Hoarding...not just on TV

whitewing

Byatt wrote: »

I was just thinking that...:o Oh dear...

I will, but it's mortifying.

It will feel worse for you because of the emotion linked in with it all.

Think how great it will be when you get some support in dealing with it - whatever that support may be.

I think the doctor will be impressed that you can go and seek some help and that you have taken the photos to help clearly explain your difficulties.

If you do get someone unsympathetic, come back here for a hug and a cuppa, and we'll give you the strength to deal with it.

Even if they're really nice, you may feel a bit deflated, but it will be worth it in the end. You go with our best wishes.

short_bird

whitewing wrote: »

PS byatt,
If it helps, you could take some photos of your hoarding in with you (say on your mobile, if you have one)

That sounds like a good idea; after all, the visit is confidential. Also, make a list before you go in, especially if you think you'll get upset while explaining what's going on. :grouphug:

D&DD

Well I blame my dad lol he's as bad as me for 'useful' things

OH has next week off so we plan to attack from the loft down so if I disappear under a pile of boxes I'll be back as Arnie says :rotfl:

I confess to having old 3 piece suite cushions up there as they may come in handy..from 3rd to last suite we had ,numerous carpet offcuts :cool:,well doesn't everyone have them?? And ooer other stuff so useful I can't remember what it is :D:rotfl:
Will keep you posted on my endeavours..

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Byatt wrote: »

I was just thinking that...:o Oh dear...

I will, but it's mortifying.

whitewing wrote: »

It will feel worse for you because of the emotion linked in with it all.

Think how great it will be when you get some support in dealing with it - whatever that support may be.

I think the doctor will be impressed that you can go and seek some help and that you have taken the photos to help clearly explain your difficulties.

If you do get someone unsympathetic, come back here for a hug and a cuppa, and we'll give you the strength to deal with it.

Even if they're really nice, you may feel a bit deflated, but it will be worth it in the end. You go with our best wishes.

Oh, Byatt . Mortifying has two meanings - one is the context you are using it in, but the other is subduing what you need and desire through self-denial - and you are denying yourself the nice home you deserve. Because you don't think you deserve it, perhaps?



Taking photos to show the GP shows that it isn't just feeling a bit down and not up to pushing the hoover around - it shows the doctor that you have a need for proper help. So it proves it is a real problem that needs real solutions. And you are taking the steps needed to address that, even with the scary feelings hiding in the shadows behind things.



You really are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.





This morning started with a B&Q hit. Got my much wanted spotlights, which are being installed this afternoon, plus another two tester pots, one for touching in scrapes in the kitchen and one for the hall colour. And some boring stuff that I actually needed

Then despatched cat to the vets for another blood test/checkup, but she seems to be doing well, no surgery yet, as she's taking a long time to get up to fighting weight. She's now back, on the top of the freezer, scowling at everybody between jumping down for more mouthfuls of food. She hates it when she has to starve for blood tests, even more than I do.


Oh, and I left the freezer door partly open last night. So I'm having steak and the cats are having fish for dinner. Yummy.

bobble_hat

Hello all you lovely people, I've decided this thread is too huge to read all from the beginning (I'm up to page 28!), so I'm trying to catch up from Friday. Still massive.

Byatt - I hope you get on ok at the doctors, you will feel so much better once you've done it. It took me two attempts to go when I thought I was going crazy. 2 months down the line I'm on the right meds for an under-active thyroid and I'm feeling like my old self again-ish. Admitting you need help is a Huge step. :T

JoJo - Your kitchen looks lovely, you must be so pleased with yourself, a huge well done. :T :T

I stripped the beds this morning and managed to get it all out on the line, plus all the towels! I've fired up the new shredder and filled it (only once as I'm supposed to be working).

We went to IKEA at the weekend and I'm burdened with Aspiration now, so I've taken a walk around my lovely home and garden to remind myself how lucky we are to have acquired this beautiful plot and that it is good enough because we work full-time and have a lovely, happy daughter and family life and that is what counts. Besides, I've only got two beds to remake, I feel sorry for the IKEA staff who will have to straighten all the beds DD tried out whilst we were there, it was quite a lot and she was having so much fun and it did not seem to be frowned upon there (wouldn't let her do it in John Lewis ). She even tried on a pair of display shoes she found in one of the wardrobes .

