Problem Neighbours Making my Husband Want to Leave Home

AnnaLicious_2

The people I know in BCC are all very dedicated, however there are just so few of them for the size of the city. It's constant rounds of redundancies. The housing people and environmental health folk you speak to probably have piles of cases in front of them already. You need to have loads of documented evidence you can clearly communicate with them. If you phone up and say, 'they're awful, I call you all the time' that means that officer has to search all the log. If you email in 'here are the last 7 incidents, police incident numbers, and a log of noise/drug-dealing/violence' it will help you a lot in pushing the issue forward.

If you are actually worried for the health and safety of the children, call bristol social services. if you call out of revenge and have no genuine concerns about the children, you can be the one to get into trouble. Make sure you have actual evidence something is going on that can effect the children, such as seeing small children in the street barefoot covered in bruises, or see them giving a toddler a bottle of beer and a cigarette. Just having loud parents with a chaotic household isn't enough to warrent social services intervention.

Person_one

I'm sure he is at breaking point, but cutting and running on his family really shouldn't be an option. It can't be easy for you either but I don't see you wanting to walk out on him and leave him to deal with it alone.

Whatever you do to try and resolve this situation, surely it has to be something you do together, for the sake of all of you?

Good luck figuring it out, I really do wish you the best.

pawsies

The other thing to think about is if you do rent it out how are you going to ensure the rent is paid if it's similar people?

Also, would you want the house to be destroyed? lol

Marksteven

Here i am the part of that students who made the rackets whole nights it was a good time there to live and we were cool there but suddenly others got the issue and we had to leave.

partialycloudy

Consider speaking to your mortgage provider about renting your property. You may not have to chnage mortagages just pay a fee. Ours is about £250 I think, then you can rent somewhere else. Some rentals will allow pets, especially if you offer to pay a larger deposit to cover any possible damage. I know its extra expense you don't need right now but could be worth it for all you to stay together.

cobbingstones

All the best OP YOU can do it!

summerday

Hugs to you, you've got a lot on your plate at a time when you should be taking it easy!

It sounds as though your husband is just at breaking point, wants you with him but has just make it crystal clear how he is not capable of tolerating it any more. 2 years of neighbours from hell is a LONG time.

It may be worth you exploring mortgages for if you BTL. If this one remains the only home you own, the lender may be willing to let you keep the same product/rate? Re the dog, some landlords, myself included, are willing to take dogs, I ask to 'meet' the dog to get a general impression of if it such as will be a constant barker so annoying the neighbours and put a bit in the contract about having carpets properly cleaned at end of tenancy. It is well worth asking, even if it states 'no pets' as many landlords judge on a case by case basis, some agents seem to just write that as standard without even asking landlords!

You will presumably be at home more when on mat leave, so would have to put up with the neighbours for more of the time, so perhaps its in your interest to get out now?