He commits adultery yet everything seems to be against me!!

duchy

jsandra wrote: »

Thanks for all the comments. I have spent a lot of time today reading the posts and thinking about what has been said and I feel a bit better about things.I have sat and made lists about things over the last 3 years to see the difference before he left, just after and now and I can see I have accomplished a lot on my own and just not realised it!:)
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It's often hard to see how far you've come when you're living it-I'm glad you can see that you ARE moving forward-that knowledge alone will spur you on


I know it is most likely we will get to stay in this house till she finishes school end of the year she 18. Hopefully I might have a job with more hours by then and can take it on and maybe do a deal with his pension. My youngest is intending on going to uni so I will have to make sure he contributes to that. 3 years is a long time who knows what is going to happen 3 years ago I would never have dreamt I would go through all that I have!!! If we have to sell up and move we will still have each other and that is what counts.

Think about how-Selling up because he has ignored his obligations to her for the last nearly three years and if allowed to will do so for the next three-isn't the best for your family (your family is you, your daughters and your grandaugher-He doesn't act like family so has lost that benefit)



I need to keep this in my head and my heart ALL THE TIME and not let him get me down. Whatever happens I will NOT be the one missing out on my girls xx

Your girls are growing up-Yes family is important but you need to look at slowly building your own life with your own friends and interests too

I will be reading all the posts again and again and I will get to do more and more of the things that you have all said. I will also make sure that everyday I write a diary of 3 good things that have happened each day to help me see life may not be as bad as I think it is at that time x

Keeping a diary is great -every day you take small steps further and all those steps keep you travelling forward. I do think you have tried to carry all of this alone and some counselling -or even just letting friends see that you need support (in a positive manner -not a poor me way-eg "Meeting for lunch and a chat is a refreshing break from dealing with the situation" would be good for you. No (wo)man is an island after all

I'm really glad you posted again (Even if you avoided all mention of the CSA-Yes we noticed ) I wish you luck on your journey and look forward to you posting again to let us know how you are getting on .