Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

Nikki I would just cut all links and direct any essential comms through a mate (of yours) or relative. Believe it or not I bet the guy does not realise it is over and can't be resurected.

i think this would be a short term gain but a longterm loss. I have only had one difficult breakup, but it was really difficult. And frankly i was ashamed. If i had asked a family member or friend to intervene i think i would have found it harder to get over. I was not stupid enough to believe i could handle it alone though. When i needed to go back ( as i did over a period of weeks to get stuff and sort practicalities) i took male friends, big ones. When it got even nastier and we were fairly financially entangled, regretfully, i got a solicitor.

UltimatelY in my situation i decided to take a financial loss and the loss of some 'stuff' to cut ties quicker and move on with my life, as soon as the links had been severed. But my domestic and personal situation was a little different to nikkster's and i can quite see why that might not be the right move for everyone, particularly should he not be violent and if she has the measure of any emotional blackmail, in whoch case handling it with the courage she seems to be from the glimses we read, is part of the learning process probably. And certainly steel to the resolve in the decisions she has made.

PasturesNew

Scorchio isn't a big enough word for it! It's hot, hot, hot here... and sunny. Endlessly sunny... unfortunately, I was overdressed and got over-heated, then completely lost ... and ended up doing a long 5 mile walk to get back to where I started from (believing I was only half a mile from where I started from!).

So then I came home, washed my aching feet... and snoozed.....

By 1pm I'd walked along the sandy beach, paddling ... picking up shells ... and then into a beachside pub for a half

lostinrates

Where are you now pn? I am not sure if you have travelled yet or not?

lostinrates

I made a fat free spinch curry. And yes, it tastes fat free too, sonewhat 'worthy' tasting. Ok, but will try something different next time.

Nikkster

michaels wrote: »

I would just cut all links and direct any essential comms through a mate (of yours) or relative. Believe it or not I bet the guy does not realise it is over and can't be resurected.

lostinrates wrote: »

UltimatelY in my situation i decided to take a financial loss and the loss of some 'stuff' to cut ties quicker and move on with my life, as soon as the links had been severed. But my domestic and personal situation was a little different to nikkster's and i can quite see why that might not be the right move for everyone, particularly should he not be violent and if she has the measure of any emotional blackmail, in whoch case handling it with the courage she seems to be from the glimses we read, is part of the learning process probably. And certainly steel to the resolve in the decisions she has made.

Michaels - I don't think this is necessary, but thanks for the concern. There is no violence (hope I've not made it sound like there is), just a complicated situation.

Lir - that sounds terrible, what an awful situation to have to get through. Yes, I might well have to cut losses. I'm hoping to minimise them a bit first.

I wasn't so much upset by today - more frustrated. I really don't think they were sent with malice, it was supposed to be a nice gesture. It just wasn't very well thought through, or particularly appropriate.

I'll probably not say too much more on here, being a public forum and all that. But you don't have to worry, I'm safe and well (apart from wanting to tear my hair out)

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

I made a fat free spinch curry. And yes, it tastes fat free too, sonewhat 'worthy' tasting. Ok, but will try something different next time.

I didn't think curries came in fat free varieties?!
At least you can feel virtuous eating it :A

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Where are you now pn? I am not sure if you have travelled yet or not?

I travelled early this morning... I am at my destination... at the new seaside

I just went into the garden, then stopped off at the pool, sitting on the edge with my legs dangling in.. it's heated. Might get a cozzie.

PasturesNew

Really looking forward to pigging out on a full English in the morning

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

I didn't think curries came in fat free varieties?!
At least you can feel virtuous eating it :A

And, honestly, there is a reason they do not i now find!

Nikkster

PasturesNew wrote: »

I travelled early this morning... I am at my destination... at the new seaside

I just went into the garden, then stopped off at the pool, sitting on the edge with my legs dangling in.. it's heated. Might get a cozzie.

Sounds great! When are we all coming round? :beer:

You should definitely treat yourself to a swimming costume. Hope you have a lovely time whilst you're staying there