Homelessness at 34 weeks pregnant?

Suspiria

Gillyx wrote: »

Contraception is not 100% I was using it and it failed, I got the morning after pill and I still became pregnant.

Those preaching about how contraception has always worked for them are lucky, if a contraceptive is 99.9% effective, there will always be that 0.01% who are unlucky.

Thankfully I'm glad it didn't work

Going on the amount of unplanned pregnancies on this forum alone,i would say it has all, if not MORE of the 0.01% unplanned pregnancies posted about on here!:eek:

FBaby

puddy wrote: »

i think that one of the major problems these days, i see it with children i work with and my step kids is that there is little preparation for independence.

I totally agree that I think this is at the centre of many issues facing young people in this country. I come from another country and even though I've lived here for over 15 years, I still find it difficult to adjust to how overprotected children are in this country, not just physically, but mentally and psychologically.

Kids are sheltered from having to make any kind of decision of their own, face any risks, and are expected to be disciplined, but not self-disciplined, yet the minute they turn 18, they are considered adults and expected to act as such...

Surely it makes more sense to encourage kids to be independent as early as possible, but be there for them when they make mistakes along the way.

I raise my kids to be self-disciplined and responsible to what they are capable of, but if they face hard times at 18, 20, or ever 25, I will be there to guide them back into the right path, or offer my arms and home if they need some short-term comfort.

Humphrey10

meg72 wrote: »

an accidental pregnancy does happen.

Ending up with an 'accidental' baby is impossible. It's 100% down to choice.

First you have to choose to have sex, then either you have to not use contraception or your contraception has to fail, then you have to choose not to take the morning after pill, then you have to choose not to have an abortion, then you have to choose not to get the baby adopted.

We are talking about a penniless, unemployed, homeless 18 year old without any qualifications who has chosen to have a baby. It's 100% her choice, 100% her fault. Given this, her attitude is terrible.

Yes she should be supported - for the sake of the baby. But supported to find employment, not supported so she can sit on her rear end popping out illegitimate children.

Gillyx

Suspiria wrote: »

Going on the amount of unplanned pregnancies on this forum alone,i would say it has all, if not MORE of the 0.01% unplanned pregnancies posted about on here!:eek:

Comes down to correct use aswell I suppose so the odds will go up. I do know of someone who got pregnant on the implant though :eek:

Person_one

Suspiria wrote: »

Going on the amount of unplanned pregnancies on this forum alone,i would say it has all, if not MORE of the 0.01% unplanned pregnancies posted about on here!:eek:

Not even the implant has a failure rate as good as 0.01%!

Think about how many women of childbearing age there are in the UK. 1% of them getting pregnant is a lot of pregnancies, and 1% is a pretty optimistic estimate!

Suspiria

FatVonD wrote: »

If one were to believe every !!!!less teenager that said 'the condom split' one could be forgiven for thinking the failure rate was more like 99% though.

Exactly! They think having a baby will make their life easier, get a free house etc and a real life baby to dress up. They only realise how hard having a baby is once its born! But then some go on to have more by various fathers. Its the children i feel sorry for.

Person_one

euronorris wrote: »

Person One - There is no table in your post, or link. Could you try again please?

I've added the link now, apologies for the absent mindedness!

puddy

euronorris wrote: »

The only reason I can think of is affordability. I have no idea if it's still affordable to the OP and her bf or not, but his travelling costs will definitely increase.

And for that, I suggest that the OP looks for evening work once the baby has arrived. That way, there is extra income coming in, and none being expended on childcare still.

i doubt travel costs will go up that much, this is in london, so a travel card will only increase by a small amount either going across london or out of london. im going to make an assumption that he already works in central london or that he works in zone 2 or further out and they are not being placed in central london, therefore minimal extra costs. what takes time is train connections and bus connections. when i worked in croydon, because i was coming round from bromley, a journey which took me half hour once i got a car, used to take over 1.5 hours but it was as short distance away

ognum

Suspiria wrote: »

Exactly! They think having a baby will make their life easier, get a free house etc and a real life baby to dress up. They only realise how hard having a baby is once its born! But then some go on to have more by various fathers. Its the children i feel sorry for.

How exactly do you know what other people think!!

puddy

Humphrey10 wrote: »

Ending up with an 'accidental' baby is impossible. It's 100% down to choice.

First you have to choose to have sex, then either you have to not use contraception or your contraception has to fail, then you have to choose not to take the morning after pill, then you have to choose not to have an abortion, then you have to choose not to get the baby adopted.

We are talking about a penniless, unemployed, homeless 18 year old without any qualifications who has chosen to have a baby. It's 100% her choice, 100% her fault. Given this, her attitude is terrible.

Yes she should be supported - for the sake of the baby. But supported to find employment, not supported so she can sit on her rear end popping out illegitimate children.

to be fair, you could get pregnant by accident and not realise until its too late to have a termination, it does happen, but i agree, its choice to either not use contraception or to continue with an accidental pregnancy