Wedding theme...my head is about to implode

daisiegg

I know this is probably my own fault for reading too many wedding magazines..but does anyone else feel hugely under pressure to have a 'theme' and make everything all perfect and matching and cute and quirky and...!?

Quite apart from reading all about it in wedding magazines I have already been asked by the florist and the photographer and lady at the venue what the 'theme' and 'style' of the wedding is...is this just expected these days? Is a colour scheme not enough anymore?!

I mean, there are things I like or think look lovely...vintage looks, with lots of lace and pearls, cutesy retro pastel stuff, 1950s polka dots...etc etc...but either OH doesn't agree or, more realistically, I just don't have the time or the energy or the inclination or the craftiness to string a theme together.

Again it's the pressure of the wedding magazines...but there seem to be so many extras and things that would be great to have, but who has the time or money?! But is our wedding going to be super boring with flowers and candles on the tables and no extra cute things like wooden hearts or random gingham things all over the place?!

I know this has turned into a slightly hysterical rant but if one more person asks what our wedding theme is I might burst into tears...what's wrong with just keeping it simple and classic?!

Gah!!!

Faith177

There you go that's your theme simple & classic if anyone asks

74jax

Ours is beach but that's because it's so obvious to us; if it wasn't beach themed I think guests would wonder why.

If you're asked for a theme could you just not say the colour scheme is red. Or the theme is us.

sugarwalsh

I made a deliberate choice to keep away from all the complicated extras. We just had table decorations (I like doing flowers), and loads of candles. The kids got extra, but not much. There was a peacock feather in each napkin and simple menus. I didn't want to faff around with all the extras, so simple and elegant was the obvious choice.

elliebobs

Another one here for keeping it simple; there is no theme or colour scheme at our wedding. Mr Elliebobs to be has got total carte blanche to chose whatever colour tie/cravat he wants. As long as no one turns up in a big white dress I'm not bothered!

disclaimer; I'm not saying that a theme is bad but I'm just not crafty enough (or too lazy) to bother about it.

McKneff

It's a nice change to see a traditional wedding nowadays.

jtr2803

I've had moments like this too! I guess I am lucky in some ways that we are having such a low key/small/informal thing that no one would even notice if there was, or wasn't, a theme of any sort!

It's also one of the reasons I refuse to buy wedding mags

I think we will probably focus on purple as my daughter desperately wants a purple bridesmaids dress and OH will prob wear a purple tie or whatever but that will be about it. I also have a bit of a fish thing going on because that's my passion but it's more about choosing bits that reflect us as a couple rather than it being matching or 'themed'.

sweetilemon

We're not having a particular theme either just 'wedding'. Colours are grey/silver/white. I would say you 'theme' sounds similar - 'classic'. I think some people ask a they like to know if its formal, casual or all out theme. For example photographers can do traditional posed photos or casual moments captured thoughout the day. Try not to let it stress you. I found everything was a lot easier to organise when we picked the venue and colours ie the 'theme'. A country manner may require different styles of atire than a town hall wedding for example, just to give a people an idea of the 'feel' of the wedding rather than a particular theme if thats not for you.

RainbowDrops

As I mentioned in your shoe thread, I couldn't be bothered with themes & colour schemes, and it saved me a lot of stress.I couldn't shop for BM dresses until 2 months before the wedding as my sister was pregnant, but I didn't have to worry about getting the exact shade dresses to match invites / seat cover bows / napkins or any of that malarky.
Likewise, when my florist told me with a month to go that her supplier didn't have the flowers in the colours I'd picked in stock, it didn't matter as I was happy with anything.


Theme wise, I guess we tried to fit it in with the venue (a farm) so I had country garden flowers & nothing too modern etc, but other than that we didn't follow a scheme & didn't spend loads trying to get decorations to go with a theme.


Don't get e wrong, some people love all of that stuff, and it's nice when a wedding is fully themed, but it just wasn't the be all & end all.


I only remember going to one wedding that was themed, others may have had themes, but I can't remember. I remember the food & the party, not the place settings & swatches.

trolleydolley

be yourself, don't worry about the need to have a theme or not.

I got engaged in January and have bought a few wedding magazines since then. In the ones I have looked through, you are almost guaranteed that at least 50 per cent of the 'real weddings' featured will have
- a 'vintage' theme
- old crockery/china hired or collected from somewhere
- birdcages everywhere
- quirky signage
- a sweet table
- quirky vases with country flowers in
- a London bus to take them to the reception
- wellies
- a table with old pictures, a typewriter etc on to write notes for the bride and groom
- a photo booth.

Apologies as I'm sure many people on this forum are having one or all of these things, all these things seem to be very 'in' at the moment but it is all so samey samey.

Be yourselves.

trolleydolley

ps rainbowdrops that wasn't aimed at you. I'm sure your country flowers were lovely - I was talking about the magazines