I'm also crafty and I've started finishing those unfinished tasks. DD is 3 and I've been merrily cross-stitching (this weekend) the Winnie the Pooh Cross stitch I started for the nursery before she was born. Pooh, Piglet and Tigger are now complete, I just have the log they are balancing on to do and the back-stitching, and I have a new hobby lamp (IKEA £11) to enable me to stitch on into the evening, whilst keeping hubby company.

I'll be logging off work and MSE shortly to clean the bathroom, dust and vacuum through upstairs before picking DD up from nursery whilst walking the dog!

Forgot - Advice needed - I have several boxes of baby paraphernalia which I had lent to a friend and told her she could keep, well we fell out and she sent them all back (child had outgrown it all anyway). They arrived back just as I had completed a 2nd miscarriage. They are clutter but when I started to go through them to sort this weekend I got a bit emotional. DD is 3 now and no-one near me has a need of tiny baby clothes, but I think I'm going to struggle to let them go. We've stopped trying for a baby until I feel better or we decide definitely not to. So do I box everything back up for the loft or bag up as much as I can to sell on E-bay now, retaining one or two sentimental items. If I have everything retained just in case I'm not really moving on and I think we've reached a decision mentally, but I'm scared to make it physically/emotionally because I've been all over the place due to the miscarriages and the Thyroid problems.

Annoying thing is I'm happily sending clothes she is outgrowing now to CS and friends. Any advice would be gratefully received.

Have a great de-cluttering week everyone.

blossomhill_2

bobble_hat wrote: »

Hello all you lovely people, I've decided this thread is too huge to read all from the beginning (I'm up to page 28!), so I'm trying to catch up from Friday. Still massive

Huge? No idea what you mean - uh-ho, yours was post #2000!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Bobble, that's one where I would suggest waiting a bit longer. Perhaps select the things that are sentimental to you now, then putting the rest into storage for a set period - say, 6 months, to see whether you feel better much more quickly - and then review whether you wish to pass them on then.

If you don't feel ready in six months, then put them back for another, and then it's been a whole year and, whatever your decision, you'll have that time to have put a distance between you and your pain. If it helps, I didn't think I would ever do it all again - but I had my 2nd daughter when my eldest was nearly 6. And this wasn't as unusual as I had thought, either - many mums at school had children more than five years after their first/last.



My first daughter's baby clothes were only passed on when she was about 3 as well and I felt sad, but relieved they weren't there looking at me every time I opened a drawer anymore.



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My lights work and look good, and my tester pot paint colour is perfect for the hall - a pale grey with green/blue undertones - so I'll be buying that soon. More activities to keep me busy

Byatt

Thanks Jo-Jo...

Well as usual the doctor was running late, always seems to be the case when I see a doctor, so nerves were ratched up after 40 mins wait, on top of the 10 mins as i got there early.

Anyway, I cried, not hysterically, but little tears creeping from eyes. Kind of went how I expected although I guess deep down I hoped for magic wand solutions...I am being referred to the counselling they run at the surgery, which I hadn't heard of. I could have gone the CPN route immediately, but I think it's more likely I will be seen sooner by the surgery group although they may refer me to the crisis team. She looked at the pics, didn't say a lot.

So I will keep you all updated as things happen.

Bobble-hat I am not surprised you got emotional. I am sorry about your miscarriages and how awful for you that your old friend sent the items bakc when she did. I guess I would keep back some sentimental items.

D&DD

I walked past my next door neighbours this morning and she had a really nice drop leaf table out the front...I was very good and ran into the shop and back and didn't bring it home to live with me must be making progress!

sjprmc01

Aah, Byatt, I hope the counselling helps!

Me, I've had a mix of good and bad days and I think I'm trying to do too much at once! I have work, where I'm trying to do OT as I have no money! A constant deluge of letters popping through the door re a tax credit overpayment (huge error) yet, as always, it it near on impossible to actually speak to them to sort it, ive resorted to writing to them!, I'm part of the school parent council and we have an argument on our hands with the council (won't go into any more detail) and since over the summer the leadership seems to have fallen apart I'm taking a rather more active role than I feel confident doing at times.

I've been trying (and failing) to diet and up my exercise and I just feel shattered

I just wish I had the 'perfect' house so I could keep on top of everything else but can't see that happening for yrs at the moment!

I did throw out 2 bags of teddies (well the girls picked a few back out) and 2prs kids shoes, a pr kids boots and a dress and leggings. And tidy away some of the other teddies that were lying around into one of those under bed type boxes that I have put on top of a wardrobe

There is still a long, long, long way to go though