring will not be reason to quit. I'd have done it myself but obviously they would have had to pay min wage for an adult and they aren't up for that.

Off to try and boost my mood.

lizzie157

Quick update - he's now looking for something part -time to do alongside his training course.

Savvy_sewing

I am going to be 51 on Sunday.
I am a Special Guardian for my 4 1/2 year old Granddaughter, and my 19 year old son lives at home (sort of- when he is here).
I care for my identical twins, who have Learning Difficulties, but they didnt want to live at home anymore, so now have a place each, but are struggling to keep them going. I am subsidising them both which is really coming out of the Special Guardian ship funds (when they actually get sorted out, currently I am not getting them).
The laugh is that I have Cervical Spondylosis, and Sciatica so moving is very difficult for me at times, and although thank god I am currently doing well, I can be very disabled at times. Especially in the winter.
I have a carer to help me, 10 hours a week, but although that is funding by the council, as an Individual Plan, Disability allowance, I fell foul of the system and am not classed as disabled enough to get Disability Living Allowance, or a blue badge etc.
Which is good, in one way, cos it means I am not as bad as I feel!, but its bad in the abilities etc that I am having to deal with.

I will get through it, over it, or around it, eventually. Its just always a hard slog.
I had to deal with the Police and the council yesterday, and this morning the council, sorting out problems with twin1. (Mother of the child I care for). It all gets so stressful that I dont feel very fab at times.
Last week, I really felt things were good and on top of the world compared to things of late, but then come Thursday it all seemed to fall into dust!.

OK< so Onwards and upwards.
I can Handle it! I will handle it. I am handling it. or so the book suggests!.
(Feel the Fear and do it anyway).
My hair needs washing, but my arm is a bit too bad to get up to my head long enough, so I am going to have to wait until I get to the Hairdressers tomorrow. (That comes out of my carers funding).
So I am lucky there.

podperson

Hi all,

Madrabbitgirl - hope you're feeling a bit better today. Try not to get things like that get to you - it's not going to be you he's angry at - though easier said then done I know!

ww - have fun on the school trip, used to live quite near Blackpool, though must admit haven't been to the Pleasure Beach for years now. It's got a bit expensive for what it is imo. Your meetups sound fun

Lizzie - hope doggie is smelling a wee bit sweeter today - they always manage to find the worse stuff to roll in don't they :rotfl:Sounds frustrating with DS, but once they get past a certain age is not like you can really make them do things if they don't want to anymore. Hope the friends aren't too annoyed

Hewie - your list looks great, am very impressed

Have noticed a few of you have mentioned swimming - if you haven't seen it already then British Gas are offering free swims for 1 adult and up to 2 children at participating pools. Not really anywhere that near me but others might be luckier. Not done much fabbing this week I must admit, did a condition on my hair last night but still haven't sorted out my nails.

Everhopeful09

Hi All,

Apologies but i need to rant, just seem really stressed today and confused! A good male friend of mine declared his love for me on Saturday night, after a few drinks, so meeting tonight to have a sober chat, I don't love him like that so feeling pretty rubbish about the whole situation. We have a great friendship and we both want to keep that but not sure if possible.


And my 2 sisters are at logger heads all over how much we're are spending on a b'day present and raking up previous rows, I told them to grow up and more important things in life! and to not involve me and my phone is switched off!


Grrrrrr, so don't feel fab today, make up free and wearing black, reflects my mood! I will be in a better mood tomorrow.


The rest of you are doing really well EH xx

Savvy_sewing

Everhopeful09 wrote: »

Hi All,

Apologies but i need to rant, just seem really stressed today and confused! A good male friend of mine declared his love for me on Saturday night, after a few drinks, so meeting tonight to have a sober chat, I don't love him like that so feeling pretty rubbish about the whole situation. We have a great friendship and we both want to keep that but not sure if possible.


And my 2 sisters are at logger heads all over how much we're are spending on a b'day present and raking up previous rows, I told them to grow up and more important things in life! and to not involve me and my phone is switched off!


Grrrrrr, so don't feel fab today, make up free and wearing black, reflects my mood! I will be in a better mood tomorrow.


The rest of you are doing really well EH xx

Not the best position to be in!.
But if he is a good friend, then he will understand that. It is possible to still stay friends with someone as long as both of you have an understanding that things are not going to change etc. If they have changed for you too much, maybe you need to ask why? Why dont you feel the same for him? or why does he love you? That is a very, very flattering thing. Someone out there is in love with you, for who you are. YOU ARE ALREADY FABULOUS!
Getting dragged into arguements with siblings is difficult. But at the end of it all, you are family, and most family situations will blow over. Perhaps they are also feeling pants about things and the blame game is the only way for them to deal with things?
Its not easy to let things roll off of the shoulders, and be brushed to one side. But thats what you need to do.
Breathe in, and then out slowly.
Smile at yourself in the mirror.
Tell yourself that YOU ARE WORTH IT, and that the petty arguements are really just frustration. Then let them go!.

I know that its easier said then done, but Its a technique that can help you to calm down sooner, and feel better about yourself. Then go and put a bit of colour back on!

I feel rather poorly today, so I had a shower in the middle of the day and changed out of my jeans, put on a citrus green Tshirt and a floral skirt. I immediately felt better, even though I am still in the same pain as I was in before.

Hope this helps, but if it doesnt at least you will have tried.

Hugs to all that are feeling rubbish today.
(Remember that one mans rubbish is another mans treasure!)