SIL cheated on DD

jumpingjackd

Clearingout do so hope it doesnt come to that, although I think it might, they have the daughters child and have fought so dirty to make sure the father and his family do not see this child. My daughter and SIL have tried to persuade them (previously) to let the father see the child and they have done everything to prevent it, I do so hope it does not turn into a dirty case especially for my DGS

jumpingjackd

skintchick wrote: »

I agree with others that your DD should let MIL see her grandson, so she doesn;t appear unreasonable in any future court case, but she should make sure she has his passport safe. THe comment 'we only want the baby out of this' makes me very nervouss about what they might do.

Skintchick this is something I am quite worried about, DGS does not have a passport yet, but I intend to get him one now. Especially as in laws have bought a house abroad and had intended taking their other grandson there without his fathers permission.

jumpingjackd

DD has decided she wants to change her name back and also change DGS, I have no problem with this and his father has agreed to it . I will get him passport asap, however SIL has decided that he no longer wants to see DGS and much as I dont want to see his family in their lives I am not convinced that this is the best solution for DGS.
I know this is a bit of a contradiction, but so want DGS to have a well balanced life.

juliep123

It really is his loss not seeing his son grow up(wonder if he thinks this will get him out of paying maintenance).However your little one seems to have more than enough love from the rest of his family.
Best wishes to you all
Jules

jumpingjackd

Jules thank you, it is his loss as he is such a great wee boy and think the maintenace issue is probably uppermost in his mind. DGS has loads of love from all his extended family, just hope this is enough for him! Thanks again

daska

Yes, get that passport application in ASAP!!!!

Changing names isn't difficult or long-winded. THIS might help.

BUT, how might your grandson feel about the name change when he's older? Fair enough at the moment it seems his dad wants nothing to do with him but that may well change - especially when he realises he's legally liable for maintenance even if he never sees his child. There were plenty of times when DS1 was growing up and his dad was being a t!t that he wanted to be known only by my family name but at the moment he uses his fathers. Things can change. The worry would be that the change of name makes him feel that his father was actively trying to get rid of any connection to him - which might do long term damage. I would hold off on that.

jumpingjackd

Good point Daska, I hadnt thought of that. Thanks for the link.