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WelshWoofer

Rabbit Update.....

After 3 hours the RSPCA phoned back! Only to say they couldn't take poor Robbie Rabbit (he now has a name!).
In the mean time I phoned Pets at Home who were very helpful and apparently take in small animals and put them up for adoption.
3 stores later I found one with space to take him and were happy to do so. They actually thanked me for taking him in and weren't at all reluctant.:T:T
So Robbie now lives at Pets at Home for 2 weeks in case anyone claims him and then he's getting "adopted" . Thank you Pets at Home:beer: For once a big company that actually help.
A happy ending.......:)

verynewmoneysaver

Well done WW!

WelshWoofer

verynewmoneysaver wrote: »

Well done WW!

Thanks. Am knackered now though! Who'd have thought a cute little fluffy bunny could cause so much trouble?
I was quite sorry to see him go in the end but the dog would not have liked a roommate!

No extra exercise today for me - after all that running around and excitement I need a sit down. The dreaded monthly event sneaked up on me today too - no bloating, no big boobs, like a sleath bomber this month..... Need a "flop on the sofa" night after I've finished cleaning (mum coming tomorrow:eek:).

lessonlearned

Good Morning All

Glad to see Robbie the Rabbit is ok. All's well that ends well.

Well - as expected I had rather a sleepless night after yesterday's upset with my father. Had to resort to herbal tablets in the end. I was doing so well with my sleep too.

I've had a good chat with my sister and she is going to try and talk to dad about mum's need for movement and walking a little, getting in some proper supplies - bacterial wipes, disinfectant etc. She'll explain the need for a pressure cushion and get him to speak to the OT - or she'll do it. I've mentioned the potential threat of pressure sores and varicose ulcers and she will keep an eye on things because she knows just how serious they can be.

She works at Boots, her boss the pharmacist is brilliant. He has already visited my mum. (As I've said they've had so much help and goodwill heaped on them - they have not been thrown into the deep end to sink or swim). He will be able to suggest things and Dad might just listen to him.

As you can imagine I am feeling pretty raw this morning. I have decided to "lie low" for a while because I just can't face him at the moment. I know that makes me sound like such a coward - it's not that - I'm not scared of him any more. It's just that I think it's better for mum if I stay away.

It's so sad isn't it - when you can't even visit your own mother. However I'm not the first person to stay away because of him - over the years he has driven many of her friends away and more than a few family members.

My sister will keep an eye on things for now and she knows I'll come running if she needs me. I noticed that both she and BIL have backed off a little recently too.

Anyway off to Costco, and then hopefully a bit of gardening whilst the sun is out. I'm taking one of OH's chums to visit him later today - he'll like that. G is a great guy and is a real raconteur - just like my OH used to be. He always has a fund of stories to keep OH amused.

Time for a bit of fabbing before I go out.

Have a great day.

Bitsy_Beans

Sorry not been about much, been a mega busy week and set to continue this morning. Not much fabbing, zero exercising apart from dog walking and we wont even mention about the food :eek:

LL have a hug xxx its not cowardly at all, probably best for your BP and for your mums mental state. I don't have any advice but did your mum wait on him hand and foot? Is he resentful for the change in his lifestyle and living arrangements? Hope he realises before its too late what he's got. Hugs for your mum too xxxx

WW LOL youre as soppy as me and my mum. We drove miles to save a hedgehog who was blind and had lung issues. I'll d pretty much anything to save an animal, cue me saving loads of birds from Killer Cat only for them to die of shock later on. Still at least they died in peace Glad rabbit is now safe.

Podperson hope kitty is OK xxxx

Right got to dash, enjoy the sunshine if you have it :cool:

Madrabbitgirl

Welshwoofer - You must be an angel! :A That is so lovely of you to take home poor little Robbie Rabbit! That was so heartwarming to read. So many people would have just walked on by and not bothered to help. As you have probably guessed I am a big fan of fluffy bunnies, so a big thank you from me! :T I hate to think of any animal suffering. Yes, it's amazing to think how much trouble something so small and fluffy can cause!

