Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

For tea... guess what .... I had: the end of that salady stuff..... the end of the spud salad.... the end of the pizza.

So, for tomorrow that means an egg, some cheese and 'pockets', which is a pack of bread variant I bought, like halved pittas you just shove food into and eat. I've got 4 of those to eat by Tuesday.... and another 4 still frozen.

On sunday night we either end up eating out or eating left overs.

OH is tucking into sushi that he happened to see when he went out to get bagels for lunch.

I'm finishing left over chicken.

silvercar

lostinrates wrote: »

I am guessing it works for Gen. My mother was/ is a thrower, and tbh there was always some 'violence' and lots of shouting in our household (sister too). Most of the time its ok. I shout sometimes. Dh just goes all gooey eyed and says ' you look so sweet when you are cross, little cross face' which drives me crazy but then reminds me that i am in the wrong. He diffuses me in about three seconds. And i very rarely blow up now. Usually when cross or grumpy i just want to be myself so noone giggles at my 'sweet little cross face', and it happens rarely.

Sometimes I wish we could do shouting.

At the moment mum isn't speaking to me. So I phone each day and leave answerphone message and she doesn't return the call.

This happens at fairly regular intervals, but in the past Dad has calmed the waters and peace has been restored. Now he isn't around, she is 150 miles away and there is little I can do.

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

Sometimes I wish we could do shouting.

At the moment mum isn't speaking to me. So I phone each day and leave answerphone message and she doesn't return the call.

This happens at fairly regular intervals, but in the past Dad has calmed the waters and peace has been restored. Now he isn't around, she is 150 miles away and there is little I can do.

Oh dear sc. we do shouting, not dh and i, (just me). Dh's family are passive aggressive more, andi do not do that, its not terribly healthy for me. I can refrain from giving opinion, or i can give it, sugar coated but straight, but i do not poke at a problem then pretend i cannot see it. I do stop talking to peoe rather than face the same issue over and over, and have walked out on friendships because i have been able to reconcile my self to something happening, but in general, i would rather say what i think, discuss it, apologise sincerely, be apologised to and move on. I have been some time not speaking to my mother in the past (though not as long as me and sibling, or sibling and mother). I get some agnst over this, but dh points out some sanity when he feels things have gone too far.

I also think goading people is the grown up version of cowardly bullying.


Dh is neither passive aggressive nor shouty, He is a genuinely easy going person and has very few fallouts with others ever. He is prepared to tell me (and my parents) to 'pull our horns in' and 'just think where this will end before you say what you feel' and sometimes 'what you think is sometimes more important than what you feel. Think.'...

But most of all 'little cross face, sweeeeeet'

Nikkster

silvercar wrote: »

On sunday night we either end up eating out or eating left overs.

OH is tucking into sushi that he happened to see when he went out to get bagels for lunch.

I'm finishing left over chicken.

Today we had leftovers. Some of which are an answer to lir's blue moon question. We had some cheap okra so on Thurs mum made daal (yum). Then half way through decided to make chapatis. Which she hasn't done since before I was born. It was a real treat

Nikkster

silvercar wrote: »

Sometimes I wish we could do shouting.

At the moment mum isn't speaking to me. So I phone each day and leave answerphone message and she doesn't return the call.

This happens at fairly regular intervals, but in the past Dad has calmed the waters and peace has been restored. Now he isn't around, she is 150 miles away and there is little I can do.

My mum does both shouting (mainly and frequently) and ignoring (much less often, but can be quite lengthy). Shouting is horrible, but if left blows over (often as quickly as it started). Ignoring is much more difficult

LydiaJ

My brothers and I squabbled noisily as kids, and our parents got cross with us sometimes, but since we've grown up we... well, just get on, really, all of us. Well, all of us that were part of the family when I was growing up, even if not all the in-laws.

I try not to yell at my kids more than I can help, and sometimes succeed better than other times. They wind each other up in a typical pre-teen siblings sort of way, so I hope they'll grow out of it as we did.

I remember a mutually sympathetic and supportive conversation with a friend at work, in which we concluded that it was quite fair - she had a nightmare situation with difficult elderly parents, but a wonderful supportive husband, and I had a nightmare situation with LNE and all of that, but wonderful supportive parents (two of them at the time of the conversation, although only one now, of course).

chewmylegoff

OH doesn't shout at me much, maybe once I can think of in six years. She is naturally more included to attempt emotional blackmail, but she has given up on that as it is wasted on someone as emotionally !!!!!! as me. I don't lose my temper unless my passport gets washed, and then I employ the silent treatment.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

It did come out heart shaped

awwwww
How cute!

YoungBusinessman

Wish i had a Sunday roast today, my belly is rumbling like mad! Off to munch on as much as i can...on a mission to put ON weight...when losing it seems to be the norm.

PasturesNew

YoungBusinessman wrote: »

Wish i had a Sunday roast today, my belly is rumbling like mad! Off to munch on as much as i can...on a mission to put ON weight...when losing it seems to be the norm.

Pies.... lots of pies..... and, of course, no pie is complete without a mound of chips