Am i just the meanest mother in the world?

faerie~spangles

Fifty quid a week for room, board, laundry, power and business premises?

Her Ladyship is having a laugh at you and your husband's expense!

As for her verbally abusing your husband [STRIKE](she needs a good slap)[/STRIKE] Record her the next time she's 'avin' a laugh, and play it back to her. Verbal abuse is not accepted in the work place and as her work place is your home, warn her that she will be out on her ear if it happens again. If you feel generous, give her three strikes before carrying out your threat.

If I were in your shoes I'd do as much research as possible re' the cost and legalities of running a business from home. Once you and hubby are well informed and singing from the same page. Sit her Ladyship down and have a business meeting in 'her business premises', not in your kitchen or lounge. She has to recognise that as a business woman she has responsibilities to the tax man, insurance company and you as her landlady.


Loan of 6K for a boob job :rotfl:
I choked on me cuppa when I read that!

RAS

As above. Did her behaviour contributed to the loss of her previous employment, accomodation and BF?

If she treats you like this there is a fair chance that she does the same elsewhere, just they will not put up with it.

And until she learn to behave very differently, she is going to have trouble living acceptably with anyone in the family or outside.

little_miss_spender wrote: »

Whoever said did she have a tantrum for me to be asking this question well no, she didn't as it happens, living in the same house with her is one big tantrum every day!

I just woke up to the fact that I am being treated like a doormat, skivvy,rubbing rag, fool, idiot, and other names which are too numerous to mention, in my own home, and I can not understand how I allowed it to escalate to the point where I am writing on the forum for help about my own child, when in reality I have created the problem myself by being too soft, and not discussing things through with my husband from the start.

Because since then things have gone from bad to worse and I really cant tolerate much more of it, I find myself going out in the car just to get away from the stress she causes between everyone in the house. She doesnt clean the salon on a night when she has finished she does it when she feels like it and if I mention it she goes ballistic and tells me its none of my business.

The bathroom and toilet the clients are supposed to use is mostly filthy with towels on the floor which I end up cleaning because I cant stand the fact that the clients are coming into my home and thinking that it is me that is dirty. I do her washing and I did do her ironing but stopped because she never puts it away. When she cooks for herself she leaves all the mess for me to tidy up. She cant even put the pots into the dishwasher she puts them on the side above it which drives me crazy it is so bone idle.

Then to make matters worse she thinks it is okay to call her dad a !!!!!!--d, w-nk-r, knob,and to f off and p off, and when i say anything all i get is she is only messing about, joking. I am sorry but I dont think calling people foul names is amusing in the slightes, I think it is totally unacceptable and disrespectfull. My husband says nothing and I get accused of moaning, I just cant win. I dont know what to do anymore, I am so confused and angry.

And you really do need to check out the implications regarding

Planning control
Business rates
Your tenancy if you rent
Capital gains tax if you own
Public liability regarding people in your house
Her need for public liability is separate.

System

You can do too much for a child you know.

Gingham_R

Teaching her how, now, won't be 'too much' but it'll probably be some of the hardest work a parent has to face.

You're going to be fine with this, OP. Make sure you know exactly what your plan is before you embark on this!

onlyroz

I agree with others that you need to make sure that:

a) you are legally allowed to run a business from your home
b) your daughter has all the required insurances incase a client has an accident
c) your daugher is paying the correct amount of tax and NI on her earnings, and has registered her business with the correct bodies

Regarding the way that she treats you, I'd suggest that you treat her as a lodger. So charge her a proper rent (for both her room and her business premises), make her do her own laundry, ironing, cleaning and cooking. She should be cooking her meals with her own pots and pans, and so give her a cupboard to put them in, and a place to put them when they're dirty - if she doesn't wash them up then it's her problem. If the dirty pots are still there an hour after a meal then put them in a sealed box to mask the smell (e.g. some sort of bin).

If she leaves the toilet dirty then tell her the clients can't use it unless it is cleaned.

If she disagrees with the measures then hand her the local property pages.