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penniesforme

MisalignedHalo wrote: »

I just want to apologise for being depressing before I start but I need to offload and I know this is the best place:A

For certain reasons I cannot give too many details but will try to explain best I can.

For the last week I have spent a lot of time in my local ITU sitting with a lady whom I have known for 15months. This is to do with my work although it does not normally involve hospitals and never situations like this The lady is only in her early 40's and through complications from a simple operation is now severely ill. Got told the weekend she is unresponsive and they think brain dead, although her heart is beating she is on a respirator. I have sat and talked, laughed and tried my best to be positive not knowing if she can hear anything I am saying:( I found out today that they will be turning the respirator off tomorrow and she will either die or breathe for herself but be faced with a life of 24hr care with no dignity:( . I know I should be more professional and it should not be affecting me this way but this is the first time I have been faced with such a sad situation. I don't know until the morning if I am expected to be there when it happens as she has no close family.
How will I be strong? I really don't think I can be

I'm so sorry to hear that and my thoughts are with you and the lady.

I don't think you are being unprofessional in anyway. *hug*

purdita

MisalignedHalo
What a sad situation. I don't know what to suggest other than you'll know what to do when the time comes.
Even if the poor lady passes away, she will have had someone who cares about her by her side in her final moments.
You don't have to be strong. ((((hugs))))

Fudge_Cake_2

Huge cuddles for Misaligned Halo whose halo is most certainly not misaligned and sat firmly in place! You are wonderful and the respect, dedication and care that you have shown this lady in what may be her final few hours on this Earth is more than many would ever be able to process or cope with. Please do not feel that you are wrong or unprofessional for becoming emotionally attached to someone in such a vulnerable position. You are incredibly kind and caring and emotions are all part and parcel of that. My thoughts are with you and the strength you will need to get through the coming day. Big hugs :Axxxxx

karlie88

MisalignedHalo wrote: »

I just want to apologise for being depressing before I start but I need to offload and I know this is the best place:A

For certain reasons I cannot give too many details but will try to explain best I can.

For the last week I have spent a lot of time in my local ITU sitting with a lady whom I have known for 15months. This is to do with my work although it does not normally involve hospitals and never situations like this The lady is only in her early 40's and through complications from a simple operation is now severely ill. Got told the weekend she is unresponsive and they think brain dead, although her heart is beating she is on a respirator. I have sat and talked, laughed and tried my best to be positive not knowing if she can hear anything I am saying:( I found out today that they will be turning the respirator off tomorrow and she will either die or breathe for herself but be faced with a life of 24hr care with no dignity:( . I know I should be more professional and it should not be affecting me this way but this is the first time I have been faced with such a sad situation. I don't know until the morning if I am expected to be there when it happens as she has no close family.
How will I be strong? I really don't think I can be

Oh dear.

ITU/ICU can be a horrible place.

Is there someone you could talk to tomorrow morning if you were to go in? Perhaps you could talk to the nurses, they really are excellent and know how to look after seriously ill people. Or you could talk to the doctors or even the consultant on call? If you're religious you could pay a visit to the hospital chaplaincy? They can give you support too.

In ICU, they usually have private relatives'/friends' room where you can discuss difficult matters. I'd suggest talking with the doctor and nurse looking after the lady; perhaps they could explain to you the underlying problems and why the best outcome is to switch off the machine. Also might be a good idea to take a relative or a close friend in with you tomorrow; they probably won't be allowed to sit in the consultations, but they could certainly be there for you if needs be (maybe just outside ICU?).

It doesn't sound easy. Hugs to you and your friend; the elite will always be here for you.



x

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Fudge_Cake wrote: »

Huge cuddles for Misaligned Halo whose halo is most certainly not misaligned and sat firmly in place! You are wonderful and the respect, dedication and care that you have shown this lady in what may be her final few hours on this Earth is more than many would ever be able to process or cope with. Please do not feel that you are wrong or unprofessional for becoming emotionally attached to someone in such a vulnerable position. You are incredibly kind and caring and emotions are all part and parcel of that. My thoughts are with you and the strength you will need to get through the coming day. Big hugs :Axxxxx

thats lovely :A

jtz

Evening everyone!
One more day until the weekend!:j

karlie88 wrote: »

SOH CAH TOA.

Remembered that from GCSE Maths.

:eek::D

I remember being taught a different one, one that I may not be allowed to mention here!:eek::o

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MisalignedHalo wrote: »

I just want to apologise for being depressing before I start but I need to offload and I know this is the best place:A

For certain reasons I cannot give too many details but will try to explain best I can.

For the last week I have spent a lot of time in my local ITU sitting with a lady whom I have known for 15months. This is to do with my work although it does not normally involve hospitals and never situations like this The lady is only in her early 40's and through complications from a simple operation is now severely ill. Got told the weekend she is unresponsive and they think brain dead, although her heart is beating she is on a respirator. I have sat and talked, laughed and tried my best to be positive not knowing if she can hear anything I am saying:( I found out today that they will be turning the respirator off tomorrow and she will either die or breathe for herself but be faced with a life of 24hr care with no dignity:( . I know I should be more professional and it should not be affecting me this way but this is the first time I have been faced with such a sad situation. I don't know until the morning if I am expected to be there when it happens as she has no close family.
How will I be strong? I really don't think I can be

It is not being depressing at all. It is good to offload, much better than keeping it inside.

You are only human so don't feel bad about the way the situation is affecting you. It shows your deep compassion and humanity

It sounds like you have been there for her and done your best for her

Please offload whenever you need to

locarr

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Anyone need anything when I go to the post office tomorrow morning



Off to catch up, back in a bit

Worth bearing in mind the MAM mocs expire monday!:cool:

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I think the red car seems more Doc-like, Karlie

(Am I out of the naughty club now?????)