Thats good of Pets at Home to take him on. I used to work for them (over 11 years ago now) and despite the occasional bad story you hear, I think on the whole they are a good bunch and mostly do genuinely care about the animals. I think the adoption service they provide is a really good thing. Our local P.A.H were also very good to a family member of mine recently when she found a stray collie dog and gave her some free food for it as it had to stay at hers until someone could collect it the next day.

Lessonlearned That's good that your sister will have a chat with your dad about some of your concerns, hopefully he will listen to her. Sometimes in families you get people that just really clash in personalities. Do you feel this is the case with you and your dad? (you say he isn't like that with your sister?)

I didn't get a lot of sleep again last night and could happily just laze around doing nothing this morning but I am going to make myself do some exercise and organise skirts today.

podperson

Morning all,

LL - hope you're feeling a little better, can only imagine how frustrating it must be but think it's probably a good plan to have a little bit of space. Hope you have a nice day with OH x

ww - well done you, am glad someone cared about the wee bunny Is a shame it ends up being so much hassle isn't it? We took in a tiny kitten years ago where we used to live - was middle of winter, absolutely freezing outside and it had been going up and down the street crying all day, when it got to night-time I had horrible visions of going out in the morning to a little frozen body so ended up bringing them inside. Tried ringing council/rspca/cat charities etc and no one wanted to know - rspca actually told me that unless the animal was injured they didn't bother coming out now they had that much on!

Speaking of kitties - mine is back home and doing ok She's had nearly all her teeth out, bless her, but judging by the way she inhaled her food last night it's not going to cause her any problems and appart from still being a little spaced out last night she seemed to be fine. Huge relief - was panicking all day yesterday! Another minor panic when got the bill - but will just have to try and find it from somewhere
Anyway, now that's out of the way can hopefully get a bit more motivated again - seem to have got nothing done the last few nights, which is not good when I have so much I should be doing. So am going to meet a couple about a wedding after work tonight and then really need to have a decent session on editing the ones from last week when I get home.
Hope everyone has a good day x

Madrabbitgirl

Podperson - glad your kitty is ok! Glad to hear she is eating ok. Just keep an eye on her over the next week or so. We had a bunny (surprise, surprise!) with dental probs who had to have his front teeth removed and despite eating with no probs to start with, went on to develop a mouth abscess and died a few weeks later. I'm really not trying to scare you, just don't want someone to go through the same thing we did. Just watch in-case she starts to go off food or seems not quite herself, or gets bad breath and take her back for a check up if you can.

Vets are so expensive! Our current rabbit started having seizures a short while after we bought him and has left a huge dent in our finances! We know know the reason for his seizures (e.cuniculi - a micro-sporadic parasite) but initially we spent a fortune on tests desperately trying to find a cure & a reason for his problems. Luckily he isn't at the vets so much theses days but his seizures sometimes cause him the odd injury i.e he chipped a tooth, has torn his back claws out etc...and it is heartbreaking to see.

Despite the stress/expense I'd do it all over again. I get so much joy from the animals in my life. We also have a Chinese Dwarf hamster and a freshwater tropical fish tank and bought 3 new Red Rainbowfish yesterday.

Anyway, I feel there is a danger of this turning into animal rescue rather than frump to fab! So how is everyones fabbing going today?

maman

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LL, I just wanted to add that I think lying low is a good idea. It's a shame you can't visit your mother but I'm sure she'd prefer not to see you upset. Perhaps, at some point, you can arrange to go and take over from your dad for a few hours while he goes out then you don't need to spend much time together. My dad and I had very similar personalities which in many ways was a good thing as I admired him hugely. The trouble was I couldn't resist arguing with him when I disagreed with something he said. This caused a lot of tension when I was a teenager. My brother was far more sensible, he disagreed but he kept his mouth shut and let it just flow over his head and then skipped off when it was over. You can't have an argument if the other person doesn't argue back. That's a good tactic but not one you can use when your mother's health is being jeopardised. I think letting your sister do the talking is probably a good way forward.

Good luck with the skirts madrabbitgirl. If you can only have a sort into sizes and discard bin/CS items then you'll have made progress.

