We’d like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum.

This is to keep it a safe and useful space for MoneySaving discussions. Threads that are – or become – political in nature may be removed in line with the Forum’s rules. Thank you for your understanding.

📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!

Too disabled and too young to move out!

1356716

Comments

  • Mrs_Arcanum
    Mrs_Arcanum Posts: 23,976 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Sent you a PM with a possible option in your area.
    Truth always poses doubts & questions. Only lies are 100% believable, because they don't need to justify reality. - Carlos Ruiz Zafon, The Labyrinth of the Spirits
  • gaogier
    gaogier Posts: 90 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10 Posts Combo Breaker
    Hello

    Sorry, got myself confused again I guess.

    Examples - based off last operations.

    Had operation on November 1st. - Came downstairs about 29th October, went back upstairs about 14th February.
    Had operation year before on August 17th, came downstairs a couple days before, went back upstairs just before we put the xmas decorations up in december so about 10-15th.
    Year before that, 30th september, came down about the 28th, and went back upstairs around January 20th.

    You see, I go into casts to allow my leg to heal, for 3 months, however at the same time I am not allowed to put weight on my other leg so I end up wheelchair bound, they don't get upstairs...

    You see flats in my area are just simply not practical for me when I have my operations. Google maps the flats in my area and you can see that none are designed with a disabled person in mind well enough.
  • sunnyone
    sunnyone Posts: 4,716 Forumite
    Tenth Anniversary 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    gaogier wrote: »
    Do you mean the middle rate carer component of DLA? - Yes

    I am happy with a 1 bed, and get a sofa bed, but as I said before the bungalow prices are cheaper in my area privately for 2 beds than 1. I hope this changes on housing associations.


    We have worked it out on the last operation - which I am still recovering from, I need care for 3 months, before I can be left alone at night for a couple of nights per week which is now - some 7 months on.

    Its stupid things really, but when I take my pain medication it states that someone should be with me, I have to sign something when I pick it up, saying that when I take the medication that someone responsible will be there. I also need someone to get me to the bathroom if I need a pee in the middle of the night, etc so not just sleeping :P

    Its 7 months since november?

    I take controlled drugs, Ive tried them all and your talking absolute rubbish about not being left alone when you have taken them. The form you sign says nothing of the sort, CDs are like all drugs, the sides reduce over a frigteningly short time and in the case of opiates you become opiate tolerant and they are then no more dangerous than smarties.

    If you needed care during the night you would get high rate care and the council would listen to that and you dont fufil the rules for the second bedroom anyway because they are not professional carers but family. What night care do you need when you are asleep? Urinals cost about £3.50 and eliminate the need to leave the bed, so you dont need to leave the bed.

    Benefits pay for what you need, not for what you want and half the population want a nice two bed bungalow as surveys say a higher percentage of people now want bungalows rather than country cottages.
  • Oliver14
    Oliver14 Posts: 5,878 Forumite
    gaogier wrote: »
    Oh, another thing, if I get offered lets, say a house, thats really nice, which I can take, I could switch it for a bungalow right?
    I'm afraid its not that easy normally if you have a council or HA house you cant put in for a mutual exchange for 12 months. Also it can take years to get an exchange as those who wish to swap normally all want to move to the better areas to better houses so their properties are normally not the best.
    'The More I know about people the Better I like my Dog'
    Samuel Clemens
  • Dunroamin
    Dunroamin Posts: 16,908 Forumite
    gaogier wrote: »
    You see, I go into casts to allow my leg to heal, for 3 months, however at the same time I am not allowed to put weight on my other leg so I end up wheelchair bound, they don't get upstairs...

    You see flats in my area are just simply not practical for me when I have my operations. Google maps the flats in my area and you can see that none are designed with a disabled person in mind well enough.

    My husband's disabled and has poor mobility, as long as he lives in a ground floor flat and has a bath/shower seat he can manage perfectly well.

    I really don't understand how the location of any flat is relevant to your situation.
  • gaogier
    gaogier Posts: 90 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10 Posts Combo Breaker
    So whats the part you have to sign then? I may of miss understood something here?

    I am happy for a flat, but the location of the area I live in is, a hill, which I can't walk up, however there is a location where I live currently where they dug out and made level where the chalkpit is, but they are all houses.

    This is why the location must not be on the hill, but a location classed as fareham and not Portsmouth, where its just 1.5 miles away from where I live now, and there are a few places where I could live with ease. Or another prime location called port solent, which I don't think that the flats in the area (which would be ideal for me) are council or HA run.

    You see, my problem with my mums place is when I am downstairs I am in the living room, which the front door is located, and where I am bed bound, any person whether thats a post man, or someone selling something comes to the door, you can see that I am there, any one who comes around like friends etc there I am, no privacy, if the living room would be at the back of the house no problem.
  • princessdon
    princessdon Posts: 6,902 Forumite
    Why do you need to live in select areas?

    Is there a genuine medical reason or are you selecting these locations beased on your personal preference? Why can you not move to another area with a flat?

    Sorry I don't know your area at all but I know where I live that some areas have more social housing suitable for disabled than others.

    eg we have a whole estate with adjusted 1 and 2 bed bungalows for people like yourself but they are like gold dust in the rest of the borough.
  • gaogier
    gaogier Posts: 90 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10 Posts Combo Breaker
    My ideal location is some 20miles away, but have to move within a 5 min max drive of where my mum lives so when I fall I am not down for long.
  • pmlindyloo
    pmlindyloo Posts: 13,099 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    If I have read your posts correctly then your disabilities mean that sometimes you are able to use the stairs but after your operations you have to live downstairs for some time?

    This must be very frustrating for you, especially as this appears to be a situation that may be ongoing.

    From all the information that you have been given I think you will have to accept that having a 2 bedroomed place is not going to be affordable at the moment.

    So what are your options?

    1. Make sure you are put on the council waiting list for suitable housing.

    2. Involve your doctor and Social Services so that they make sure that when you are recovering from your operations you have all the aids that you need. Would a stair lift be appropriate? You can ring Social Services and they should come out and do an assessment.

    3. Apply for a one bedroomed private rented place if you can - this may be difficult as many LLs may not accept people on HA.

    Personally, I would think that option 2 is your best path to explore.

    Good luck.
  • anguk
    anguk Posts: 3,412 Forumite
    If you can't get upstairs could you not get a stair lift fitted? My husband is an amputee and can't walk upstairs safely so he had an assessment by an occupational therapist and they arranged for a stair lift to be fitted. It didn't cost us anything because it was all paid for by a Disabled Facilities Grant.

    You sign the back of a prescription when it's a controlled drug, I used to have to sign the back when my husband was taking Oxynorm and Oxycontin, it doesn't mean you have to be supervised when taking the medicine.
    Dum Spiro Spero
This discussion has been closed.
Meet your Ambassadors

🚀 Getting Started

Hi new member!

Our Getting Started Guide will help you get the most out of the Forum

Categories

  • All Categories
  • 352K Banking & Borrowing
  • 253.5K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
  • 454.2K Spending & Discounts
  • 245K Work, Benefits & Business
  • 600.6K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
  • 177.4K Life & Family
  • 258.8K Travel & Transport
  • 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
  • 16.2K Discuss & Feedback
  • 37.6K Read-Only Boards

Is this how you want to be seen?

We see you are using a default avatar. It takes only a few seconds to pick a picture.