Hoarding...not just on TV

idristhedragon

GreyQueen wrote: »

I think perfectionism is closely-allied to the character trait called conscientousness. This is something I'm afflicted with and leads to a constant background hum of notgoodenoughitis.

I suspect fellow-travellers on this thread may get where I'm coming from. F'rinstance, if my manager comes to talk to me at work my thoughts run OMG!!! What have I done wrong?!

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WAHHHHHHHHHHH!! Are you me!!!!:rotfl: I am PETRIFIED of authority!:eek:

lostinrates

I food hoard, but I believe sensibly. It all fits in my kitchens usually. The reason? I hate devoting time to grocery shopping. While I enjoy choosing fresh veg and fish the bulk of my meat comes a few times a year as part buys straight of farms I like the upbringing of, and I find no joy in dithering over choice of tinned tomatos. I buy things like that buy the tray (would be prepared to buy a few trays at a time. When we see a wine we like on a good offer we buy one, and if we like it and its appropriate to keep a while we then buy a box. Or the overseas shops. It makes sense to me.


I also then don't get distracted in to seek g other stuff we don't need.

I have for two years been meaning to sort out my online shopping again. I have forgotten how to do it and so keep putting it off. I would rather get supermarket trips even less frequent!

alec_eiffel

Idris, your post brought something to mind for me. Food is one thing I don't hoard. I like to have a nice stock cupboard but I can resist stocking up and I think it's because it's the one thing I have gone without. I'm sure I've said here before that I once had no cash and until I got a job where I was fed very well I lived on rice, popcorn and tea. It was grim but it was ok.

Maybe I don't hoard food because I've been in a situation where I had not much food. The things I hoarded were associated with memories as they were the things I didn't want to lose. I wanted to keep hold of things I couldn't get again and wasn't so bothered about things that can come and go... wow, never thought about it like that before.

Also, I am not conscientious, I would love to be but alas, no.

GreyQueen

idristhedragon wrote: »

WAHHHHHHHHHHH!! Are you me!!!!:rotfl: I am PETRIFIED of authority!:eek:

Nah, I'm pretty sure that I'm a separate person.

I even send my habit up; my catch phrase when The Management comes over is It wasn't me and I didn't do it! :rotfl:

I really can't fathom where this nagging guilt comes from. I'm a decent person. I do random good things for complete strangers, and would never bother to do someone an ill-turn (I just ignore people I don't like). But always, in the background, there's this sense that I'm not doing enough, that I'm not doing it right, that I've screwed up somewhere bigtime and someone will be suffering for it and IT'S ALL MY FAULT!

Hey, I need to get over myself. I'm not leading the nation or performing neurosurgery, I work in a call-centre for goodness' sake!

And I worry about the darndest things such as recycling properly and I just did a laundry load on 40 instead of 30 (bedsheets) and therefore a special bit of ice will fall off a glacier somewhere above Greenland and we'll all go to hell in an handbasket because I wanted a whiter wash..........it's good to share this stuff, isn't it? Let the daftness out.

Right, going to take my exisential guilt to work for a few hours now.........catch ya laters. GQ xx

Jettycat

GreyQueen wrote: »

After all, where in the RW have you had, or overheard, a remark like this one:

"You know, I love going around to Sarah's house so much. It's spotless and we ate lunch off her kitchen floor because it was so clean and shiny that plates and tables would have been redundant. And we spent a good two hours opening her cupboards and drawers to admire how neat they were and she talked endlessly about home organisation and how she does her housework. Such a fascinating woman."

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

This made me laugh out loud - just as well I'm home on my own, DH looks at me funnily when I do this if he's around.

It's so true though, I feel my house should be spotless for people to visit, yet I have many friends who have to wash mugs up to give me tea, etc and I don't judge them for it ... why do I judge myself?

I don't food hoard either. In fact I'd say I'm the opposite of a food hoarder as I don't like to have much in case it goes off. I think this is probably related to my Mum's hoarding - it was always dangerous to go in the fridge or cupboards (or pile on the kitchen table) at home as more often than not you'd come up with something mouldy or lumpy (milk - yeerk!!).

Byatt

I really think this thread should be bound into a book, which could be lovingly held and read whilst curled up under the duvet, as it's so heart warming, full of such brilliant insight, light bulb moments and extremely funny. :A

and GQ, everything you said in your post and "It's all my fault", is exactly how I feel and think! :eek:

idristhedragon

I apologised profusely to my husband yesterday for something that was NOTHING to do with me (I wish I could remember what it was) Oh, I think it was something to do with him being uber busy as he has a meeting in London next week and a few talks to prepare and had to take time off to come to hospital yesterday after my frantic phonecall.
Because CLEARLY its entirely my fault that hes busy, CLEARLY my fault that baby girl bumped heads AT NURSERY and clearly everything is ALL MY FAULT.

D&DD

I swear I was born with a guity concience I'm just the same..
isn't it weird how a lot of us are very similar in our habits as well as our hoarding issues.
Idris hope the little one is recovering well today and Sybil and all the poorlies are on the mend.

idristhedragon

I am off to the post office now (and to grab a sneaky peakin Primark and a jacket potato lunch with my sister ) so far today I have paid horrible bill Ive been avoiding, collected my tablets, and cleaned my kitchen AND done a load of washing and emptied the bins.
Halo being polished as we speak.

Neighbour just walked past to pick up her DD from same nursery as girlie so I guess Id better get a wiggle on!!

SYBIL are you ok? youre quiet today x

valk_scot

GreyQueen wrote: »

"You know, I love going around to Sarah's house so much. It's spotless and we ate lunch off her kitchen floor because it was so clean and shiny that plates and tables would have been redundant. And we spent a good two hours opening her cupboards and drawers to admire how neat they were and she talked endlessly about home organisation and how she does her housework. Such a fascinating woman."

I know someone like this, she asks you round then shows you her cupboards and new kitchen gadgets and talks about cleaning products. And yes she is fascinating, but not in a good way iykwim? She wore white jeans all the time when her babies were small, dressed the kids in white too and changed everyone's clothes whenever either she or the kids got so much as a speck of dirt on any of them. The kids grew up terrified of being dirty, it was so clearly a Bad Thing. The son (he's 18) now has some very serious OCD traits that require therapy, the daughter (16) seems to have some sort of eating disorder. I'm glad my kids grew up thinking mud was a Good Thing, put it that way.