:T on your rabbit mercy mission ww. I don't have pets. We used to have guinea pigs, loads over the years and I adore them but when they die I'm so upset we decided no more.

On the fabbing front, I wanted to report on my recent holiday: First, the weightloss still (a year on) gives me an amazing feel good factor. I'm delighted that all my summer/holiday clothes (rarely see the light of day in this country) still fit. I just went to my (well organised) wardrobe and got the box of holiday clothes out, that simple. Second I didn't have to do any 'bikini body' preparation. Ever since I've been on this thread I've been moisturising after every shower, winter and summer and defuzzing regularly. I'm so pleased with how my skin looks and feels. Make up is minimal in the summer but I still like mascara, highlighter on my cheekbones, lippy and perfume. I'm extending my tan by moisturising with body lotion mixed with a bit of Holiday Skin. Day to day I'm dressed smartly (often in CS clothes) which are brightly coloured and well co-ordinated into outfits rather than just thrown together. I keep a mainicure set in the sitting room and do my nails regularly when I'm watching TV. My feet look fab. That took some perseverance with my doctor/podiatrist but I got there as I was determined to sort it out. All of these are routines that I've picked up from here.

I love this thread.:A

lessonlearned

Maman - It is so lovely to hear how happy you are "in your skin" as it were. Wardrobe, bikini body, lovely skin etc. Mind you as a fully fledged graduate of Fab School I would expect no less;).

Well today I look pretty good - even if I do say so myself. Dug out my new white jeans which have hardly had an airing this summer, pretty tootsies in nice pretty sandals, glossy shiny hair, beautifully coloured - I love my new "Jane Asher" strawberry blonde and my serum is doing wonders for my skin.

(Will dig out the website for suppliers for the Frankincense asap - promise).

Just one last comment about my father just to explain.

He has always been a difficult man. My sister was always the golden child - I even call her that - it's our little joke. I was always the huge disappointment - mainly because I was the first born and wasn't the much longed for male heir.:rotfl:

Plus - and this is the real biggy - my facial birthmark was a terrible shock to my parents - truly a face only a mother could love. :rotfl:

My father is very shallow - there's a character in one of Jane Austin's novels - Anne Elliott's father in "Persuasion" I think who always reminds me of my dad. My father simply couldn't accept a daughter who was so imperfectly formed.

I once knew a man whose son had been burned by burning water from a kettle and his reaction was exactly the same. He told me he couldn't bear to look at his son, not because he blamed himself for the accident or felt guilt but because his son was "so ugly". Luckily (iyswim) his face was fine - it was his chest which bore the brunt of the injuries.

Some people can be so cruel and shallow.

Anyway - My sister was and still is a genuinely natural beauty. I am the Plain Jane who learned a few tricks. Getting skin cancer was a bit drastic but at least I no longer have a red angry birthmark. :rotfl:

I B]never[/B] argue with him. I learned long ago it is just a complete waste of time, effort and energy. Like Maman's brother I just let it all roll off me.

I have always completely ignored his tirades and always just went my own sweet way. This of course makes him even more furious. The only time he gets any satisfaction is when he reduces someone one to tears. I stopped crying many years ago.

My poor mother has been a gibbering wreck at times. They are not called nervous breakdowns now but she had several incidents when I was a child. As well as being nasty, vicious, vain and shallow - he was also a serial womaniser.

She was a complete and utter doormat and he has taken every advantage of her sweet gentle nature. (Without being cocky everyone says I am my mother's daughter and have inherited her gentle calmness).

I have to say it was never my idea of a healthy relationship or a good marriage. I hightailed it out of there just as soon as I could, not before he had caused me to have a duodenal ulcer at the age of 17. :eek: Since then I've kept an emotional distance.

However, now that mum is so at risk I'm finding my "just ignore him he'll go away approach" is no longer appropriate. It works beautifully for me but it doesn't protect mum's best interests.

I will still lie low though....

Anyway - it's a beautiful day here - the man has come to fix the storm damage to the roof and then I'm off to visit my OH.

BTW I would like to thank you all for all kind words, support and advice.

You are a great bunch of gals:D.